Should Women Ask Men Out?

I know you are playing, but I do think there are differences in areas.

 

Spend more time looking for quality and those personality traits that attract you and go for what you want. Pick and choose. Nothing wrong with that, men been doing this for years.

 

Your first sentence is a riot. You don't date online. You meet someone online to date. Just like you meet someone other places, you just don't have the advantage of physically interacting with them from the start.

 

Ches you know there is a difference. We are talking about connecting/meeting in life, not online.

 

What the heck do you think they do after they meet online???? Tell me Kin, how huge a difference is there between chatting with a stranger in a grocery store for 10 minutes and then exchanging phone numbers and meeting someone online and exchanging phone numbers? The only advantage is that you have seen him in the flesh for those 10 minutes. You've had the meet and greet, so to speak. Beyond that, everything is the same. You talk on the phone, you make plans for a date, you meet and it goes from there.

 

Come on Ches, you know as well as I do - it's very different to be online than being face to face with someone. Meeting online is very different than meeting someone in public. If you are on a dating site you are specifically on that site saying you are single and looking to meet someone. So are the other people on there. If you are out in public, you don't know who's single or not, who's looking or not, etc. You are on a computer, which is very different than walking up to someone and introducing yourself.

 

I think the only difference is that someone could be lying about what they look like. I mean you don't know who is single and who is not online either. You just assume that they are telling the truth. It is probably crueler. You can reject someone and never feel any remorse or wrong although some do that in real life.....

 

exactly. to me on the other hand its more saring to do it in person. in any case no major difference.

 

Seriously?

I think there is a huge difference. On a dating site you are specifically in a group of people who are (supposedly) single and looking to meet someone. While they may not be single or who they claim to be, you are in an environment where the common idea is to meet someone. I think people are more apt to put themselves out to approach someone who has put themselves out as being single on a site, rather than some random person at the market. People tend to be much more brave behind the phone or computer. I think people tend to be much more nervous/intimidated when it comes to approaching someone out in public.

If it really was the same, how come so many people talk about how they now pretty much only meet people to date through online means rather than in person?

I have to wonder then - if it's the same and IF you have been on online dating sites, have you approached as many women out in public as you have online?

 

How many men have you met through online dating?

 

When you meet someone online I would imagine you don't have the non-verbal communication as you would have in person. Does that not make a difference?

 

Many..... I've done the online dating site thing off and on since 2007.

I wouldn't think twice about sending a man a note on a dating site. That's very different than if I was out in public and walking up to a man to express interest.

 

I don't do the dating site thing. I deleted my pof and tinder because generally speaking dating sites don't seem to work too well for black men. I do better out in the field actively looking.

 

Can't argue there

I've had women flat out tell me no because I was black on the internet

At least in the real world, you have the ability to physically read people before approaching

The internet just feels too much like a crap shoot unless ur on a site like this

 

Lol. That's going to be the new crime in 2020. On the net while black. :smt081 Soon as they start policing this shit get ready.

 

Well that's the thing - it IS different. In some ways easier, in some ways harder. People are more likely to approach and also more likely to say things they wouldn't say in person, online. I know guys approached me online that never would in person and visa versa.

OT - I think the dating site thing has changed quite a bit over the years. When I first did it, I would meet people and maybe we didn't "click" but for the most part they were sincere decent people. The last time I tried it, it was mostly bs (married, in prison, old photos, and on and on).

 

exactly. I've had similar experiences. I think when women filter out men on dating sites they're only looking for a specific pre-determined type. There's no chance to win anyone over.

 

It makes a difference but not a huge one. If two people don't fart around texting for weeks on end, and actually plan a date, you get to the same place that two people who meet in person do by the first or second date

 

You ain't neva lied

1-3 years upstate in the penitentiary for trollin a forum while black, da fuq?

I don't know what this thread's about anymore...but the stats don't lie and they say trollin websites for pussy while black dont work

 

cry baby. trollin websites for dick while fat dont work either. so what tha fuq??