Should You Ever Take Womens Advice On How To Get Women ?

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Tears of laughter, gaiety, humour, mirth or whatever going on here.

 

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Disgusting!

 

The costume is shocking, but I don't know if I'd ever call a vag 'disgusting'.

 

If a man wants good advice on how to get dates with women, the best thing he can do is talk to a guy who is good at getting dates ( and getting laid) with women. Provided, that guy isn't trickin' off his money to get with them. That's the guy who's advice is golden in situations like this. Bar none.

 

well stated

 

Yeah I'd guess ya'll are right that men who are good at picking up women probably give good advice at the same. My best gf is married to a professional pickup artist in LA. While I don't know how many of his clients are successful, his giving advice to men on how to pick up women brings him about $300K a year. When I read his "materials," or listen to him on tv, I think his advice is bs. Not bad advice, just elementary .. like I could sum it up: "Be confident. Appear to listen and clean the bathtub." But hey, he's certainly doing something right. And I haven't heard of men paying women like that for their advice.

A curious side note tho, my friend has been separated three of the four years of their marriage. I have no doubt it was probably mostly her fault that it didn't work out. But does make you wonder if a guy's advice on how to keep a woman is as good as on how to get in her pants.

So on the whole the facts (money) says men's advice on getting women probably better. But that said if ya'll want my two cents I could think of a few tips.

 

I think we established women are probably better at what it takes to keep a woman rather than getting one but then again I listen to certain podcasts where the advice men give on keeping women seems so spot on its sad and scary. It seems like women live to be constantly shown that you are more dominant and they need to fall in line and follow you. Women a strong decisive person to follow because they can't make up their own minds. So sad but seemingly very true. The most successful relationships I see are where the men are the bread winners and make the majority of the family decisions.

 

what podcasts? I doubt you need any advice getting women. You strike me as confident, you're smart, good taste, and you got your act together. And you're good-looking. As for keeping a woman, I'd just say relax and let go of generalizations about women, and about white women. Let go of being the victim and of doom and gloom. If you want a relationship with a white woman stop seeing her as the enemy.
My black male friends and boyfriends never act as tho they resented me or their other white girl friends. After reading this site I was curious if they secretly felt the same way as some posters here, and so I asked a close black male friend once: "Do I inadvertently act racist or do you ever see me as part of the problem?" He seemed annoyed by the question and made fun of me for being on this web site.

 

Well as most men will tell you once you're in a ltr with a woman it becomes more about man woman shit more than race the majority of the time. I have never once played the victim on here or in my life. A lot of people continue to make the assumption that if I talk about something it means I personally deal with it all the time and that couldn't be further from the truth. I guess I'm more empathetic than most because I don't need to experience something to feel the pain of it. And race has nothing to do with me seeing women overall as an opposing for based on our culture. American culture pits men and women against each other that's just fact. The demand for equality at every turn until we become intimate... I could go on but I'm sure you get my point.
And I think the question you could ask an ex is not are you part of the problem because I doubt anyone would date you long term if they thought so. I think the more important question is do you feel comfortable talking to me about race issues? Do you feel pressure to keep things light and simple because you don't think I will "get it"?
I think that would bring about dialogue in my opinion.

 

I don't know if it's just me or not, but I don't ever feel uncomfortable talking about race with others regardless of their skin color. I am comfortable in most settings regardless who's around and I don't typically see color. I see instead the issues at hand, the injustice others face and I do see inequality among the races.

It's not that I am oblivious or even insensitive. I guess I'm just for the most part comfortable in talking about life and open to the expressions and ideas others share with me.

To the OP, I guess that the people closest to someone I may want more information about would one of the first people I would seek information from, regardless their sex. But I'd be inclined to ask someone very close to me, like my mother or father, sister or brother before I ventured out for advice from someone I didn't already trust would offer me sound and smart advice.

The best way to learn about another person is watching and observing them with and without you around. Learn for yourself the kinds of things they are interested in and make your own judgement call. It's always hard to seek an unbiased opinion.

 

Another example is another (distinct from the one I referenced above) black male friend who I noticed seems to come to me when feeling upset about current media racial events (like police shootings, etc.). Of course it's not cause I have anything brilliant to say or am magically comforting. In fact I'm not all that generous a friend to him really. Haven't really had time for him. Rather, I assume it's cause I'm one of the few white friends he has that he feels comfortable expressing himself. He knows my perspective, that I'm sympathetic to his pain. Understand that's hard to come by for a man in our geography. He texts me and another girl friend (who also happens to be his only other white-woman-who-dates-black-men friend) things he doesn't post on facebook, etc. I kinda thought this forum would serve as a similarly safe place for black men and white women to converse more about what they share in common than "seeing women as overall opposing. " Cause hell, you don't have to go online looking for opposition.

 

Well the thing about you and some of the other female posters on here is you have black biracial/black kids. Not only do you date bm your kids are black so you are fully invested in this. You don't have the option to opt out so for you its a little different than it is for most.

 

Well of course I see certain commonalities but I'm often reminded of how different we are when it comes to certain dating practices or how different we can see child support obligations. Stuff like that. We are pitted against each other.

 

As a child support lawyer I absolutely know what you're saying. As cynical as you are, believe me I'm more by a lightyear.

Was hoping this forum wouldn't be like work.

 

lol
By the way the podcast I was referring to was the Beige Phillip show with Dante Nero
Interesting stuff. If you want me to recommend particular shows let me know

 

Cool thanks! :freehug: Though maybe not my topic of course, I'm kinda a podcast junkie. Gonna check it out. And likely return with a comment (HAHA). thanks!!

 

so true....getting a women is half the job..knowing she is the one and keeping her is the other half

 

So for those of us who are past childbearing years and we didn't have the opportunity to date let alone have children with BM, our opinions hold little weight or our feelings are not genuine. Got it. So, for me, dating men my age, most of them married black women the first time around. They have black children. Should I discount them as viable partners because they didn't date WW from the get-go? I mean, I could be a princess and say I will only date BM who've always been attracted to WW.