Cheaters

oh well but that is the truth. women will tell you in person . you will see it on TV on those talk shows and movies. women cheat because they are not having "excitement" in the marriage/relationship or it not an "adventure" anymore.

the other thing is women love to say " I love the chase because it is exciting. I love the unknown. "

 

I was making a general statement - not towards you specifically.

 

I guess it depends on your personal values. Like if I have a friend who hates hispanics and asians (two dating pools I don't mess with) I would distance myself from that. But I guess I'm not naive or arrogant enough to believe that I can change someone who cheats.

 

No offense to the females on here but man, women are really dumb/gulliable lol. They will never learn.:smt042

 

U damn straight.
I wouldnt. If I know they have a cheating history, I wouldnt go there... but few are upfront about it however.
I am just saying how it works for some women out there.

Like Francie said - some women suffer from the Platinum Vagina Synrome.

On the other hand, there are men (and women) that have been cheaters do change their way at some point when other values become more important.

 

I think most women that have been cheated on rarely open themselves up for that again. So yes, most do learn. Some women dont, for various resasons such as poor self esteem etc. This is a very complicated issue and not as straight forward as you may think.
If you frequently go with cheaters, then you really have to look at yourself.

Problem is that you have to go on trust as it is rarely disclosed that the partner is a cheater.

 

I just had a conversation with a friend who's messing with a married chick who's been with her husband for 10 years and they have a son. I also know this woman and would never think she's like that but I guess appearances are decieving. So have any of you cheated with or on someone?

 

No, that's an absolute 'never under any circumstances' rule for me. I have been invited to, but always immediately declined without even giving it any thought. Commitment, trust, and honesty aren't merely words in the dictionary to me. I'm also big on treating you the way I want to be treated, so again never under any circumstances would I cheat.

I have however known plenty of people who have, some even carried on long term affairs with men that they knew would never leave their wives, and they didn't want them to. That type of arrangement appeals to some people who don't want all that comes with a committed relationship, but like the sex and drama that comes with the affair. I know a couple of open relationships as well in which the women don't indulge in other men, but the men have other women.

 

Um...I rally oughta Take The *Fifth* on that, m8...

But, yes, it was in the Mid-1990's...It was in Holland....before Mellisa obviously....

And I'd NEVER do anything behind her back....


But the gal was one of thiose unhappy "My-Husband-Doesn't-Appreciate-Me" kinda housewives...


And Yours Truly was still reeling over my Dad (My LAST living relative) having died not long prior....


Just a target of circumstance, I guess....


And Mellisa *does* tease me 'bout it every now and again...tellin' me that If had tghe guts to cheat, it'd STILL be with a White woman, I bet!




Yeah...IF.....


But as God's my Witness...as God's my judge.....WE don't ever intend to..



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Count me out.

 

Cheaters can suck a fat one. :smt067

 

Question: How guilty is the "other" woman/man in the cheating scenario?

My friends and I have varied ideas about this one. What's your take?

 

I think that a person who consistently pursues people in relationships is really shady. (I used to be friends with a guy who was like that.) However, the blame lies solely with the person in the committed relationship who makes the decision to cheat.

 

Makes you think does morality exist anymore?
How can someone want to be part of messing up someones family. The shit ain't right.

 

I'm curious why your friend participates in this relationship an what he can gain?

Is it "safe" for him or this woman is worth that much? I mean really seems like you would be headed for hurt anyway you put it. You either break up their marriage or you get hurt in the end.

 

Whether you are the cheater or the person someone is cheating with, there is always much more to lose than there is to gain. It's just not worth it.

 

Well for guys who do it. Its all about sex. You can no strings attached sex because the woman has a family to go back to.

 

Hang on... Aren't you one who believes that it's natural for men to cheat? I always got the impression that you don't believe cheating is totally immoral... but now you're questioning the morality of the "other" person?

I agree that it's immoral for a person to deliberately set out to break up a marriage, but when it comes to cheating it still remains largely (if not solely) the married person's prerogative and therefore responsibility lies with them. The "other woman" doesn't "mess up someone's family", the married person does that.

Edit: I do believe the "other person" is not entirely innocent, no matter what the situation. But still, they're not the one who's breaking vows.

 

So, did you apply that committment and honesty and inform the wife that her husband had a long term affair that you knew about? Or did you keep it to yourself? If you were the woman who was being cheated on, would you want to be told?

 

I know you are asking Espy, but I'd like to answer this question with a resounding YES

I want to be told if my guy is cheating on me, the minute someone finds out, I want to find out. Then I can plan the murder.... bwahahahahaha:smt072