many African mothers are not happy if their sons marries European girls and a lot of white fathers get angry if their daughters datin with black men.
My grandma would prefer if I dated/married someone black but ultimately if they make me happy and treat me right. My grandmother LOVED my ex gf actually. I think the women in my family at this point just want to see me have some kids soon lol.
I've been bringing white girls home since I was 14. At this point they'd be more shocked if I brought a black chick home lol
My parents couldn't care less. They wouldn't even care if I brought home another woman, so bringing home a guy who happens to be black is of no concern or shock to them.
My mother initially wanted me to date black, she finally accepted that it is what it is. I'd still date black women if the connection was there, and I always tell her to introduce me to a nice BW... she just hasn't done so yet.
my dad is still troubled by my tastes I think, but mom is okay with it. Had one or two black moms disapprove of the 'white girlfriend' in the past.
Yeah, that is about what it has always been for me, too, over about 30 some-odd years. My parents, my relatives, my close friends: they all know damn well what my preference is and always has been.
My parents never really "taught" me racism, but when I was in high school I asked them (as a test)..."what if I dated a black guy, or married a black guy?" Their answer was that it would be okay if he was a "good Christian man", BUT that it would be "hard for the children". My first thought was "why?" and my internal answer was: "Because people like YOU make it difficult". My father teaches a lot of kids from a lot of races, but he particularly wanted to "help" the young black guys without father figures - why? Because he doesn't have one. It is noble, but I ask him "what makes you think YOU are the Great White Hope" - and I think he is trying too hard out of white guilt for being from the South. That being said, they did welcome my boyfriend into their home on numerous family holidays and treated him like one of the family. My dad eventually grew to like him and started talking to him as a peer, not "my daughter's black boyfriend". They knew he genuinely cared for me, and that meant more to them than anything. I think it's a competition though, as my dad perceives it - because my BF did more for me than HE did, so now it's a game in one-upmanship almost. It's almost like he knew I viewed my BF as a father-type figure (who was only 15 yrs younger than him and 12 yrs older than me) and he's jealous. Now that I have dated other black men besides him for several years now, and expressed my preference to my mother, they are combing the hillsides looking for a "good Christian black man" to set me up with. I think it's kind of sweet in a way.
not really...sometimes mothers don't want their kids to date too far from home so they can move back eventually. It applies to people from a different ethnicity too, but the reality is we have a globalized world.
My father is a quiet racist, meaning I never heard anything directly stated against black people but he said he was "glad his girls didn't date black men" the excuse is always how hard it would be on mixed kids. I know this is a stupid excuse. We are not particularly close so if he doesn't approve and I fall in love, then He will get over it or learn to deal with it.
My parents used to stereotype black men my sister and I dated as drug dealers, thugs, gangters, trouble makers...thanks to my sister who actually DID date a thug/drug dealer and treated her like crap. So, they categorized all black men for a long time and preferred we dated white boys. My sister ended up marrying a different black man that was a jerk...then got a divorce due to his infedility with many different women. Now she's married to a hispanic man and they actually like him...she also tends to walk all over him so they like that even more. But, to each his or her own. My parents would be shocked if I brought a white man home. I have been singled out mostly as the black sheep of the family (guess the pun fits) because all of my children are bi-racial. It's quite unfortunate, but I have become a better person by being the outcast. I am definitely stronger because of it.
^^^^^^It's sad that we get that reputation as being drug dealers, thugs, gangters, trouble makers. Hopefully, it'll get better one day with positive exposure. Hispanic guys, believe it or not, take just as much racial backlash as black guys do.
I think we have the media to blame for a lot of that stereotyping. Especially with the advent of reality TV law enforcement shows.
Ciao cara, my mother doesn't really care because she raised me so that I would love people of any color. My dad.... he never was so important in my life to influence my relationships. When I got with my first black guy (my first boyfriend also) I had much more judgement from my schoolfriends.
