your friends is dating someone with you had an one night stand....

I think this is such a non-issue. If we are talking about something that happened years ago and they didn't even know each other...I think it's foolish that someone would find issue with it.

As far as if I would tell or not? I think it's usually pretty obvious if two people know each other from before (in any way) and since I don't think it's a big deal...probably. I think it's more sketchy if people are hiding things and they end up coming out later (which they always do!)

If it was a situation where it was me who was now dating the friend, I would let him know myself. If he took issue with it, then I would rather know and move on.

I certainly don't think two single adults playing years ago defines their character.

I think it can be very difficult to find someone we really want to be with in life, why worry about such stupid shit

 

Right. If it wasn't meaningful to either party, what's the point of bringing it up at all?

 

One of my best friends I would tell. No to others.

 

I'd tell him if she didn't say something first. I'd hate to have that awkward secret between us. If he decides not to be with her because of it, he made a conscious choice after having full knowledge of the situation. He should be allowed that opportunity.

 

Girlfriend comes to me with hey I slept with your man one night...I confront him about it...he says, I must have been drunk out of my mind to sleep with her she's crazy...now who looks stupid? The one doing the telling sounds like he or she hoped for more...keep your mouth shut

 

If their relationship was serious, I wouldn't say anything.

 

Nah, it's simply a:

"Hey man, I'm not trying to stir anything up. I know you're really into Sarah, so I just think you should know that we went out one night a few months ago and had a little too much to drink and we had sex."

conversation.

From there, he can make a decision on what he wants to do. To me, that's far better than him finding out some other way (friends who might talk, they get in an argument and she throws it in his face, or during the course of their breakup) down the road and wondering why I hid it from him. I rather explain it to him on neutral grounds than to have him approach me on it down the road and now I'm being backed into a corner and potentially losing a friend over it.

 

Yeah...she mentioned it and hoped you had forgotten...said you called her a few times but she wasn't feeling you...can of worms opened...these things never end well once pandora'/ box has been opened

 

Smart man. That's how a true friend would handle it.

 

I will weigh how mature he is before i take a decision whether to tell him

 

Heres a question. If you are dating someone your friend had an one nite stand with , would you stay with them/ cobtinue to date them?

 

As long as there aren't no feelings or sneaky shit going on, we good

 

Amen!!!

 

Not my problem or my business keep it moving.

 

I would definitely say something.

 

Date? Yes. Be serious with? No.

 

No,if it was only a one night stand and the person and I did not stay in touch,there was obviously not that much of a connection and it all lies in the past. Everyone has a past and a lot of people don't really want to know about their partner's past sexual experience in all detail.
I don't see a reason to mention it to my friend.