she threw away the exwife stuff. would u?

http://www.steveharvey.com/strawberry-letter/wrong-throwing-stuff-away/

would u have done the same thing?

 

Nope...I would have brought it all downstairs and let her know that I found something's of hers in the attic and wanted to make sure she got them back. Then loaded them in to her car on the next kid exchange

 

No. This woman sounds dumb.

 

Nice response.

 

Maybe it's because there is someone's entire life in the dumpster located in the alley behind my house...I don't know if someone died or got kicked out but it just made me sick to see the contents of someone's house in the dumpster...they could have taken that stuff to goodwill...it pains me to see all the stuff people throw away

I felt sad when I saw all the pictures...surely someone in that family would have liked the pictures

 

I think the fiance was wrong to toss the stuff. I get that it's her home now, but I think she was out of line. I think she should've made her fiance aware of this with the expectation that he'd return the stuff to his ex-wife. He he contacted the ex-wife in regards to returning the stuff, and she said to toss it... Then fine... throw it out.

 

Class act. I like this.

 

She definitely needs to let the ex know. I would have said her fiancee but clearly he either

a) forgot the stuff was up there
b) never knew about the stuff

I am willing to bet the man forgot it was up there (95% of the time the man is the one that takes boxes in and out of the attic). Never intentional, the box was left up there and quite frankly, at least given her attitude in the letter, she was hard pressed, being nosy. She's also too concerned about marking her territory, and didn't even think once about the ex's sentimental belongings and what they truly meant for her, having held onto them for so many years.

She's bitter and mean.

I personally would have told my fiancee, and then make sure he told her about the box/es so that the ex could pick them up on their next exchange.

 

she surely shouldve told her man to handle it

 

Good point, Cherok33 and goodlove. I didn't think about that. If the stuff was in his house, as opposed to theirs, it was his job to remove the items, not hers.

 

"Since this is MY HOUSE now and I am the head female of this house, the last thing I need is bad energy from the past, especially some from a still bitter ex-wife? I say bitter because she comes from a family of negrodian divorces. She would have been perfectly happy to remain separated till death, like her other family members. But he wanted to get rid of her, so he could move on with his life and me."

Seriously, who says shit like that? I hope he dumps her before he makes the mistake of marrying her, and finds a better stepmother material for his kids that this wannabe diva.

 

What the hell does that mean?

 

But, nope would never go behind my guy like that. Bring it up and have him deal with it
the way he wants and go from there

 

:smt023 Yep take your shit and Keep it moving!!

 

I really don't understand what her problem is.
A box in the attic or the basement shouldn't be seen as a thread to a relationship.
Either something is already wrong with the relationship or with this girl.
If a man/woman is insecure to that level, there is definitely trouble ahead.

I would be able to relate if there were still pictures of the ex (or them together) on the wall.
Still I would not just throw them away.

We all have a past, but as long as it is in a box and not interfering with you and your partner's presence - why bother?

 

Lippy is right. I wouldn't take it upon myself to throw away someone else's things. I'd ask my fiancé to notify her, or if I knew her myself, I'd contact her and let her know she had things in the attic and if she wanted them, to let me know when she'd be by to pick them up. If she got the message, but neglected to come get the things, then I would get rid of them. I wouldn't want anyone to dispose of my things without my knowledge, so I'm not going to do it to someone else.

 

Let me say like that...I'm too old for kindergarden games...of course you let the ex-wife know that there are some pictures and other stuff of hers around and talk to her in a decent way. All that jealousy is just a sign of your own lack of self-confidence

 

Exactly!