How Has Experiencing Racial Prejudice/Discrimination From WW Influenced You?

Greetings. This post is aimed primarily at black men who may have had experiences with white women that are somewhat different from those generally espoused on this forum. It's been the tendency for a lot of the topics on here to focus on praising and extoling the various and supposedly positive qualities that rightfully or wrongly are attributed to white women, without necessarily devoting as much time to the other side of the issues as well.


To black men on this forum who may have had experiences with racial discrimination from white female employers in the corporate realm, how have those experiences influenced or affected your views on interracial dating? I'm a 30 year old black male originally from Central Africa who returned to my home country several months ago to pursue a job opportunity after having experienced so much unbelievable racial prejudice and discrimination from white female employers in the US in the process of applying for jobs in corporate America. My work experience in my field of communications spans 12 years of hard work and my résumé is vast. I have both an undergraduate degree in communications and a master's in writing.


It just so happens that most of the employers I experienced prejudice and discrimination for, happened to be white American females-at least those whom I met in person at interviews. Even in most of the cases where I seemed to be the lost qualified candidate, they often chose the white candidates when it came down to just the two of us. I hear that despite the claim of equal opportunity in America, employment often comes down to "who you know." My experiences were very disappointing and I just got fared up, given how hard I have worked for all those years.


Despite these injustices, I have determined to move on and also to forgive within my heart, all of those prejudiced employers who I think treated me unfairly, even though as a human being, this is something I still struggle with. But my views of white women have changed significantly as a result of these experiences. I have lost a great deal of attraction, interest and motivation when it comes to considering dating them, especially American ones and I've come to conclude that given the year and a half in which I went through so much financial hardship as a result of my unfortunate experiences, I'm probably better off with a woman of my own race and continent who knows what it's like to be treated in such a manner and how hard it is to live as a foreigner in a country like America. I find it so hard to consider walking up to a white woman these days no matter how attractive she may be. I just feel as if I would be betraying myself and everything I represent considering everything I've been through.

 

"...therefore I decided to post on WhiteWomenBlackMen.com"

 

You've posted about this ad nauseum, so why dwell on the issue when you're now back at home surrounded by mostly BW that you can pursue with having any moral crises and some of whom may be helpful in getting you that job?

 

:smt038 Oh so true....thanks luc! :smt060

 

The day a BW can help anybody other than another BW get a job I'll let you shoot an apple off my head with an arrow.

 

Glad to see that the women of corporate America can turn you off to all of us. Because we're all a little racist in the end, of course.

Perhaps you should stop dwelling so much on what's outside and find someone who's insides align better with you, regardless of their skin colour. I'm sorry that you struggled so hard here in America, but there are plenty of us struggling here in America right now, black, white, asian, indian, hispanic, etc.

Corporate America is bullshit. If you truly want to get ahead, you'll be a white man. Women in this country still only make, on average, 75 percent of what men in the same position make. Injustice and bias clog every artery of the corporate animal, and unless you're able to conform to all of their standards for normalcy then you'll never get ahead.

And it's true...it's all about "who you know" here. That's why networking is so important, and why I'm trying to stay in contact with as many people as possible in my college...knowing them now may help me further my career later. So I put forth a lot of effort in making friends. I talk to my professors, get to know them, because these people have done what I want to do. They give me advice that's generally pretty sound, and perhaps after graduation one of them even may help me get a job.

I'm just curious, though...why would you allow your experiences to change your perception of an entire race of women? You don't seem stupid from the way you write, yet you still allow your interactions with a few of us cloud your opinion of all of us.

I understand that most of your bad experiences in job hunting were from white women interviewers...but we're not all interviewers for corporate jobs. Just because they were biased, doesn't mean we all are.

I have had good, and bad experiences with black men. Some of them quite bad. But I have never let the bad experiences cause me to cast judgment on the entire race. I've been treated absolutely horribly by plenty of black men. Most black men I meet, when I am single, are only interested in me for sex. When they discover that I'm not going to have a casual fling with them, they move on to the next white girl. That has been the vast majority of black men I've conversed with (beyond friends) since I moved to Houston, yet I am dating a black man. I will never discount a man's virtues over the failings of a few...or many!

For all intents and purposes I should be as racist as the people in my home town, yet I am not. Even growing up there, being spoon fed ignorant ideals, I had enough sense about me to realize that people are inherently different...race, socioeconomic status, and environment all shape us, but even when all three point toward more unsavory morals people don't always develop them. People can be good or bad regardless.

I have very little attraction for white men, but I wouldn't instantly shoot down a white man simply because of his race, simply because I've had bad experiences with them, simply because I find a lot of them to be pompous assholes. If I met a nice white guy, and there was a mutual attraction there, well, I'd give him a shot. The same goes for any race of man.

Don't close off your opinion of an entire group of people because of some. That's just ignorant.

 

LOL, oh my Gawd.

 

Well you can tell someone has not been reading the Forums lately, im surprised that there are any whitewomen left standing.

 

Bring those big British titties over here and I will praise and extol you.

 

Well you're not going to find a black woman around here.


And yeah Francie, I'm surprised you and I are still here! Soon it will be www.blackmen.com.

 

If I find a WW that's not that into BM, I just look at them like a VHS like: "they still make you?":smt042

 

Oh promises promises Karma.

Well i think i will hang in there Sarah, it gets up the haters nose more than leaving, think of us as the last ones who leave the party.

 

you do know there are hundreds of millions of white women in the world, so a few didnt give you a job oh no

 

nice

 

Hey wait, what happened here? I think I completely missed out on the whole thing.. It must be this "life"-thing i've tried for a couple of days.. but no worries, i'm still here. Life really wasn't that interesting. ;D

 

Nah, I havent let prejudice stop me from being attracted to WW. :smt008

 

I have gotten jobs from WW and have made money associating with them so no discrimination here.

 

I've run into prejudice from white women. I refuse to let the bad apples discourage me from choosing from among hundreds of millions of possible dating prospects.

 

cosign

 

you just joined today...this is your very first post (psst...come closer...i want to give you just a little advice...this is whitewomenblackmen...we love bm...well, some of them...i would never let one or more bad experiences change my perspective...now settle in and have some fun with the rest of the group)
lucy 5 cents (i am sending you the bill)

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