Why I hope my mixed-race son doesn't stay 'white'

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by Ches, Nov 23, 2014.

  1. Ches

    Ches Well-Known Member

  2. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    Obviously one of those couples who don't live in a very racially diverse area, especially where there are other interracial couples/families.
     
  3. JamahlSharif

    JamahlSharif Well-Known Member

    Wow. That's my son Noah's story to a tee
     
  4. free816

    free816 New Member

    Yes this is Ches, Think I've told the board I adopted my wife's bi-racial kids, she chose white on birth certificate ( which is fine btw) but ESP son I did raise him to know his ass is 1/2 black and that is a dangerous thing in this country, he is 18 now raised him in suburbia doesn't know the "black experience" but when the day comes society reminds him he should be prepared to deal with
    Oops forgot to say white people for the most part has no idea he is bi-racial blue eyes and all, daughter no denying she is lol
     
  5. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    Its tuff for the parents knowing what the world going to do
     
    Last edited: Nov 24, 2014
  6. RaiderLL

    RaiderLL Well-Known Member

    My friends son is like that. She even did a paternity test because the father thought no way was that his son. Blond/light brown hair, blue eyes and a typical surfer skin tone. It'll work to his advantage as he gets older no doubt.
     
  7. Soulthinker

    Soulthinker Well-Known Member

    Free816,I remember reading a article written by a White Father of doing "The Talk" to his adopted Black son.
     
  8. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    Sounds like Kendra's kid

    He definitely has that future surfer dude look lol
     
  9. Soulthinker

    Soulthinker Well-Known Member

    Like Gabrielle Reese who passed big time for White.
     
  10. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    It sucks that society puts its hangups about group identification on the shoulders of its children.
     
  11. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    It's because we are at the mercy of the ignorant. Those fools kill
     
  12. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    Its not just society...the census bureau is struggling to identify race in America as well...if the lines become blurred enough it could eventually be just gender and age...
     
  13. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    Seems like society is ruled by the lowest common denominator.
     
  14. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Exactly! And I seriously don't know how we can change that. Hopefully technology will come up with a way that doesn't enslave us all in order to keep the peace.
     
  15. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    It IS sad that the world forces our beautiful children with subjectifying and instilling the need to identify or claim one particular ethnic race, based on the color of their skin or eyes, or the texture of their hair. Kids identify differences in appearance at early ages and instead of learning and appreciating those differences, the world segregates us. Very sad.
     
  16. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    In response to TDK's earlier comment, I wonder if we are indeed ever going to get past this as a society. You're so right, Cherok33 - children are the future and should not have to be burdened with the neuroses of their parents.
     
  17. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    It's funny if you had asked me when I was younger if we made progress I would say yes but sometimes I wonder. Shit seems more divided than ever. Maybe I was really naive but the writing is on the wall and seems like we're headed for segregation again but this time it will be voluntary.
     
  18. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    My input

    I recently (like literally 3 months ago) found out that my great grandfather on my fathers side was lily white. My grandmother had fair-ish skin, but I thought that was the ole 'black people can produce all the shades in kids' trick. I used to see a few pics of a tall white guy in her home but NO ONE ever talked about him or you know, claimed him as a gotdamn relative, so i never paid it any mind.

    I never, ever considered myself mixed because I don't possess features associated with black/white kids. Internally, all that I have accepted was anything associated with being black, because of the struggle that I am a part of whether I like it or not. I've also taken some shots against mixed guys who really do look white, but...you know...when you shake that damn family tree you never know who's going to fall out.

    So yeah long story short, this whole white/black thing is a farce considering how many people like me actually have mixed lineage and don't even know about it.

    Unless of course you stop being mixed after a certain amount of generations.........
     
  19. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    @petty exactly. You never know whats in your family tree....
     
  20. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    It's also hard to you know, want to claim that part of me because SOCIETY never viewed me as mixed race/part white. To many, if ur not 'full white' or fucking look it, u have no right to claim 'whiteness' whatsoever

    Ur just another n-bomb on the plantation
     

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