stats on women abusing men...the big secret

That was just a friendly conversation among associates that came up because of Northsides comment.

Im gonna laugh so think what you want. :butthead:

 

Lol

 

Its ignored ..well if you see some of the posts then u will understand why.

Also there are other forms of abuse.

 

I know men experience psychological and emotional abuse from their significant others.

But the physical abuse thing is still foreign to me. Sorry.:smt062

I guess it's sort of like you hear about kids who grew up cussing at their parents.
That didn't happen in my house growing up and it didn't happen with any of my cousins, or friends on the block.
For some families I suppose it's a problem with their children using profanity, but with my mom and uncles that was a no-go.


And FLoyd can't bring a blade to our street fight!! Come on son.
Mano a mano, skin on skin.:smt081

 

i noticed the deflecting too.

 

Great post TDK!!!! Very thoughtful

 

In most physical confrontations between a random man and woman, who has the advantage?? No weapons??

This is the point I'm making and why the incidence of male domestic abuse is personally hard to process.

 

Out of all the people suffering in this world, we are supposed to have sympathy for a man getting beat by a woman.




If a man can't solve that problem for himself, you are not doing him any favors by feeling sorry for him.

 

Then You dont understand how abuse works, You can be the physically stronger in a relationship and still be physically abused because there is an enormous mental component to it. The victims is emotionally and mentally broken before the physically abuse starts

See above. Sad, so sad

 

I've been in this situation before. I'm speaking from experience. I think the guy should either sack-up and walk. Or, if he opts to stay, don't whine about it. She's not hurting you that much and men, for the most part, mentally process these kinds of things differently. We are not the same. Why are we acting like we are?

Most men will not be mentally broken because his crazy ass girlfriend feels like Rhonda Rousy from time to time. You deal with it and move on. Why call the authorities? What is that going to do but underline how much you can't handle the life you've created for yourself? What is our society turning into? Men need to be men about these things. If you can't make her stop, leave her. It's that simple.

I am not the mostly manly of men. Almost any woman I've dated in my adult life could kick my ass. So, if I can see that, anyone should.

 

Now switch around would we tell a woman that?

 

No. Because, most of the time, men and women process these kinds of things differently. We are not the same. I know it sounds sexist and goes against what society tells these days, but it's the truth.

 

Yeah, I most definitely disagree with that. Male or female no one should be putting their hands on you unless it's in self-defense no matter what the circumstances are. What starts out with hands and feet often escalates to weapons.

The best way to deal with it? Call the cops, file a report, and if necessary, have her removed from the house or arrested. Ignoring the problem isn't going to make it go away; if nothing else it just reinforces the fact that they can get away with physical violence and not face any consequences.

Plus, what happens when the violence on her part escalates, things get heated, and she really ends up hurt because the man didn't hold back defending himself? You'd better believe that if the neighbors hear fighting and call the cops the man is going to be the one locked up 80% of the time, especially if there are visible injuries. Calling the police and filing a report is a way to protect yourself if nothing else. When worse comes to worst you want to have those incident reports to fall back on.

Exactly. You'd never hear anyone tell a woman that because that would be ridiculous. If you wouldn't tell a woman that then you shouldn't tell a man that.

 

But I think that goes to his point that we're not universally equal. Sometimes things apply to one gender that don't necessarily equally apply to the other. No matter what may be politically correct/incorrect, it is what it is.

 

I love your hypocrisy so I'm this situation women should suffer no consequences because we're universally different right? But how will she ever learn lol
You're a tiny person who exclusively dates only deal with men so much bigger than you it's comical to think of you abusing them but that's not the only male female dynamic and even if it were why should one person get away with something the other can't. What should be allowed to do that women can't?

 

That may be true but physical abuse is something that no one should put up with, period. I'm not the biggest guy in the world but I'm not necessarily small, either. Most of the women I've dated are smaller than me physically but I've also dated women taller than me and women in better shape than me.

Regardless of our physical dimensions I wouldn't tolerate her putting her hands on me at all. Her having a vagina doesn't mean that she gets to swing on me any more than me having a penis means that I have to let myself get swung on.

Plus calling the police and filing a report serves another purpose: it lets the one doing violence know that there are consequences for their actions and if they're smart, they'll clean their act up before they raise their hands up at the wrong person.

 

I never said a guy being abused can't report it and I never said a woman abusing a man should be let go Scott free. I specifically stated that I feel BOTH men and women should respect themselves enough to walk away from a situation like that. If they choose not to, that's their choice. I don't see men and women as physical equals. It is what it is.

 

I absolutely agree. Belligerent women who choose to try and fight their men get no sympathy or pass from me. My apologies if I gave that impression.

 

I wasn't trying to come across as harsh or angry. My bad if it came across that way. I can be a blunt person and sometimes I can't turn it off once I leave the office lol.

 

What I'm saying is the first time she becomes abusive you leave her ass alone. But, if you choose to stay, then deal with the choice you've made and not get all butt hurt about your ass whoopins.

Now, I can understand calling the police to cover your ass legally should it get out of hand. But, don't try to get me to believe you are psychologically scarred or were too afraid to leave.

Be real. That crazy girl pussy had you whipped and you didn't want to give that up.