When you joined this forum - what was your story?

Don't be. These things happen

 

awww.....how fun (?)

 

:hugs:

 

1. About 2 months into my first IR relationship.
2. To make contact with other people in IR relationships & learn from them.
3. Nope

I found this place from a google search for resources & information on IR relationships.
6 months on I'm still with the same amazing guy and have never been happier.
He has changed my life for the better in every way and when I think back to how I was a year ago it seems like a totally different person.

 

Thank you, dear

 

That was about 10 years ago when I was doing some research for a paper I was supposed to write for one of my classes at uni.

 

1. What was your "status" when you joined up?

Single ... Still talkin to a couple girls but mainly focused on me and my goals right now

2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site?

Just hopin to get good convo from ppl that feel the same as u ... Although I'm open to other races, the day I found this site I happened to have a baddd white girl craving (like I usually do), got to googalin' about Interracial couples N here I am.

3. Has either of those changed since you joined?

Ive talked to a couple cool ppl on this site so it has been wonderful so far

 

1. What was your "status" when you joined up?
2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site?
3. Has either of those changed since you joined?

So, did you come on here with un-fulfilled desires? Did you just stumble across it after years of IR? Did you have a one-off like me that changed your mind? And where are you now? In the same relationship? Hooked up from this site? Explored more because of the support on here? Or have you changed your mind and decided it's not for you?

1. I joined almost a year ago when I was still married.
2. Hoping to connect with like minded men and women and for fantasy. I love that this forum is real people, sharing real experiences and fantasies, without being overtly explicit.
3. No.

I've always had an undeniable attraction to black men and before I was married, had the most unforgettable sexual experiences with black men. Although i never strayed when I was married, there was an attraction and desire I had and hope to explore again.

 

I never dated a black man before. That is my story. I was born, grew up, got married and lived in Ukraine until the early 2000s. There were no black men in my country--al least not where I lived. Once in a while you would see African students in large cities like Kiev but that was it. Now that I am U.S. citizen, divorced and plenty of black people here in New Jersey, I am ready to try something new.

 

Wonderful story. I read of your country for many years.

 

Thank you. You should make plans to go and visit.

 

Hope so soon.

 

1. I wasn’t in a relationship, but I thought I was going to have to marry a bw someday, because I thought it was my duty as a black man to do so.

2. I was hoping to find answers. I needed to find a way to happiness. I wondered what white women might be like. I remember looking out the window as the rain poured, imagining what white woman might save me from my dismal existence. I found this site and it was as if sunshine and rainbows had taken over my life. It gave me the knowledge I needed to find the ever elusive white woman.

3. It had changed off and on since I joined this forum. White women have transformed me into an all powerful being. I am basically just energy now... energy with a penis.

I came here to find desires, now my desires involve the palest of cheeks.

I didn’t stumble across this site, this site called to me through the power of google.

I don’t have one offs, I have infinite ons.

I am now in the heart of every lonely and or unfulfilled white woman.

I am in a relationship with all non racist white women.

I have not hooked up from this site, I am hooked in to this site.

I am exploring the inner workings of white women.

The only thing that is not for me is that toe sucking stuff.

 

I'm honestly not sure right now. It was a curious decision you could say. Overall I'm not very used to both dating sites nor forums. Something small like this might fit me though.. maybe for now I can hope for some conversation. And then we`ll see

 

Plenty of that here, especially since we're on lockdown.

 

I found this through searching Google on IR. It's interesting to see the diff perspectives on IR dating here. Especially from the ww. It just seems like i might've gotten here a little late. ???

 

Why is that?

 

This site was a big help when I was busy studying and going through a divorce nearly a decade ago. I didn’t have much time to go out and socialize and the camaraderie with people with similar histories helped me weather the difficulties in my personal level. My personal circumstances haven’t changed in terms of how I feel. I’ve dated off and on through the years and I don’t see anything changing my views on IR relationships.

 

Status when I joined: single but have dated black men since college. A long term relationship ended not long before the dreaded Covid hit. Pray for me. Lol

Hoping to get from this site: Ummmmmmmm just fun and some interaction, I guess. I like that this site isn’t explicitly sexual. I’m not shy about the sexual side of relationships. I mean that’s part of any real discussions about relationships ... but I didn’t want to join a pick up site or a porn site. So I’m thankful for this place ... and all you crazy people! Lol

Has anything changed since I joined: Nope. Still single and still of the same mind.

 

Funny oh, I found this site by accident. I didn't know what to expect from it, so I began to explore. I read through most of the comments or not most of them but some of them hand they seem pretty interesting. A lot of diverse people on these threads, interesting comments. My status, married and I've been told for 13 years. This is my second. I don't know what to expect from this site, but there's an urge that has not been fulfilled in my 59 years a fixation on white women....there I said it!! I'm not ashamed having said so, although growing up as as a young man, I didn't date very much, and I was raised by my mother. My father was absent from the home, but return periodically for birthdays Christmas and important dates such as these. My oldest brother he was absent from the house as well out with friends his own age but I really never had stable man figure in my life do my formative years.
I guess this explains why I have roaming eyes... my father was divorced for my mother but he's still loved her very much even though his infidelity sealed his fate for a long-term relationship with my mom. My fixation has emerged recently within the past 5 to 10 years. My first wife she was black she was 12 years my senior. My current marriage is 6 years her senior. My first marriage didn't yield any biological children but I raised both of my first wife's children from Age 4 and 2 years old. The second time around I'm raising two boys and one girl not biological but I do have one biological with my wife who is now 13 years of age. I guess having no father in the home makes me wayward? For lack of a better term. For those reading this post try not to judge me too harshly. I also posted a question; "Can a man love two women?" I currently find myself still having feelings for my first wife, having feelings for my current wife, and wanting to explore white women. Confused? Puzzled or confuzzled. However despite the latter, I'm a black man intelligent enough to know what I want. I guess I need affection I need to be told that I'm loved. My current wife says that I'm "too sensitive".... I believe a man should have some type or some level of sensitivity about himself concerning whatever issues are important to him, and should be understood by his woman her black or white. Black women tend to be much harder on black men oh, much more scrutinized by them at least that's my opinion and experience. Not so much for my first oh, but more so by my second. Maybe I won't find that in a white woman she'll be much more agreeable? Would like to know your comments.