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Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by suprchic73, Jun 18, 2010.

  1. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    The more we think about how everything is based on business, the less this country lives up to its name.

    But try and manage with the resources you have. My mom's been battling with bad knees for a while now and she still manages somehow. It's amazing how the very thing that's a right can be twisted for the sake of making a quick buck. :(

     
  2. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    you know what it is dark knight...you are so damn mean and get away with it far too often that every once in awhile you need to be smacked upside the head

    love how you like to personal attack my age...my body...my nakedness is not for your viewing pleasure...but i did catch your video you posted and you are a really big guy...what do you wear in a suit 52 short? so once again pot...let me introduce you to kettle...

    glad you asked about mr. gorgeousness...things are fabulous!
     
  3. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Very true, & it's discouraging as hell.

    I'm definitely doing the best I can with what I have. No matter how much my boss says he's planning on getting insurance for his employees, it's as believable as someone predicting I'm going to win the lottery. I knew this last trip to the doctor would be expensive, & thankfully this September had an extra pay period, so I didn't have to get into money I didn't want to be spending. I'm also thankful that my doctor didn't charge me as much as I expected. He also gave me a ton of samples of my allergy meds, which was a huge help. The crappy air quality around here is kicking my butt this year.

    It's amazing & it's sad. That quick buck seems to be the top priority & people don't seem to be a priority at all sometimes.
     
  4. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    With bosses like that, they "want" to give their employers insurance, but they don't want to run the risk of taking a small pay cut to compensate for everyone else. He's living well I assume, but others, he would think that you all are managing just fine.

    What a twisted world we live in.

     
  5. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Really big guy? You are totally reaching but ok lol.
    What you said had nothing to do with me being mean you just love to throw thinly veiled jabs. Every altercation we have always starts with you saying some dumb shit to me. You're a very desperate woman you're not fooling anyone so do us a both a favor and don't speak to me. Its for the best.
     
  6. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    He is definitely focused on himself. He likes to throw that out there because he thinks we're stupid enough to believe him. He'd be living better if he understood money. Sadly, he's a lousy businessman. He's had the stores almost 7 years now & he's learned NOTHING, & Lord knows I've tried to teach him. He's failed at everything he's tried to do, but lucky for him he's had his trust fund to get him through. He doesn't understand money because he's never had to work for it. He goes into these different businesses with the expectation of easy riches, & it's sad.

    I do the best I can to keep the business going, & if he'd let me take care of business to the extent he should, he'd make more money & still be able to offer benefits to his employees. He struggles with his dependence on women, because he's got that old school Korean mentality. Not that he'd ever admit to it, but he's lucky his wife is a strong woman or he'd be screwed. He shows his ass via his treatment of her in public, but we all see through it. It's almost funny to watch him perform, but I do have to fight the urge to punch him in the mouth for the way he talks to her. The truth is, he just doesn't care about people, & IMO the outcome of that mindset will always be failure.
     
  7. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    I would say given his reckless behavior, he's LUCKY that his business hasn't run itself in disarray. However, you are correct...if there are people who can show him the ropes on building better revenue, it would be you. Arrogance + ignorance in maintaining the business while holding the thought of reactionary, sexist ideals would only cause great strain between boss and their employees.

    Sounds like I would have to break in his parade.

     
  8. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    He's extremely lucky. It's a good thing he has honest, hard-working people in his employ or he'd be out of business by now. It wasn't as bad in the beginning with him because he pretty much let us do what needed to be done. When the economy got really bad, he decided he was going to be more "involved" & his involvement has made things much worse. He's terrible with money, & he spends almost everything he makes & puts little back into the company, yet he expects it to grow. Something can't grow if you never feed it. It's almost like he's going out of his way to fail, but he actually believes he knows what he is doing. I'm doing what I can to keep the ship afloat, but when it starts sinking, I refuse to sink with it.

    If jobs were easier to find, he'd have no employees. He doesn't understand the concept of lead, follow or get out of the way. He doesn't know how to lead, pridefully refuses to follow, & he won't get out of the way & let us take care of business. I'm extremely thankful to have loyal, hard-working people I can depend on. I do my best to take care of them & the business in spite of the obstacles.

