I'd like your guys opinion

So I have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 weeks now. And she is getting gifts from another guy who openly expresses he likes her. He has been saying this from her last relation ship threw her singlehood and now me. Is it just me or is it disrespectful to give gifts to a woman who has a boyfriend.
1st gift iphone which was sent first week we were dating so i let it slide
2nd Today she got flowers at work from an anonymous source I suspect its the same dude but either way all her friends know about me. What do you guys think?

 

I think don't check the guy for giving the gifts, but check your girl who's accepting them.

 

very disrespectful, if the shoes were on the other foot would she be ok with you getting gifts from a girl I doubt it. If only 3 weeks in and she's doing this, I'd be weary.

 

Yes, that is really disrespectful. I'm sure if he was in your position, he wouldn't appreciate it.

 

He's trying to get her back. This happened to me when I was dating a girl that was being treated like crap by the ex-boyfriend. When the loser heard about me, he changed his ways in an attempt to win her back.

Thankfully, it did not work.

Let her know your concern about him (VERY CALMLY...NO JEALOUS RAGE...you seem to have a calm personality). Let her know that you care about her and enjoy being with her and don't want to lose her. (A nice gift in hand???....maybe).

You should be ok. Open communication about this is good. You'll likely end up doing something lustful....and all this will be forgotten. :smt023

Dr. Bronze

"I'M GOOD!!!"

 

Is she accepting the gifts ? I'm assuming from what you're saying she is.

An iPhone is a pretty pricy gift to give someone you just like. How does she know him and was she ever involved with him ?

If it was me I'd tell the guy to stop and not accept any gifts he sends. I'd throw the flowers out and send back the iPhone etc. All depends if she likes the attention from him and doesn't want to cut him off.

I think more so than anything its disrespectful of her (to you) not to end this and keep accepting the gifts than for the other guy sending them to her.

 

take the flowers pull off all the petals...spread them all over her bed...and then you show her which man is better for her you or him...i'm guessing she will pick "you"...tell her to thank him for the flowers that both of you enjoyed them...he will be gone in no time

 

They're both disrespecting you, but since she's the one who is supposed to be loyal to you I think it's time for a heart to heart. Why would she accept gifts from another guy? To make you jealous? You may need to cut her loose.

 

Lipstick..that was...a masterpiece. :smt038

 

I would talk to her, tell her how it makes you feel. Men get brownie points when they discuss their feelings with us. Especially early on.

 

Meh

If she likes him[grecco], i see no wrong in getting gifts, especialy if she doesnt want these gifts. I mean, im sure my boy grecco wouldnt mind having a free iphone.

You gotta be business oriented in situations like this, you can pawn every gift she recieves for extra cash......and then take her out with that cash. That way if she turns out to be a waste, atleast you did not waste a dime on her

:mrgreen:

 

I agree that it's disrespectful. I also think that it's disrespectful of her to keep accepting gifts from someone else if she is your girlfriend. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and find out how she feels. This is one of those instances when good communication can go a long way.

 

Ahhh but the iPhone isn't free, he'd still have to pay his service provider, taxes, roaming charges etc. who needs it.

Why spend the extra cash on her just keep it and get yourself something :smt080

 

word,,,who needs an iphone??,,,,just pawn die ting mon

LOL,,you got good thoughts

 

She was never involved with this guy romantically they had been friends for a long time. He waited out one relationship(one year and a half) and is still sticking around. She told me she has no romantic feelings for him, but i see jay's point its a free iphone and he knows he's not getting her but at the same time its disrespectful to us

 

She may be accepting his gifts innocently enough. Especially if he is a long time friend and has been a bit of a big brother figure, he may have tried to get romantic a couple of times and she may have ignored it in hopes to keep the friendship. He may be trying again and she may be repeating it.

Of course this is only one theory. She may be trying to make you jealous, or she may just have no clue (but the flowers should be obvious). Or maybe she's making him jealous with you?

So anyway, yeah, it may be disrespectful to you, but if the guy really thinks he loves her, then he may be doing the " I won't give up" thing. So don't hate on him, he may win her after all. That's why the wedding is the only real "close of the deal".

Shoot you've only been together 3 weeks. You are both still in the "anything could happen stage" IMO!

 

If you love it, you shoulda put a ring on it?

 

It's up to the woman to reject the gift, and she should... unless she doens't get enough attention from her man and is happy to receive a gift from ANYBODY.

 

yes 100 % agree !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Very well said. I hope she's respectful enough of you and your relationship to return the gifts, no matter how expensive or extravagant they may be.