Is it just me or a lot of women missing?

Oh, I don't even really use an instant messenger often. I use skype but I rarely log on there and I haven't purchased a webcam.

 

LOL it's alright x)

Anywho, I'm glad this whole argument is over..HOPEFULLY!! Now we can go back to the original topic, which is the title of this thread....and hopefully all of us can get along and be friends with one another...RIGHT?! I mean hey, I'm only trying to do good.

 

:smt103 Your comprehension skills are just too minimal. Sorry that you're incapable of understanding (as you're so good at misunderstanding posts as usual), which would be a detriment to you doing cyber security in the first place.

But, it's okay. I don't hate you at all. But you do need to exercise proper comprehension skills before you jump to another topic.

Besides, don't mistake me for one of your "friends."

 

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Okkkaaaayyyy....since that I managed to end this thing (sorta...), let's lighten things up with a good 80's tune. (I hope y'all like MJ lol)

 

Not bring up old dead issues that you think other people are mad at you about when they are not? That's a start and also prevents further drama. Just a suggestion.

 

In steps ol daddy Ra with some guidance and bloody common sense

 

Reading this last page's certain exchanges is like entering the Twilight Zone.


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Anyways....Well look at you, Miss Libra!

ps: I see you two have finally 'met'...

 

Totally agree. I'm even posting less and its not because I have anything against anyone in fact I really do like the forum because its an outlet to talk about certain subject matter I wouldn't go into depth with a lot of my friends. For example the Treyvon Martin case, for some reason its not part of polite conversation between blacks and white.
I also met someone I really like to spend my time with so that means less posting not to mention there only being one month left in the semester. So I agree life takes over. I still don't get how it boils down to the misconduct of men on here. If you don't like certain members that's the entire purpose of the ignore function just use it and quit crying. Also the misogny claim is way off in my opinion. The men on this forum more or less seem to hold women especially white women in the highest regards. Sure some of us might have different views on how we'd want individual women in our lives to behave but its not like any of the men have a doctrine that they try to force down anyone's throat. Too many of us take this forum shit way too seriously. Some of us will butt heads but it shouldn't wound so many of us so deeply and personally I think that's an issue a lot of the women have to contend with since I see more them getting so personally upset. I don't want to make this a gender debate but staying within the context of the thread I think it needs to be said.

 

this shit looks like some reality TV drama

it's like looking into the relationship of the same 8 people


:smt081

 

What else is new lol

 

just sayin

this shit gets overly drawn-out like a season of MTV real world

if you want to go, go

if you want to stay, stay

:smt089

 

Basically.

 

I somewhat disagree with the premise that once you find a S/O you bounce. It's akin to saying that married or involved people don't post or belong to online forums.
I've belonged to a politics forum for 9 years and 99% of us are either married or involved. We've been there through the pregnancies, illnesses, weddings, divorces, job losses/gains - it has even sparked one marriage between members who still post. The driving force for participation is we share a common interest in politics (and local sports).

On WWBM, while it has its Personals, to me it's a place to congregate with essentially like-minded people - as in, we are all pretty much on each other's side because of the love we share for one another. I think if you are in an IR, this is in fact the perfect place to assimilate because it offers insights your relationship can benefit from and which you can also advise on.

I think the "singles only chill here/I'm busy" also dismisses the effect some members have on others. There are some pretty dynamic people from all walks of life relating on this board, which in turn I think keeps members engaged and regularly returning whether they are single or involved.

 

very correct, Bliss- just because you have a relationship, doesn't mean that you forget all other around you. Maybe you post less, take a break or post differently (not flirting/special requests), but leaving would mean that you were never able to make friendships. We talk together, share our experiences and of course after a certain time you like certain people and feel them (otherwise the person has a problem to be social and nobody means anything to you). To be busy is similiar, all is a question of priorities, how and with who do I want to share my free time with

 

I don't think it necessarily means you make a conscious choice to stop posting but I do think you have less time. Dating is very time consuming. Just having this girl I really like spend the night took up a ton of my time. Making the apartment more female friendly and then actually hanging out took up 36 hours of my time. So I imagine thats how things happen especially at the beginning. As more time passes on and you learn each other I'm sure it changes as we've seen with the married posters who post often.

 

You know what - perhaps some men might be becoming a tad offended/hurt by the finger-pointing even if they are not guilty of the behavior suggested in here. Probably too, if it was a reversal of genders it might have us women either introspecting or feeling unjustly blamed.

I think because of the sensitive nature of gender and race in society, it might behoove us all if we allow for certain misunderstandings or POV's, because sometime we forget that this is an INTERNATIONAL board, and not a USA board. Members desiring to explore and understand gender and/or cultural differences are possibly given the message of don't even try - because you will be labeled, patronized, dismissed, and/or ridiculed.
What I think we need to be more mindful of when disagreeing, debating or discussing is that others are watching, absorbing and become affected even though they might not verbalize it in the thread. It's not as if employing decorum and civility in debates is to our detriment. If anything it gives us an opportunity to better collect our thought rather than spout off the cuff which can lead to offensiveness. Will we always be civil?, heck no, but I think employing the good old "agree to disagree" works. (but you can't of course say a whole bunch of shit and then pull the A/T/D line at the end. )
As in all worthwhile "relationships", misunderstandings and arguments are to be expected but it's if and how we resolve them that's key.

What I do love about this board though is its vastness with its broad sub-sections where you can pretty much peruse and participate in those that appeal to you most and miss all the drama if you want.

 

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Thanks for being fair.

 

I'll say this...if it was a matter of just the things you outlined, why is it that when this thread popped up, women we hardly hear from or haven't heard from in ages, began posting. Not like they got an APB in their emails from Webbie to come look. The OP asked why does it seem like women are missing (aka not posting), and this thread proves it's not so much that they're involved/busy, as it is the recent TONE of the board.

 

The only person who I noticed (I know you'll correct me if I'm wrong lol) that did that was LS and the reasons she listed while understandable given what she went through to me isn't accurate.
Tarshi also alluded to a sense of woman bashing on here and that to me seems as far from true as possible. The men on here adore women, some may not always get along with female posters but by the majority of their posts you can tell they do love women. I don't see or recognize any type gender specific bashing on here. Maybe individual bashing at times but I do notice that when a male is having a "fight" with one of the females it becomes this group sanctioned idea that its a slight against all the female posters. I think there isn't as much flirting and sexual enuendos as there has been in the past and that coupled with repetitive thread topics can make others feel bored. This is all speculation of course.
And as of late I really don't see that on here, but like I said before I do think many who have posted before will post again.