    I'm doing my best to hang in there in this crappy economy.
     
  9. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    Tore his ass open like a bag of doritos
     
  10. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    This negro loves to stir shit like a chick in the hood. Don't you have someone's hair to braid or double dutch to play fam lol.
     
  11. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    :psomebody is playing VICTIM...
     
  12. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    Flatbush mothafuckas going soft around here
     
  13. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Better than you Philly lames. Now go get my fat ass a cheese steak and go back to shootin up the block and the cops :cool:

    Oh and throwing banana peels at young dudes trying to do another sport.
    Or you could try to burn the city down after the Eagles win a champ...
    Or after the 76ers win a .....
    Or the Phillies.....

    Just go back to shootin up the cops black stallion. That's what ya'll are good at lol
     
  14. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    I thought u worked out and shit?

    Fat guys always say they do martial arts lol

    u wouldn't make it past the warmups

    real talk, fam

    :p
     
  15. vanilla2chai

    vanilla2chai New Member

    My flipping allergies are so bad I want to cut my sinuses out with a steak knife!
     
  16. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Lippy swears I'm fat so I just roll with it no pun intended lol.
    Truth be told if the warm ups are anything like judo then you're probably right because that shit is total body from your head to your toes at all time.

    Striking arts aren't as bad stamina wise but I do feel like I get beat up a lot more. I ain't been to class since I got back from Jamaica and won't until October but when I'm on top of my game I'm sure I could give you slow ass Philly dudes a run for your money
     
  17. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Aw...I feel your pain, VC. I hope you feel better soon. :smt056
     
  18. vanilla2chai

    vanilla2chai New Member

    Why do we have these Tam? I have never had allergies in life and then BAM! I am allergic to everything
     
  19. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I don't understand it either. I didn't have any allergy issues until I was 30 or so. It came out of nowhere & it seems to have gotten worse over the years. :(
     
  20. TheHuntress

    TheHuntress Well-Known Member

    You haven't met me. I said, I'm the strongest person you've ever had the honor of KNOWING. But, either way, it doesn't matter. You truly have NO idea what I'm like, as many times as we spoke on the phone, or for as many hours -you got a version of me, but not the whole picture. Just like this forum gets a version of me.

    That bolded statement is so full of shit. I never said my life is tougher than anyone else's, but I get pissed off when you walk around all high and mighty like NYC is the ONLY place in the world people can live and work, and that the things you say are the ONLY truths that ever were uttered. Your truth isn't MY truth, it isn't anyone's truth but your own. I share my experiences to provide perspectives on the ridiculous opinions you seem to believe as FACT, and try to tell everyone are FACT over and over again. I think everyone else is just used to or bored with your shit, so they don't bother to comment. TreePixie and I call you out on your shit because we're not afraid to put our lives out there in that way, and because of that...we're 'victims'? If I was a public speaker and went around the nation talking about my experience with domestic violence and rape, would you then call me a 'victim' because I was sharing my experiences? I would hope not.

    And actually, Charlotte IS a city (there is no city in Charlotte, as you said above). It is also a major U.S. financial center, whether you like it or not. It's actually second to NYC, so it's not exactly like comparing Easter Island to Wall Street. And no one is expected to work 60 hour weeks. Anyone who works those hours chooses those hours because they truly believe it's what's expected. As I said, there's a precious few companies out there in which it's corporate culture- but places like Google, where they have the highest productivity and the happiest workers- those people are NOT working 60 hours per week. I don't get this mindset that the hours you put in are worth more than the work you put out. Stupid.

    Yes, I work for a non-profit....so, I work. In a white-collar job. For money. In a company that requires educated folks to do things. I'm sorry, how exactly are you trying to discredit my experience there? I'm unclear about that.

