Random Conversation 2.0

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by Bookworm616, Oct 7, 2011.

  1. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    I had no idea I was missing this conversation!
     
  2. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Our current socio-political climate is the catalyst for the conversation. Tam & I have been having it off & on behind the scenes for more than a year now because spotting folks who clearly aren't serious about IR relationships is rather alarming & in some instances straight up disturbing. Especially when you consider the types of individuals currently in charge of the government wouldn't hesitate to make all interracial relationships & interactions illegal except in the case for straight white "Christian" males. The fact that is a possibility and there are people who will just shrug their shoulders & say "Oh well" but continue to treat IR relationships as some underground taboo fetish speaks volumes about them & society as a whole.
     
  3. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I've wondered about this for years. I think a lot of those types of members don't really understand just how disconnected from the IR community they really are. And for some of them, the IR community and interracial relationships are something they don't actually care about. It's obvious their interest is more about entertainment, fantasy/escape, and/or something to masturbate to than it is genuine interest in actual relationships. Their inexperience is pretty obvious, too. Enjoying porn isn't necessarily an issue in itself, but seeing IR porn as pro-interracial is a problem if that's all they bring to the table. It's the same when it comes to IR TV/movies when all they care about is how explicitly sexual the content is. Many of them don't seem to realize just how deep into fetishizing territory they are. I find it sad and extremely off-putting.

    As we see pretty often around here, especially with some of the creepy new members popping up all the time, porn has too much influence on people's views of us and what we're really about. They see BM & WW together has some kind of trashy, fetishy "lifestyle", and it's disturbing to say the least.


    Well said. Alarming and disturbing are the perfect descriptors for the general lack of respect and the warped views of us, and for the contempt the powers that be have for us and our families. Too many people see it as something twisted and ugly to get off on, and they don't give a damn how it affects our community.
     
  4. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Entitlement is why they don't realize it. Too many come here with the mindset that because they are "Black Men" anything they say or do is okay even if it is negative or overall harmful. That's how we ended up with the subset of red pilled incel minded dudes spewing all of the toxic anti-black & misogynistic fuckery that chased off a lot of good posters both women & men alike. We still have some posters who clearly are on that type of time, but because they are in their own little fantasy/entertainment bubble, they don't realize they have pretty much spotlighted themselves & thus get confused if something negative/harmful they posted gets deleted.
     
  5. Madeleine

    Madeleine Well-Known Member

    For some it’s a lifestyle, for some it’s life…the difference is clear. I don’t have much to say to the former because I can’t relate.
     
  6. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Plenty of spaces on the internet dedicated to that "lifestyle". So why the need to come here & turn this space into another similar space?

    And if all the other "lifestyle" spaces are dying out for some reason, why don't the "lifestylers" get together & create new spaces for themselves? Why attempt to "colonize" someone else's space?
     
  7. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Entitlement does appear to be a big factor in a lot of cases. And we still see that attitude pop up fairly often with both genders joining the site these days with their questionable views on what the site is actually about. We've definitely had our share of incel types on this site over the years, and they did run off a lot of good people with their warped and toxic thinking/behavior. They did their damndest to overrun the site to turn it into a platform for their incel sausage fest garbage, and ruined the mostly positive vibe for a lot of people. I am thankful that many of the worst offenders aren't around anymore. Yeah, we obviously still have some here, but we just do our best to deal with their inappropriateness and negativity as it happens and not let it overwhelm the site again.


    Because most of them don't see the difference. In their fetishizing minds, the "lifestyle" is the only possible reason for Black Men & White Women to ever be together. That's why they don't bother "reading the room" when they come across the site to see what it's actually about—to them it's all the same. No doubt they also assume that even those of us who date, marry, have children together that the "lifestyle" is the basis of our relationships. They just don't get it, and probably never will.
     
  8. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member


    I've started to realize that the reason why the "lifestylers" don't get it is in fact the anti-blackness & misogyny. Whether directed inward, outward or both no matter which gender. All negative emotion & energy. We're representing the positive emotions & energy that makes up our relationships. Also why we find them "repellent" on multiple levels. Oil(them) and Water(us).
     
  9. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Sigh. And like clockwork yet another fuck ass "lifestyler" currently onsite looking for thirsty ashy dick lames.
     
  10. Madeleine

    Madeleine Well-Known Member

    I saw a picture on Facebook yesterday of 5 blonde siblings with the caption: How beautiful is not race-mixing. The account is called let it snow in Europa or something like that. I reported it to FB for hate speech. Today I got feedback they didn’t take it down. This has happened to me several times, they never removed anything I reported along these lines. Any experience anyone? I mean how blunt do they have to be before these guys put a stop to it.
     
  11. Madeleine

    Madeleine Well-Known Member

    How have your kids been, they must be grown up and flown out now, right?
     
  12. Madeleine

    Madeleine Well-Known Member

    How does that even work? I doubt these guys have had a functional long-term relationship regardless of colour. They are just sitting home alone in their little fantasy world. When they start changing nappies their mind will touch ground by force.
     
  13. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Mark Zuckerberg is one of the spineless, red pilled tech bros who bent the knee to Trump. He'll let all the obvious ignorance fly on Facebook but will suppress any actual facts & opposition to the ignorance. Money & status are his gods.

    They are fine all things considered. Both graduated college a little over 2 years ago & have decent paying jobs. Our daughter has moved out & is sharing an apartment with a friend. Our son is still at home for the time being hoping he can find a place to afford by himself since he's put off on the ideal of having one or more roommates after having to deal with that living situation while in college. Not everyone is trying to navigate through life in a respectable fashion is what he learned from that experience.
     
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  14. sarah23

    sarah23 Well-Known Member

    This just demonstrates how one can can say anything they wish against WW/BM relationships.
    And sometimes the most racist are other WW.
     
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  15. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    And that is one of the major issues. They aren't thinking that far in advance. They are only concerned with having a "white girl accessory" to show off to all their boys. They aren't thinking about, much less trying to be, on actual grown man level activities. That's why all the IR celebrity fixation. Live the fantasy life they want through them.
     
  16. CAKicker

    CAKicker Well-Known Member

    Here is a question for everyone:

    Would you date (or marry) someone who went to a rival school?
     
  17. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Unless it's a school that is based on & dedicated to propagating some form of harmful ideology, what's the problem?
     

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