Last Names and Marriage

LOL anything other than take the guy's name already.

Since you're so against tradition, don't be mad if he never asks you to get married, just live together forever. After all, tradition is the enemy of progress.

 

That is absolutely beautiful, what a wonderful idea.

 

There's nothing wrong with that either. I know a lot of couples who have done that, including a couple now in their early sixties who have been together since high school. They just never found the need to marry.

And why does the man have to *ask*? Can't the woman ask, or the couple decide AS a couple that they want to get married?

You're a throwback, my friend, but a consistent one.

 

I thought it was lovely.

 

I won't be mad if you never ask me.

It's good to question traditions. Imagine where both of us would be if everyone blindly followed prior practices!

 

Yes, it's called civilization. It's horrible.

 

LOL says the 53 year old.

 

You do realize that you and I would both be someone else's personal property, right?

 

What the hell does my age have to do with it? Is there an age limit after which I'm not allowed my own opinions?

 

No, it's being a woman that makes you ill-suited to have opinions.

 

Once again, far afield from the original topic. Nice deflection.

Here is my thesis:

If you don't have to take a man's name, then he doesn't have to marry you.

I will even allow hyphenating if the woman's profession is established before marriage, but let's be real, what are the chances of that? Hahaha

Carry on, ladies, and good luck to you.

 

Not reading the other votes of women......don't really need their opinions to form my own. I would have no problem taking a man's last name. I would make my maiden name my middle, though. Never have been into the the hypenated name stuff. It looks stupid, like you have one foot in the water and one foot out. All just my opinion. I think it's a personal thing and if your career is built on name recogntion you should be encouraged by your future spouse to keep your name if you desire. Love is making sacrifice if needed.

 

My bf growing up had her mum do that as well and I was secretly envious of her for it, I had the freedom to do whatever I pleased when I got home from school, but I also had the responsibilty of looking after my brothers and fixing dinner because both my parents worked full-time. I've structured my work hours so I can be there for my kids and will continue to do so...

 

That will work out nicely. I don't want to marry a man who "has" to marry me or who is such a neanderthal that he has no respect for me, my identity, or my values. Your thesis will serve as a wonderful filter.

 

Which century is this again??? You know how our poor widdle laydee brainz gets all confuzzled about numbers.....

(Allow? Seriously? Sounds more like you're looking for a pet dog than a partner)

 

Oh look, we have a winner.

 

LOL you're getting hysterical.

 

Beautifully said.

 

It seems like he thinks marriage is some sort of prize for well-behaved women.

I never saw marriage as a prize. It's an interpersonal commitment.