    Dude, you flat out said that no teacher works as much as an accountant, which I was SO thankful for, because I totally had S. on my mind when you tried that BS. She would have chewed your ass up one side and down the other for trying to say she didn't work harder than she did as an accountant. I actually had to send her a message on Facebook after I wrote that post to you earlier, because it was so hilarious to me that you truly believed what you were writing. Her classroom was across the hall from me the first year we were teaching together, and she and I used to talk all of the time. She had had two kids, so she figured working as a teacher would be easier work and hours than working her old job, which is a common misconception. She worked her ass off the first year, and told me often 'Girl, if I'd known I'd be pulling 100+ hour weeks and getting paid for only around 30 of those hours, I'd have parked my ass right where I was until I retired!' It does get easier as time goes on- you learn tricks, you get solid lesson plans that you keep because they were successful...but it takes time. And every second of every day is completely different. Nothing is ever done the same. You live in a constant gray area. You don't get to sit at a desk and plunk in some numbers. There aren't rules and regulations for HOW to teach kids- you're just told WHAT to teach them. The 'how' is up to you, and you might do it 50 different ways in the span of two days because kids aren't getting it and need different approaches. You don't get paperwork done when you're teaching. Those 90 minute blocks of time, you're up out of your seat, teaching and interacting with those kids....and while you're teaching, you have to keep your eyes peeled for kids texting, writing notes, rolling joints (no joke!), and any other things they shouldn't be doing. You have to make sure they're not talking, eating, flicking the kid next to them or in front of them with a pencil. You have to engage them and listen to them. And you have 20+ kids at a time that you have to do that with- simultaneously. There are no 'easy' days. As soon as those kids go to the next class, the next group is in. You get 20 minutes for lunch, and if you're lucky, you might finish your food, if you get a chance to eat at all. By that time, it might just be that you decide to use the 20 minutes to make a few extra copies and pee for the first time all day because you certainly can't go when the kids are in your classroom.

    And then, at the end of the day, when all of the kids go home- you're left there. Sometimes, you're the adviser of a club, so you have to take care of that...but if you're not, you get some time to straighten up the room, erase the boards, write the next days' work on it, see if you can find a free copy machine to make 150+ copies of worksheets and hope you're not past your copy quota for the week (yes, they exist in some places!) so that your kids get all the information they need for their work. Once in awhile, you might get a kid staying after school for help, or one who comes to you for advice and perspective on a problem they're having at home or at school. You might also have a faculty meeting, which is required attendance, and will last for two hours. Or you'll have a team planning meeting to start working on lesson plans for the next week or so. If you're lucky enough to squeeze in time in your classroom correcting some of the 150+ papers you've collected, you're there writing grades down in both your grade book and in the online grade book. Then, you realize it's almost 6 and you're starving because you haven't eaten dinner, but you can't leave until you update the homework website for the evening, because the kids will be wanting/needing a reminder. In the midst of all of this, you have e-mails and phone calls from parents to return, discussions with administrators and co-workers on the mundane and not-so-mundane parts of the job- all while trying to get some work done. So, you take it home to finish it up, and then you sit up all night long until midnight or 1am correcting papers (because it doesn't take 5 minutes!), go to sleep, and get up at 5am to start it all over again the next day.

    Now, is that true for everyone? No. Are there shitty, lazy, useless teachers out there who don't do a thing? Absolutely. If you sat through a day of that and saw this unfolding in front of you, it might change your perspective on how much teachers work and what they actually do....am I whining or complaining about the work I did as a teacher? Fuck no. Do I think you owe teachers in general an apology for making the baseless assumption that they don't actually work? Yes. I'm sure the various teachers wandering around this forum would agree that your lack of respect for the educational profession leaves a sour taste in their mouths. Mine included. Just because I didn't work for a Fortune 500 company, doesn't mean I, or any other teacher in the world, was worth less than those people.

    Without teachers, there wouldn't BE Fortune 500 companies. Without teachers, there wouldn't be doctors, lawyers, artists, athletes, or anyone else. Teachers are the ones who encourage kids to think for themselves, to explore things, to never stop learning and engaging themselves in the things they're interested in and passionate about. Teachers give kids the tools, and the knowledge they need to use those tools, and to try to discredit them over and over again is about as serious as disrespecting and trying to discredit the work of one's own parents.
     

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