Sexual Chemistry or Intellectual/Emotional Compatibility?

I just meant that it's very difficult to find all of the things sin described in one person or relationship and it's even more difficult to keep all of those plates spinning for very long . Even when I'm putting in maximum effort, my partner usually isn't and after a while I can't help but wonder what else is out there that might be more fulfilling. That thought inevitably leads me to worry that they are wondering the same thing and maybe that's why they aren't giving me 100%

 

In this part of our world, rugged construction workers are not the sharpest tools in the shed and therefore there is no way the woman connected with him intellectually. Now i wonder why a woman would marry an erudite man if she doesnt connect with him intellectually? The premise of my thread is love is not an exact science where you choose option A and leave option B. There must be some form of mutual physical attraction to attract 2 people so i dont see how one can choose a partner solely on intellectual abilities.

 

I think that's why the OP said intellectual/emotional. No one thing alone does it. For me, if I have the intellectual and emotional connection, that will lead to a meaningful sexual connection. But I have to have both and typically, I look to be stimulated intellectually first.

 

I think we always wonder what else is out there but I think if you are with the right person it stops at wondering. Kind of like going to a good college, I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to go to Syracuse but where I went was a better fit for me. Yeah Syracuse is more well know and attractive to a wider pool of people but Uconn was a better for me and made me really happy. So why leave certain happiness for possible happiness. I hope I made sense here, haven't slept yet lol.

 

Usually people blame the person being cheated on. And that is where it fails.

It is she that has some shortcoming not him. She would likely cheat on anyone, even highly educated or well off financially, for little reason other than she has insecurities and needs what that affair brings to her self esteem.

 

:smt023

 

I would like to have both an E/I connection along with a robust physical/sexual attraction in my partner.

 

fuck this tired, overdone subject












...a healthy combination of both

 

Not so fast. We still have another 80 pages to cover regarding the topic.

 

Of COURSE we all want both, but given that we're being requested to make a choice between one of the two.... and EVERYBODY is going to say Intellectual / Emotional, I'll go ahead and keep it real and say sexual.

Sure, the relationship won't last anyway... may as well have fun while it does.

 

Fuck settling for one or the other, I'm getting both.

 

Ditto lovely

 

You're getting what I say you get.

 

You can say that only cause you're so damned pretty, and shit

 

How about key lime pie instead?

 

Still no.

 

Warranted

 

Merci