Your white love and her white son

Why doesn't the son want the guy to be with his mom? Was the son like that with the mom's other BFs too? If it's just this one, is there something that the son doesn't like about this particular guy?

 

Agreed! Definitely something for the Mom to sort out as the child could see something. I personally would expect the children to be a bit guarded with someone new, and hopefully they'd eventually be able to let down the guard.

 

:smt017Oh!:smt043:smt043:smt043 Lmao!! :smt006Thank you! :smt039

 

Yes. Also, a good/caring son might not let a shady dude around his mom, IMO. I know I wouldn't.

 

Agreed! Not trying to toot my own horn, but I think I played that role too. I was about 14 y/o old when my Mom starting dating again, and I admit that I was a bit over-protective. I can recall two guys basically trying to act extra friendly toward me, and I was seeing through it. They didn't last for whatever reason. By time I turned 16 y/o my Mom was in a relationship with a good guy. He'd often stop by on Friday or Saturday, and was always genuinely a pleasant person. I noticed that they got along very well, my Mom seemed very happy, and that's what mattered to me.

 

:smt023

 

Couldn't have said it better :smt023

 

My wild guess would be that the father is latin or some other ethnicity. Or perhaps he's a panda. lol

 

Tell that little fucker to have a coke and a smile and mind his damn business.

 

Never ran into such situation and most of women who had white kids from former relationship whom I met found it very cool their mom is seeing a black man. However met one woman who has biracial half black half white daughter who didnt want her mom seeing me...I left it alone

 

I could definitely relate to this situation, as it almost perfectly describes my situation. (except my son is not against my relationship, is very supportive and happy for me and gets along with my partner great!) and of course I can only speak from the white woman's perspective and not the man's which is what the original thread is about. I was in my early 40s and my son was in his early 20s and still living at home (still does lol) at the time when I met my current partner, which happens to be my first interracial relationship. When it was clear that things between us are working out and we have more serious intentions for each other it was time to make the introduction and I just couldn't help nut be anxious about how he would react to me being with a black man. Not that I had any reason to, but it was the first time encountering IR for both of us so I couldn't help but be nervous. (I must admit that I kept my relationship from my son longer than I probably would have if I was dating a white man for that reason lol) So before I actually introduced them, I sat down with my son and told him that I met someone, we seem to be a great match and that he happens to be black. My son's reaction was nothing but positive, as I said before he was very supportive and very happy for me right from the get go and did not seem to care about race at all, which of course is the way it should be. Kids today are much more accepting and tolerant so I don't think this would be an issue for most parents.
Having said that, I did have these concerns before I told him about it and "what would I do if he disapproves" did cross my mind. What I WOULD have done is continue to see him, while keeping some distance between them at first, continue to tell my son how we are great for each other and he makes me happy and gradually get him to accept my relationship and then get to know my partner. In other words, I would have been gentle but assertive about it, and if that didn't work then I would have told him that he doesn't have to approve of my relationship since he is now an adult and my life is mine and his is his. Of course, like I said none of this had to happen.

 

Just wished LF or her Black male friend would read your response.