This sounds like almost every single relationship I have had with a Black Woman or a self proclaimed "Ms. Independent". I agree, abuse is abuse, verbal or non verbal. Unfortunately, it's normally just men that get confronted and not so much the women (gender norms I suppose).
Your last paragraph sends chills down my spine. I think I know someone like that. Fortunately, I didn't get involved with him. But he was very charming, a master of seduction and then there would be sudden flashes of anger that were really disproportionate to the situation. As I recall, his father was physically abusive. I don't know that this guy is physically so, but I could easily see him as being verbally abusive. He also suffers from PTSD. I've severed all contact with him because he is duplicitous and just toxic for me. I'm thinking I dodged a nasty one.
I'm not willing/able to contribute, but just wanted to say a big thanks to pixie and everyone else for sharing their stories here. It is hard and a huge thing to do. As for the 'what can I do?'s, talk and listen. It isn't just about educating people in that situation(although often victims aren't able to recognise it without help), it's about people outside the situation being able to see the signs and know what to do or say in these situations. & http://www.sedonapsychicreading.com/article_faceofabuse.php
You may want to take the link down, too many lurkers on here. The accounts of some of those BM could be fake dummy accounts as well.
In all seriousness, it sounds like the "abusee" in your example just lost one to many arguments...sounds like they share some fault in not getting their point across, or fighting back, or using insults also, etc.... In relationships both parties must seed control to the other at some point, it' usually very hard for two head strong individuals to coincide in a relationship...
Have no fear Chesbaygrl, FRESH is here...you may express yourself however you see fit...You may have gotten some unecessary backlash due to your green status... I'm a very free thinker so I'm used backlash at times... I see where Lippy is coming from in terms of mental abuse, but the example she provided us doesn't not fit that description for me...as well I think it's situational...some women (into SM and or other variants) would disagree with Lippy... Personally, I dated a woman that was very quick witted, could deal out personal blows that I couldn't figure until three days later lol...she was mean, she new she was mean...but I didn't equate that to abuse...(maybe this issue has some underlining gender issues also)...
I'm sure she has seen these beautiful and tasty bits too. But, FRESH, may I remind you that... ...and you'll only see simply...Blue Waffles.
I really don't know what you looked up...but I'm sorry...that's the wrong thing you were looking over.
It's exactly what the words suggest. There's no hidden meaning. I've been posting these pictures for a good while. Blueberry flavored waffles.
