Have you ever been fetishized or felt like you were being fetishized by a black man or white woman?

It gets no safer than this.

These young ladies seem to just be silly young people. I say let them have fun, even if it feels pretty cringy to watch. As a guy without 'swag', I don't think these women are as attracted to black men as they are to mass media conceptions of what black men are, do, etc.

 

oh gosh I forgot I shared this. now I'm embarrassed

 

Don't be. Clearly you have inspired the guy to new heights of bravery and boldness in coming on to you.

 

Yes

 

Yeah this woman on our first date told me she was addicted to athletic blackmen like me and couldn't control herself around them. Really weirded me out.

 

I've never fetishized (feel like I have a speech impediment saying that word lol) but I supposed I have craved.

 

I don't know how I'd feel about the use of the word 'addicted'. Sounds like she just holes up in her bedroom in the bed all day waiting for service.

 

More of the sort of thing we’re trying to avoid…

 

LOL! You are definitely not the only one. I get pissed at myself whenever I slip and send one while using voice text. Bugs the hell out of me. That, and the constant 'you're' for 'your' and 'they're' or 'there' for 'their'. Careful there, Tam. You're inner writer is showing!

As for the roaches, spray, set traps, fumigate, whatever it takes!

 

I can’t say for sure if I’ve been fetishized or not but I do know I would never fetishize a black man, I find it to be so rude and disrespectful

Black men are men, first and foremost.

 

Interesting topic. I have been before for sure and usually it’s pretty obvious when that’s the case so I move accordingly. Thankfully it’s few and far between but always unfortunate when it happens.

 

I’m sorry that happens to you, it is so unbelievably rude in my opinion

 

Thank you. It 100% is and is a turn off for any self respecting man. I have also seen the times the roles have been reversed and am equally disgusted. Just playing into all kinds of stereotypes unfortunately.

 

I totally agree. While I think I may have been fetishized before I've just chosen to keep moving and ignore it. I suspect in the other direction, for black men to be fetishized, is far more insulting for many reasons. Anyway, again, I am sorry for those who have faced it.

 

That’s honestly the best thing to do. Usually after awhile they’ll get the hint and stop/move on. At least has been the case for me.

 

For sure, that is definitely the best thing to do in most cases.

 

What about fiening? Right now I'm feeling like a fien.. who can sponsor my life in America? Who will marry me and accept burnt dinners as my greatest offering?