Is being possessive in a black mans 'nature'?

Maybe an edit to my earlier post is in order. Jordan has been here much longer than either of us and, from what I gather, is well-liked by me and others. I don't appreciate your comments about her. I have a lot of respect for her. You have read too few of her posts if you've come to those conclusions.

 

Hm.

 

Thank you! I appreciate your understanding! Its frustrating how defensive people can get over a QUESTION. Of course I knew my own opinion on this matter... I don't think genetics would have anything to do with something psychological like jealousy. I think it's all in up bringing, life experience, astrological sign (maybe??), and your overall morale as a person.

At the same time I was also told as a kid that it was in my 'blood' to be a certain way about some things. I don't think it's unfathomable that households under similar conditions would develop a common way of thinking and behaving... maybe not it regards to possessiveness but definitely regarding many things. I consider him to be very intelligent, successful and wise but he definitely has this 'my niggas' way of thinking.... and lets not pretend like he's the only one.

I want to ask a question and not walk eggshells around the politically correct way of phrasing it.

 

None of the three people who including myself were referring to you or about you with those posts. You don't own this thread or this spot on the internet, so why interject yourself into every post when it doesn't have to do with you?

You have issues one wanting everything to be "about you", your junkyard dog mentality to get lowlife in every situation and the biggest is that EVERY THREAD you make has to do with an unappealing stereotype about black men. Unless you are stupid how can you only want to highlight the bad things about black men? That alone makes me think over and over you are a troll who is here to make naive, while you are at it put black men down at every turn. :smt069

You never let me down you always come through on the make a thread about stereotypes.

 

...Maybe so. Although I'm not a TROLL I don't have any emotional investment in this forum what so ever. This person lurks all my posts and talks shit (without actually giving an argument or opinion), posted personal information she researched about me in the past, and seems to enjoy this undeserving sort of respect for having been a member of this site since the beginning of time.

Nope. No respect here.

 

I didn't research anything about you. Northside did and after he posted it I went and looked at it after he posted it. And yeah. You are ummm quite interesting.

 

A credible retort can only be administered when a credible source is provided. Your ignorance ignorant hypothesis is not credible.
Show us the proof "many" do it for that "reason" please?

Speak for yourself and why YOU do it, but don't speak for the many Black men who choose to date WW. Contrary to your self-depreciating fallacy, most Black men are confident in their desirability, and "proving it" to anyone is a non-factor in they're psyche, their behavior and their choices.

 

I'm not here to get into a battle of words, but in terms of proof, there's much literature out other on the subject matter, if you're truly interested. Though, It's a taboo subject people don't often discuss.

The issue I'm referring to goes all the way back to slavery Bliss, when slave master's raped black women and purposely favored their offspring to cause division among dark slaves and lighter colored/hued slaves. There's a deep psychosis there,a painful one, one that creates the likes of Michael Jackson,and cause many to see lighter skinned women ( or white) as more beautiful than dark skinned women. The psychosis crosses over into hair textures and noses, and the likes. This is fact, whether you chose to believe it or acknowledge it. To bring it back to mean and insecurity, this psychosis that exist and that is passed down to each generation subconciously or conciously crosses over into self esteem as well. it's not a huge jump, when you're a part of the underclass in America. it's no secret Black Americans represent a disproportionate percent of the prison population vs. college graduates. When all the images you see on the tele are negative, and when you don't see the majority of your own struggling, some people develop these insecurities within themselves, and about themselves and their culture. Not all, but some, and I would say many, based on my own personal experience with the matter.

I've travelled all over the world, and have worked in about 20 countries over 13 years. In terms of sexual politics,a nd advertising space, white women are on the top of the heap. That's a fact in terms of billboards and advertising dollars. That's who you see on the cover of vogue almost exclusively,and also TV. That's why people in Asian and Africa by skin lightening creams and so on,a nd these insecurities and psychological issues develop. AgaIN, there's literature out there if you're truly interested on the subject matter

As for myself, I don't have that issue, i still date black women, Asian women and etc. My last Gf was an African women from Sierra Leone. I find all women beautiful,Though personally for me, there is something aestcically pleasing about white and black to me, including opposite gender composition.

I'm not here to fight, but I want my say without derisiveness, diatribe, and ad hominem attacks. It isn't called for, even when one disagrees. It prevents intellectual debate,and we all lose. my 2 cents.

Forgive the grammar and spelling. I'm multi tasking here and trying hit a deadline.

 

Some men are super possessive, and jealous. Race really has nothing to do with it.

 

Says "he who is perpetually late and thinks is no big deal meanwhile everyone likes him a little less every time he does it for disrespecting them and assuming his time is somehow more valuable than theirs".

And that's not a black male stereotype at all either.

 

This chick right here lol. When did we start hanging out?

 

And with this, the thread was ended.

 

obviously you don't.

 

amen.

 

I'm glad you find me interesting. Can't say the same about you.. at all.

I know that your last shit talking episode was not targeted at me specifically but I ignored the first dumb thing you said on this thread so I couldn't let the next one slide. Didn't you say you ignored my posts last time you polluted one of my threads with your jargon? Leave. me. alone.

Again, you're a pest.

Answer the thread with something real or go onto the next one and give your perspective on white women feet or what is bugging you on that given day.

Snoo0oze.

 

Nerd.

When I first came here everyone called me a 'troll' and I had no idea what that meant. I looked it up on various sources and it seems like it ought to be used in a malicious context. That's not me. Promise.

And even if I WAS a troll... why not just skip the tread and go on with your fucking life? It's really not that big deal or a threat... if the haters on this forum got of the internet once in a while they'd realize that. Besides, the people that want to stray from the thread subject and personally attack posters seem a lot more trollish to me.

PS. Just because you've been a member on this website for a long period of time does NOT mean you are who you say that you are.

 

Now this I ACTUALLY agree with 100%

All this back and forth internet fighting is silly in my opinion. When someone rubs me the wring way I simply ignore them.

Big difference between debating and personal attacks.

 

He simply does not sound like a good guy and people here want you to be safe and happy.

 

Despite the small grammar errors you made, this (IMO) is the best post of the year.

While you've made valid and excellent points, everyone here (or at least my generation) will also have to deal with the reality that there many factors and changes happening in American society that supersede what you've expressed in your explanation. Basically, what I mean is that "we can't pick and choose" who we would like to date anymore. That's why I believe dating a certain race of women (exclusively) is a concept that doesn't work because of the complications of the times that we live in today. A fair share of college graduates in my generation lack access to jobs, major in "soft degrees" and have too much in-debtness. This problem obviously would affect the ability for relationships (generally) to be fostered. It is harder and more difficult for our generation to form relationships, and to allow historical problems/perceptions and prejudice from others to still marginalize who you could date based on your skin complexion just lessens the likelihood of relationships of any kind forming. Even with the ones that form anyway, there's a greater likelihood of cohabilitation instead of marriage anyway. Even back in 2000, society was moving towards that direction. Things that have happened in recent years have just accelerated that trend.

 

It's still fucked up to generalize that if a BM pursues a relationship with a WW, it's because he has unresolved issues of self worth.

That's stupid.

That's about on par as saying WW who date BM have low self-esteem.

How are you big upping him that post, Mikey???