Finding the Right Career Path

Discussion in 'Getting Ahead: Careers, Finance and Productivity' started by Tamstrong, Oct 8, 2012.

  1. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I lost my job almost a month ago, and I have yet to find another one.

    Although I'm going crazy not working and knowing my severance pay will only get me by for a short time, I'm not at all upset about not working there any more. I feel a huge sense of relief being away from that nightmare situation and all of the stress that came with it. Of course, I was hoping it would work out where I'd found another job and was able to quit, but I'm thankful that I don't have to deal with the idiot owner any longer. I'm kind of mad at myself for not leaving that hell hole a long time ago.

    I've put out resumes and submitted applications, but as far as what I've been doing for a living for the last 15 years, no one is hiring. Most of the c-stores around here are Korean & Indian owned, and they manage the stores themselves (which is what my ex-boss decided to do so he didn't have to pay anyone else to do it any more); they also typically staff their stores with family members.

    I don't know if it's the burnout talking, but I honestly have zero desire to manage convenience stores again. I'm good at it, but I've come to hate it. The problem is I don't know what the hell I want to do (other than writing), and I'm at a point where I can't even bear the thought of wasting my time away in another job I hate. I just don't know what to do with myself at this point.

    Any suggestions on how to go about figuring this shit out? Serious replies only, please.
     
  2. wtarshi

    wtarshi Well-Known Member

    i know how you feel. once my kids were at school i didn't know if i should do what i've always done (secretarial) or look into the alternative field which has always had my interest. 3 years later i've realised that i could go on in a job that i wasn't passionate about and looked at going back to school (like i am now). have you got any experience in writing? maybe look at a position blogging somewhere? it's a start. are you wanting to do creative or journalist? you're never too old to go back to school ;)
     
  3. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    What color is my parachute? Good book.

    Maybe go back to school and learn a new trade
     
  4. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I know to survive I'll have to take whatever at this point, but it's like I'm so mentally exhausted I don't feel very passionate about much of anything these days. I feel like I lost some of my mojo, so I'm working on getting it back. I haven't felt like myself for a while now. I do feel a million times better since I lost my job. People have also been commenting on how much better/happier I look now, too. The toxic environment was kicking my ass.

    I've been writing most of my life, but I haven't had much published. After my son came along my focus was on taking care of him, and as a single mom I didn't have the time or energy to put any real focus on my writing. I have been looking into the blogging option. A friend sent me the info to a place to find blogs looking for writers; I agree, it is a start. I actually want to do both. The only type I don't want (or enjoy doing) is technical writing.

    I would like to go back to school, but I don't qualify for any of Texas' programs because I have no interest in the choices they're offering. I looked into holistic medicine/natural healing about three years ago, but I didn't qualify for financial aid and I wasn't going to take out any loans to do it. I'll just have to put school off for a bit longer, especially since I don't know exactly what I want to do when I grow up.

    My first priority is getting a regular paycheck coming in again, so my bills are paid. I have no plans on taking on the type of position where I have no time for a life again, because I want to focus on myself for a change.

    Thanks for the great suggestions and for the inspiration to go for it. :D
     
  5. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Thanks, DK. Sounds like a worthwhile read.
     
  6. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    I am getting out of the teaching profession in a few years. I am starting dental hygiene school. It is a high demand field and the pay is AWESOME.
     
  7. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Really? Why are you going to leave teaching? Wouldn't it be just as lucrative to garner tenure?
     
  8. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    I have tenure, in MA you get it after 10 years(pension vestment that is) Professional tenure is after 3. By the time I finish the dental hygiene program I will have been teaching 23 years and that is enough time in one career.

    Teaching is not a job that one can do half ass. I am not at the burn out point YET, but think that I could be in a few years. I am a firm believer that teachers who are burned out need to be done. The next generation is too important to not get the best. :)

    I will probably continue to teach the adult ESL at night as that is AMAZING.

    BTW 50% of all teachers in the US leave the profession after 5 years or less.
     
  9. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    Try a hotel, pay aint great but you meet a variety of interesting people and it can be very fun at times....during busy seasons it can become very aggravating.
     
  10. wtarshi

    wtarshi Well-Known Member

    lol way to sell it northy...!!!
     
