How Many Dates Before the First Sexual Encounter?

And how many women want to be a conquest?? Can I get a show of hands? Anyone??

 

NONE! But I'm speaking of the guy you make wait and he still smashes and dashes. Just proving that making him wait in no way protects you from any sort of fuckery. Whatever the man happens to be at his core, is what he's gonna be...wait or no wait.

 

Well, that's certainly encouraging...:smt090

 

This! I learned a long time ago that holding out has no bearing on the end result of a relationship. I don't need to be in love with a guy to sleep with him. If we like each other, and there's a spark...I'm down. I don't feel badly afterwards, because we both knew going in what it was. If it grows to be more than sex, that's fine. If not...that's ok too. Women have strong sex drives, just as men do, so why is it frowned upon for us to act on those urges? Sometimes sex is just sex.

 

Exactly. Just be safe and its all good

 

I'm just not emotionally built that way. :smt102

 

You might not be but you should make sure your man isn't as well. I see that a lot in break ups, one person saw love and the other just wanted lust.

 

Why? Do you think its going to keep someone from loving you? Let me tell you my giel could have been a stripper before we met and I could care less.Real connections are beyond sex but its really important to remember men dont operate the way women think they themselves have to operate. No one is keeping tally anymore. Word of advice never ever twll him how many people you been with. It never ends well lol

 

"Church, preach!"

 

Your example is a separate situation not relating to my point. You speak of women who actually fuck on the first night just because they're attracted to him (which I don't). It takes a hell of a lot more criteria for me to fuck a man! Any guy not meeting that high level of interest from me will know pretty quick I'm not into him or plan to give it up, so he wont ever be left confused about the sex part either.

My point's bottom line is if I DO decide to have sex with a date, it's going to happen if I really adore him, but he will still have to wait. That he should in turn take my not wanting to quickly fuck him means I like him A LOT. If I were to fuck him on the first night, it tells him that it doesn't take much to fuck me or me to fuck someone! I'm not like that and I don't want a man like that, either. I want a man to take his time to decide if he wants to share his body with me. Impulsively acting on your desires is a whole animal that is wrought with many consequences.

 

Most women I know aren't either. My friends tell me my brain is hard-wired like a mans when it comes to sex...so I know, and am completely comfortable in the fact that, I'm not the norm lol. :wink:

 

People are so afraid to just "be"...it's crazy.

 

That means you must be oncredible in bed ;-)
Real talk I think mpre womsn are adopting that mindset since marriage isnt the security blanket it once was. Women can take care of themselves so all they need us for is dick lol

 

Amen sir

 

Then so be it if that is how you think many men view women.
In my world however, conquests don't come cheap.

 

NO, NO, NO, NO!!!! How can YOU determine what it tells HIM. Like I said in another post, I slept with my ex on the first night, and it turned into a 3+ year relationship. Now your personal choice is just your choice. You're more than entitled to it. But you don't know how a man will or will not view a woman after sex on the first night.

 

And how does one do that, exactly???

 

Am I not fucking him on the first night? That's a fact, yes? So that tells him it doesn't take much to fuck me the first night.

 

Because sex isn't a recreational sport to me. That's not to say I haven't violated my own personal code. I have. But it doesn't sit well. For me, sex holds value, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.

 

Does that make you feel powerful?