When you joined this forum - what was your story?

Let's get it started in here.

 

Yeah... big Prince fan here. More a fan of his early stuff than the later years; but the kid can still jam. Tks for the holla Tarsh.

 

Hi! I am new here. I am in my first IR and came here to speak with people, maybe to find way for better understanding each other. It's especially difficult for me because I am new in this country too. I am very happy to date black guy. Never before met such man. Very tender, caring, intelligent, so special! Each day that I spend with him is full of joy and fun.
So, my plans for future - to read more topics and conversation, to look info and speak with people here. I would like to make my boyfriend happy.

 

I'm in an IR relationship and just kinda found this forum one day. I've dated IR since a couple years after my divorce. It wasn't planned, just kinda happened and admittedly much to my surprise as well!

 

i do hope you're not a woman



fellas going to eat you alive around here for trying IR only after it didn't work out with white men.

 

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It (IR) wasn't something that I just decided to try. It was a relationship that just happened; like many relationships. It wasn't something I planned after the divorce.

 

I have dealt with white girls since my college days, of course college is a different breed from the real world and I signed up today and just sharing some views with like minded individuals who share similar interests.

 

LOL, its all good, we never know what twist and turns things will take in life.

The key is to be happy in your life.

 

So very true GQ; thanks for that! I have no regrets about any of the twists and turns, it's all part of the roller coaster ride.

 

I have always thought sticking to your comfort zone never helps with growth in one's personal life. I learnt that adults work through the maze of life using patterns and problem solving skills that were developed as kids and from experience, and this is why we are accustomed to using the same tools we have to solve problems. It is like saying someone is set in his ways.

So the reason I am here ...I think I have a lot to learn from other folks and I am open to learning. I guess that is why I have ventured out of my comfort zone to understand and experience community in the way I have never experienced it. I know by association and unconsciously, I will get to pick habits ( good, I suppose) that makes me a better citizen, especially one that is more accommodating of others opinion. I think that is why I am here. Not because of the Interracial thing to be honest. But because, I sense opportunity for learning and growth.

I believe values are what drive us as human beings and not race per se..some people subscribe more to certain values by virtue of community, geography, economic system , content of education, and family. For me personal growth is acquiring those values that can allow me transcend some of my present limitations. As such meeting with people that can share other experiences because of what they bring here help me in expand my horizon in marvelous ways.

 

I joined because I'm in an interracial relationship (3 months now) and I find that it's hard to talk about it with anyone that I know personally. There's this ever-present undercurrent of racism in the country where I live (Austria) and I can see that people are uncomfortable with my relationship everywhere that I go. I know it's ridiculous, but that's the way it is! I'd just like to talk to people in my same situation and to feel like what I have isn't any different to what my friends have with their girlfriends and boyfriends. NOT that I feel like my relationship is somehow less validated than theirs, but when you live amongst people who think that way, it's hard! I know, I know, it looks like my friends aren't very good friends at all, but I can't get rid of them all and they really are lovely people despite having some traits that I may not agree with.

AI've always been attracted to black men so the photo threads are also a bonus. That's actually the way I found this forum.

 

Interesting, when you are in a very homogenized culture like Austria, I can see how things can feel the way you described your experiences.

Personally it takes strong people to push forth in interracial relationships, it would be so easy to just follow the expected social norm when it doesn't appeal to you. Someone who dates interracially however bucks that trend and follows their own feelings and that opens them up to many different experiences, good and bad depending on where you are.

Those people who are uncomfortable that you speak of are folks who cannot see past the external and to the inner emotions of what love and attraction is.

Personally I consider myself a strong man and any woman I am with will feel like she can lean on me and I will support her in our love and expect her to be able to do the same as well for me.

 

You speak the truth! I only wish everyone could unexpectedly fall in love with someone outside of their race so that the could stop judging those who have already experienced it...

 

I joined because I just came out of a 7yr. relationship, I was also just interested to what would come out of it.I was hoping to have some fun or even meet someone njce.

 

Wow.

1. What was your "status" when you joined up? Single, and hoping to find an answer to the why question I am asked all the time, "Why are you single" Is the main one. There are many reasons.

2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site?
I was hoping for things to be fulfilled why I joined. This site has been wildly disappointing and at other times helpful. It is nice to know that women are shy just as men and see someone they think isgorgeous and cannot wait to tell a friend about this new person.

3. Has either of those changed since you joined?
I have been disappointed with some of the comments women have made. After hearing some more about them, I think that we all may neglect the value of having someone to communicate with. After joining I know that I have not been wrong about my assumptions about women who gave me certain looks. LOL! And for any woman who wants to talk on this site about anything I am here to help. I wish we all will not be separated by race, but I hope white women ask me for help, establish a friendship with me and allow me to help them. You are all very sweet. Allow me to help you, and if after speaking with me you say, you have no idea what you are talking about and cannot help anyone, but I am a white women and can help you". So be it. Help me with whatever you see fit.
Come on!

 

1. What was your "status" when you joined up?

Single. And looking for something that would start off slow but lasting.

2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site?

I came here looking to see what kinds of white women were attracted to black men, and to find one that would fit in a physical/mental/emotional/spiritual sense (and best in that order), and discard the weirdos. I relationship would be nice, but it's best to really seek something that has a good foundation.

3. Has either of those changed since you joined?

Well, we'll see as time goes on. I'm not even sure the area I'm in is really conducive to finding IR relationships, but I'm going to be optimistic and say that if it's possible it will eventually happen.

 

I joined after being an amateur tour guide with these two lovely middle aged white women .They were so polite they would even smile when they wanted to tell you to go fuck yourself . I then decided to get to know what goes on in the mind of a caucasian woman

 

I was actually looking for the Nsync message board when I stumbled across this site by accident.