What's The Worst Part About Dating ... You?

Honestly, I never really gave it much thought.

I have two demanding and stressful jobs so I am pretty busy most of the time. My mind is usually all over the place and I can't seem to sit still most of the time. Between being a mom and managing my busy life, sometimes it's hard to get me to settle down or take a break because I am always thinking about what needs to be done.

I am a neat freak and I know I drive my son crazy so I'm sure that may be annoying to someone dating me.

I am more of a care taker and don't tend to take the same level of care and concern over myself (always a last priority) and I know that's bad... Trying to be better to myself. I am tired of being Wonder Woman so I could use some tlc...

I get mean when I get into my feelings and can be a little over-emo...

I am probably annoying sometimes too

I am very independent and a bit hard headed.

 

Leave it to TDK to make this thread a men vs. women thread. LOL.

Hey, TDK, this thread is actually about what the worst part about dating us, as individuals.

So, TDK, your post should be about what is the worst part about dating YOU for any girlfriend of yours.

It's NOT, in fact, the worst part about dating, in general.

Reading comprehension, TDK... :freehug:

 

The worst part about dating me would be that I'm a loner, mostly. It stems from being really shy.

I don't mind being alone most of the time and most of my favorite activities, reading and going to movies, keep me in that state.

Even going to movies with other people, unless you're talking throughout the movie, which is incredibly rude, then you're still enjoying the experience as an individual. It's only after the movie is over that you can compare notes and have discussions, which is something I also love to do.

But, really, I prefer a solitary life and rarely seek out others to do things with...

 

The worst part about dating me is that I'm moody as hell sometimes. And I am not a fan of talking on the phone for hours. I vanish off the face of the earth for days at a time because if given a choice I would rather not be around people. It gets even worse when I'm burned out from work.

But I'm really a nice person. I swear!

 

I'm this way when someone bugs for me to talk about my feelings. I get so annoyed. I'm not the venting type. I'm the quiet, figure things out by myself type...and some dudes can't handle that. They think I'll feel better if I just vent. Nope. I'm good, thx.

 

Covered it in the video genius. The worst thing about me is I have next to no desire to be my woman's friend because she doesn't want to be my friend. She just wants an activity partner

 

There are men who actually push the feelings conversation? Who knew

 

I do that.

As you get older, you find it works better.

 

I tend not to ask about emotions that's a personal journey I can rarely help wirh. I absolutely detest codependency

 

It helps to figure out where someone is coming from.

You got to talk things out but not while you are mad.

 

Interesting concept. In my experience minds pretty much never change. I've yet to have an argument where it ended and both parties listened and understood each other's position and could move on from there.
Maybe I'm wrong just yet to come across a woman who takes responsibility and admits to being wrong about anything.

 

A person who has no desire to be their partners friend? Lol might be the worst trait I've read in this thread!

This is why I hate being asked. It's not going to change anything so I'd rather just deal with it on my own.

Guess it depends. If it's talking about issues in a relationship I agree. I was referring to guys bugging me to vent about like work issues/stress etc. I think they think they're being nice and trying to be supportive but I'm just not that talk-about-my-problems chick. I'd rather spend the time finding a solution to fix said problem.

 

That's pretty sad. Maybe the problem is you? You do seem to love controversy.

 

The best relationships are built on friendships.

Do you admit to her when you are wrong?

And judging from how you interact with anyone who doesn't agree with you on here, I'm not surprised to learn about your experiences in the dating world.

Part of maturing and growing as a person is changing your worldviews based on new knowledge. If you're with someone who isn't willing to listen to other points of view and if you are also not willing to listen to other points of view, then a healthy relationship won't ever materialize.

Healthy relationships are about learning from each other and complementing each other and compromising.

It's NOT about who is right and who is wrong.

 

Yeah that sounds good but I've never really seen it. Every "good" relationship involves a silent sufferer. Not saying this every single relationship because I have no way of knowing that but there are a lot of men I've come in contact with who do a lot and say very little to keep the peace in their household and its sad because their women will never know because these same women create an environment where any discussion they don't personally sanction can't exist. They simply don't want to hear it and make a big stink about it. Again one more time for the slow readers of course its not everyone but when I listen to a lot of men talk they feel so trapped.
Like I said I think a lot of women gain a friend in a relationship but not many men and I really can't blame women since most men aren't vocal about it. We don't raise boys to identify and talk about the pain we just tell them to walk it off deal with it on your own but most of all keep that shit to yourself nobody wants to hear your whining.

And for the record I definitely cop to being wrong a lot on here you just don't see it because you fixate on me having the nerve to disagree on something you feel passionate about.

 

Still single and miserable I see. Hang in there girl everything will be alright :smt039:smt039:smt039

 

I've always gotten that's how they feel close to me, by talking about problems but I have no desire to feel close to someone through pain.

And like I've said I rarely if ever see friendships in heterosexual relationships. Think about your best friend, is there anything you can't discuss? Is there any topic off limits? More importantly if you don't feel like talking to your friend for days even weeks is there anything resembling hard feelings?

 

Well stated AA. tdk , you may want to take heed to what hes saying. Dudes learn real quick tobtap into that side and then really listen to them too. Lastly admit when u are wrong and if uvare rite then give them an out to save face.

 

As far as I'm concerned absolutely nothing.

You would probably have to ask him for a more honest answer.

 

Spoken like nearly every womanI've ever dated lol