Me and my current s.o. (a cute red head) have been dating for a year and a half already but we both know it'll be ending in the near future (mid 20s, finishing school soon, different life, career, traveling and living goals). I've always loved women in general, never cared much about race but I took extra care to notice and celebrate black women and pro blackness ( I have a huge family of nearly all women). The problem for me is that I'm not especially attracted to black women anymore. I live in a predominately black city and nearly every black woman I encounter, I get a sisterly or cousin vibe from and I'm just not interested in dating them. I've become extremely attracted to white woman and it sounds a little cheesy and stereotypical but I can't get enough of being in an interracial relationship. The contrast is really that important. Which is a thought that still surprises me. It feels like if I want to continue dating I have to go out of my way and fish through a dating pool that's 30% smaller and then finding a woman that's attractive enough and open minded to dating a black man which decreases the dating pool even more. Has anyone else had trouble with not being attracted to your own race anymore? And how did it effect your dating opportunities and relationships both intimate or otherwise?
You'd be surprised how many women will date whomever they choose, provided the approach is correct and they're independent and mature. I've dated women of all races, and been a first for women who "never did this before", etc. If it's a good fit for both people, a couple can be surprisingly willing to follow their happiness.
Yanno bob, after being involved with a Martian for so long...I just have trouble going back to humans
I find BM most physically attractive, so I choose not to date WM, although I have considered a few. I also find some Hispanic men attractive.
For some odd reason, Bane's quote from the Dark Knight popped into my head when I read what you wrote... Ah you think darkness is your ally? You merely adopted the dark. I was born in it, molded by it. I didn't see the light until I was already a man, by then it was nothing to me but blinding! Of course I'm a Dark Knight fan though.
I don't know. When I think about it, I probably won't. The title is only just one part. It was more about dealing with how to find a date, (even in a relatively large city) but with the restriction of race thrown in. It's much easier for me to meet a decent black woman than it is for me to meet a decent white woman that's willing to date out of her race.
I wish I knew what the dark knight was lol. I think it's something about batman (?) but I could be completely off lol. Anyways, fitting quote!
