Why I usually don't look at BBW

WTF????:smt018

 

Lord have mercy! When I see WW like that I'm like 'how you doing lady':smt006.

 

where you been hiding lately hun?

 

I should actually be the one asking you that exact question babe...especially after a couple of unreplyed mails!! So, where have you been yourself?

 

Something I said before in regards to a similar topic:


"Like white men are all that fucking special. I don't -want- one. Whether they want me or not is completely moot.

We're not all the white man's leftovers. We also all don't go after any damn dude (black or otherwise) just because we think they're "easier". *rmfe*

And frankly, this whole "White men don't want them so they go to black men" thing is sick. I've met many women who date outside of their race and we've never sat around and whined about how we can only get black men cause white guys don't want us anymore. We talk about our men (and exes) the same way we talk about any of them, regardless of race. In fact, I find race to be a topic that comes up rather infrequently unless it's to point out the race of a current or ex boyfriend that happens to be in discussion.

An asshole is an asshole and it doesn't matter what colour package he comes in."

 

havnt seen any mails from you hun, will check
been dealing with a sick kaya hun but ive still been about

 

Tha WAST majority of BM/WW couples I see here in So Ca are very atrractive couples. That is my observation.

 

I was wrong for using you an example. What I posted about you was very disrespectful. I don't know you like that to make those type of assumptions about you or your motives. I'm going to make it up to you through. When you get a chance I want you to email me and I'm going to share some of my secrets with you.

 

Same here Robina, in fact I think some Americans (not all, of course) could take a leaf out of there African brethrens book, not once has a boyfriend of mine had his jeans hanging down to his knees or even worn a baseball cap to any kind of outing.

The one who smelt it has usually dealt it, he shouldn't judge others by his own standard of personal hygiene practices.

 

I wasn't going to comment on this thread since Trey posted it and as much as I respect you for bringing this up I don't like you period.
But there is an enormous amount of truth to what he's saying. Its not an absolute law like gravity but there is truth to it. We can't ignore the racial heiarchy system in this country even if it makes us uncomfortable to talk about it. I have seen far more attractive ww with less than attractive wm then with bm and judging by some of the posts some of the women put up on here a lot of them didn't date think of bm as option until they've already had kids and done the family thing. I've met a lot who express what Trey said about them dating bm because wm will either nail them and not date them or don't have an interest in them at all.
Curvy is one thing ladies but 50lbs overweight is obese, don't believe me look it up. There are way too many claiming to be thick and curvy when they are medically obese. I'm not a doctor but the weight guidelines are online.
Now if I had to be honest there are quite a few women on here who would be considered overweight but I find very attractive DB Kun Whik and Thick just to name a few but in my everyday life most overweight chicks are a fucking wreck.
Something I've also noticed are the women I date interacially are never on my same social standing. All my white male friends tend to date women who are on the same educational level and come from similar socio economic backgrounds. A lot of the IR couples I know of the dude is usually a professional and the girl is either in school or has a menial job. Not saying anything is wrong with it but just making an observation.
Bottom line is I don't think what Trey posted is too far fetched

 

I know that you aren't making broad generalizations, just your observations so I'd like to add mine to the mix as well. I started dating IR when I was 18, & I am not obese by any stretch (according to the BMI calculators in my head and on the Heart and Stroke Foundation website). Before I came back to school I was making 6 figures and will make that again once I am done with this degree. I have money in the bank and my man and I are exactly opposite to what you have described between ww and professional bm.

So yes perhaps many IR couples have the bm in a higher social status then the ww, but this post of mine is just to remind folks that might forget that there are heaps of fabulous, gorgeous, fit, wealthy, hard working, educated, driven, and sexy ww dating bm.


PS. I also don't have any children and am relatively baggage free. lol

 

I hate when US born Brothers talk shit like that.

 

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Thanks Athena for the reminder. Its easy to lose sight of the possibility. What are you in school for?

 

Well, I wasn't faulting his personal experience- my problem was his use of my comment. I am not going to get into a debate about if being overweight is OK, but the fact is that for some people it is the reality, so preaching about what is or isn't healthy, etc. isn't going to do anything but drive some people into the fridge. You cannot change what is just by stating it.

I haven't had the experience you've had with IR relationships. Generally, the BM I've dated do not have the same education and background, and I'm the one who's professional. It's all relative.

As for women waiting until later in life- well, here's my take on it. I know plenty of women who, as they've gotten older, care a whole lot less than they did in their younger years about what people think of them. That could be a driving force behind it. I know that in my family the very idea of dating a BM is repugnant... if I were of lesser mettle, I'd have caved to them a long time ago. I care, but only insomuch is that I wish they'd NOT care... it's not going to stop me from dating whomever I choose. Older women likely did not have that luxury. Things are a lot different now than they were 20, 30, and 40 years ago..we all know that.

I'm not going to fault your experience, because experience is what it is...and we all know that stereotypes come from somewhere...some element of truth. I just wish we could let it go already. All these topics do is drive a wedge between people- especially here on the forum. We are all here for the same basic reason, so why do we keep beating a dead horse?

 

It had nothing to do with me being at a low point in order to give a BM a chance. Like I said, I've always been attracted to BM. Due to how I was raised...I was simply not exposed to many BM during elementary school or high school (I went to Catholic school all my life and I went to an ALL GIRL high school). So those initial years of dating just happened to be with the white boys I was surrounded by. After my 3 1/2 year relationship in college ended....I realized that I had gained very little from my past relationships besides lessons learned on everything I DIDN'T want. Since then...I've had the most satisfying and wonderful BM in my life and I wouldn't want it any other way.

I think the key thing you're describing in all of this is the fact that these are all FAKE ASS WOMEN who for one reason or another are USING who they are with no matter what their color is.

Damn straight girl. I get you 100%

Very well said....as always Tamstrong!

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Who feels like a prize? Listen, overweight White women can feel all they want, if no-one is biting, we can't feel shit. Since you're saying that society places fat WW are the bottom of the barrel, what does that say about Black men men who date and marry us, let alone the Black women they reject to get at the "bottom of the barrel" White Women?

Trey, I don't think you actually know - how could you know? You only know what you read by a few, or by observing in a vacuum a newly created stereotype. , in THIS country, there are lots of white men who desire thick or BBW women. And those men HAVE white BBW women, because they seek them out. There's not a big chick on here who hasn't had a White Man come at her, believe that. (in fact, have one pursuing me right now, and he doesn't understand why I wont go on a date with him, and he's a successful business man).

Then there's the White men married to overweight women. The country alone has 60% of it's female population (majority white)wearing an average size a 14-16 (and growing). So if an overweight woman you see with a brother really wanted to, she could get a white guy, especially since there are way more white men available than Black men. Even if you eliminated half of the White men as viable partners for overweight White women, they'd still greatly outnumber the pool of single Black men who like fat women, let alone fat White women. Because as WE know, not all Black men dig big chicks, and those that do, MOST are with or married to big Black women.

Moreover, this belief that it's fat White women who run to Black men, um, have you looked closely enough? I won't insult those Brotha's here so all I will say is many of them ain't no prize either, love.

So exactly WHY does a Brotha run and chase Fat White Women? Since we KNOW there are plenty of single Black Women in the waiting, could it be that BW have rejected him? It isn't so cut and dried as you've laid it out that it's just "fat White Women running after Black men after being rejected by White men"...Seems you've given a pass to the Black man they get with over his motives. Pure and faultless, they ain't, so please get real.