If you had a mixed-race child......

.....and he or she dated/settled down with your partners race (MR daughter married a white man or MR son married a black woman). Would you feel slightly aggrieved?

As a BM, would you....rather him/her to marry a fellow black person?
As a WW, would you....rather him/her to marry a fellow white person?

What if they said they didn't find BM or WW attractive. Wouldn't that sting?


Perhaps, you would rather they stayed mixed and married a fellow mixed-race person.

 

what a peculiar thread. as a parent of a child, you only want what is best for them and what makes them happy. the colour of their skin, race or sexuality should not be a factor in this

 

I wouldn't care the race or ethnicity of the person my child married. It is their choice to marry whom makes them happy. I wouldn't value a SIL/DIL any more or any less based on their race.


I would hope that they could find people of all races attractive. But if they chose not to date someone or to date someone based on race that is completely their choice. I might would try and talk to them to see if they have developed an issue with that race or not although don't know exactly what I would do if they did other than give advice. But I would hope their preference has nothing to do with their non preference.

With 4 mixed children I feel like prob atleast 1 will marry white and one will marry black and then maybe some other race/ethinc groups too.
My kids are little but at this point they like girls and boys of all races. My daughter first chilhood bf was black, then hispanic and now white. My son had a black gf and now a white one. My white son has had black, mixed, and white girlfriends but I think his prefrence is white. My white daughter has had black, mixed, hispanic, and white bf. I don't know her prefrence.

 

Character is what I'm evaluating. Phenotypes do not matter.

 

I agree.

 

Agreed.

Why would I care what colour person my kids end up with?? How does that even matter?

 

That is true, but I knew a Nigerian man who is married to a French woman, and he didn't want his daughter (9 at the time) to marry a white man.

You would be surprised by the amount of people who have mixed children, but still would rather said child to marry a particular race. Not just a black/white issue. Happens within Asian/white unions aswell.

Some only want their mixed child to marry white in order to have fairer grandchildren. Strange, but it happens.

So, I was just curious on everyones take on it . I notice only women have replied so far.

 

I've meet some people like that to but IMO white women inparticular in the US are the most unlikely of all to feel this way. I've meet black men who take issues with their mixed daughters marrying white men. I do recall seeing a white woman online that admitted she would have a problem if her mixed children married white people. I think those stories or just sad.

 

Last time nebula checked...........he's a guy. Nebs, check again. :smt043

I think almost everyone has said the same though. Doesn't matter as long as they treat them well.

 

So often on here, I see posters talking about how their families were against them dating outside their race or posters sharing experiences they had with someone (who had a family that wanted them to stay in their own race). If so many struggle like that, why would we do the same to our children [or in some of our cases... potential children, lol].

Like Tammy said, if they're happy that's what matters.

 

I am a guy and I am saying the same thing. It doesn't matter to me as long as they are treated well.

 

There you have it. The power of two. Thank you almost.

 

This. I'd be happy with whomever they are with.

 

I did say "so far".

 

***Nothing else need be said lol

 

I couldn't care less. As long as my son is happy, healthy and successful, I'm happy. His life is his to live. I just want to be there to help when needed.

 

My response goes with the majority response. Both my wife and I don't care what race either of own children would prefer to date or marry just as long as they are good people overall and make them happy.

 

wouldnt care, but sadly there are parents out there with mixed race kids who do want them to date a certain race, which is very sad imo

 

I wouldn't care who they married/dated. Not based on race or gender anyway.