  11. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    LMAO...makes me want a job in that industry for SURE...:smt043:smt043:smt043
     
  12. curleyblonde

    curleyblonde New Member

    I hope you find your way soon Tamstrong, I am in a rutt too at the moment, I need to get out of my industry big time, I have lost the passion for the business. I want more out of life and I guess I just want to be able to wake up each day and want to go to work. It isn't the fact it is work it is the type of job I have...

    I think what Alectrona mentioned would be a geat start for you, if you enjoy writing bloging could be a first step for you.
     
  13. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    Wow tam. On the one hand so glad you don't have to work for that jackass any longer but then on to the next issue and that is job hunting. It can be hard to put yourself on the line and go through all the interviews. There are lots of little tutorials I think it was on Monster.com. Also read saty's post about making your resume shine. One thing I think is interesting is looking on glassdoor.com. It kind of gives a peek at working at different places. One that might be a good or bad peek.

    I think if you can get an interim job it might alleviate that stress and then you can focus on the future. It would be too much to look for an immediate job and the future all in one time period. A friend of mine lost her job........she was something like a dental assistant but with a gear towards making orthodontic appliances. She got fired twice in a row. In this job market I guess it's easy to do. She went into a community college to ask about something on a lark ........signed up for classes, took one semester and was offered a job in the oil and gas industry before she finished.
     
  14. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Subsititute teaching is good interim job...but stick to elementary kids..the older ones are harder.
     
  15. justmel

    justmel New Member

    Can I suggest looking up rat race rebellion..they are real home jobs..it might be enough to get you going until you get something else, I did it before I landed this job and it was a paycheck..its a great time since everyone is hiring at least seasonally.

    Also check out
    http:cloud10.com

    If you apply there let me know , I know the people that pull the applications to at least get an interview to work with them and don't mind using my connections.

    I also think this is a great time to learn about jobs you didn't even know existed, most of us have to work, should do something you love and are good at.
     
  16. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I have applied at a couple of the local hotels, but it's not something that interests me long term.


    Thank, Curley. I hope the same for you. Being in a rut sucks, and it's miserable when you dread going to your job. My job was making me sick. All of the stress took it's toll on my mind and body, and I feel like I'm on the mend right now and feel better with each passing day. When the passion and joy is gone, it's a good time to move on to something else.

    I do like the blogging idea, and at some point I'd like to start my own blog.



    Not working for that jackass is a huge blessing. As far as resumes go for the type of work I've been doing, I'm all set. Figuring out how to go about it when I want to do something different when much of my experience doesn't apply to other jobs. Glassdoor sounds interesting, so I'll check it out.

    I agree that it'd be too much to try to look for now & the future all at once. I need to be patient and take my time, which isn't always easy for me. I plan on keeping my eyes and mind open to different possibilities to see what piques my interest. I know I can have something that pays the bills now doesn't mean I'll be stuck there when it comes to my future, but I forgot it somewhere along the way.


    I recently got myself on the substitute teacher list, and I did specify elementary and intermediate schools. I don't have the patience to deal with middle and high school kids...teenagers are a pain in the ass.


    Thanks for the suggestions & offer, Mel. Like I said to JC, I'm open to learning & trying new things to see if I can find something I can love and be good at.
     
  17. justmel

    justmel New Member

    Duh, I have a career counseling class that I have tons of free resources from, to see what you might enjoy..if you are interested please send me an email and Ill send you the links..good luck praying for your success!
     
  18. satyr

    satyr New Member

    Build up your network, talk to everybody even people with bad breath about local career opportunities. Employers look at your experience as a track, so if you want to break out of what you were doing it will require the adoption of a different skill set. This doesn't presuppose formal education but prepare yourself to learn some new things to make yourself a more attractive candidate.
     
  19. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Excellent advice, Saty. Thank you. This should all be common sense for me, but I've been in this rut for so long my brain is frazzled and doesn't function as well as it used to. lol

    Stress of being unemplyed aside, I am excited about learning and doing something different.
     
  20. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    Tam, I think this is the time to take and actually catch your breath and not put so much pressure on yourself, cause with that hell hole of a job, you really never had a chance to focus on you and your wants and needs. You were relied on so heavily that you got lost in that jackass and his business. I know the bills have to be paid, but with this time off, you can write down the career paths that interest you. With each field, you can write down things - like your experience in said fields and what attributes you can bring to each one. Then maybe you can write down the pros and cons of those careers and what you're willing to do to sacrifice to do them, and how much you're really interested in them. This will help narrow down and maybe put things into better perspective and that'll help give you a better idea of how to proceed.
     

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