Snooping

I agree. I think a story like this deserves a textbook, happy ending. Even if you just published the diary, many people would still read it though, myself included. Okay, i was wondering if you were actually legally divorced from your crazed ex-husband. Hopefully he can agree to sign the papers, or whatever the procedure is, and legally allow you to leave the marriage and go on with your life.

 

Ehh I have ocasionally e-snooped on an ex to see what his new girlfriend looks like and things like that. I haven't done it to anyone recently though.

I was annoyed to find my ex's new girlfriend's (the one he cheated on me with) profile was private at the time.

I think everyone snoops around a bit.

Oh and your ex sounds like a psychopath, DH. He needs professional help, seriously. Does he have a girlfriend right now? Do you know if he's like that to her. He sounds like one of the guys who would just snap and end up killing someone. Scary .

 

I've never done that. I never let myself get to that point. Really, if I have to go through all that, I'd rather end the relationship. I'm too young for all that drama bullshit.

 

I've e-snooped on my first two exs, just to see how they were doing and to see their new girlfriends (Both are pretty fug, I was pretty pleased ) but in general it's not something I do.
When we broke up, I did e-snoop on my ex a bit. I couldn't care less about who he hooks up with but I care about whther he's alive or not. He has a tendancy to get himself into trouble so I want to know that he's well. We don't have any mutual friends (because his friends are knobs) so I did e-snoop on him, but now that we aren't facebook friends we don't keep in touch at all.

You know you have a bad break-up when you aren't even facebook friends

 

haha, true!

 

Hah, yeah, I usually delete my exes from social networking sites. They just take up room. With one of my exes I just deleted my account because I couldn't be bothered deleting every single thing that had anything to do with him. It's funny after a break up seeing who changes their status first. I don't usually change it to single though because you get loads of messages asking what happened so I just set it to nothing. Easier . It's always people who never usually talk to you either just trying to be nosey.

 

Ahh I'd love to be like that. I love a good snoop though. :wink: I have looked through boyfriends phones too. Well, 2 of them. One to get the number of a guy that I liked (LOL) and one to just be nosey 'cause I thought he was messin' around. Your gut instinct is usually right.

I wouldn't do that anymore. I wouldn't want someone looking through my things so I wouldn't do that to someone else.

 

OMG thats why I love you. You just come right out and say it. No beating around the bush! :smt058

 

Mever did and i never will do in the future ..and its something i will never forgive if someone does this to me.

 

I snoop on everyone that I can. I'm extremely nosey and investigative. I'm a natural researcher and my man lovingly calls me his little detective. My horoscope says I'm a natural born detective. Yep, I e-snoop. I've e-snooped my man, his father, an ex of my man (don't know why, just couldn't resist. It was pointless though and I won't do it again), and an online friend of 10 years. People have even asked me to snoop for them and find people for them. I've found a bunch of long lost friends through MySpace that I lost touch with, but then again, that's kind of what it's for. I do a lot at whitepages.com and I've looked my man up at IDOC and if he talks about anyone, like a "friend" in there with him, I'll look them up too and see what they're in for etc, I don't really know if (looking my man up) that's e-snooping though when you're just seeing what you already know and he's okay with it and he's my man. I've e-snooped my man's cousins at Indianasmostwanted.com to give them a heads up that they had a warrant. All I need is a last name, phone number and/or any address, current or previous. I've never done it for any negative reasons or motives. Just curiousity. You can find anything online. It's awesome.

 

Oh, no he signed the papers and my divorce was final within three months of my kicking him out. It was a speedy process because neither of us had any assets and there were no children involved.

He got a girl pregnant a week after I kicked him out, so apparently he got over me quite quickly after all the shit he put me through.

I'm with my russia love, though. He got a fucking -ugly- girl so it made me happy. *L*She was just as crazy as he was, from what I could tell, because she kept dropping by the Wendy's I was working at, at the time. and she'd hang around trying to get a glimpse of me or something, I'm not sure what she was trying to accomplish. It's not like I was some pissed off girl who'd had her man stolen...all that ugly bitch got was my sloppy seconds that weren't even fit enough to have in the first place. He's her problem now.

Seriously though, I'm not small girl, and this girl is easily twice my size. He likes em big, apparently. He wouldn't even let me lose weight while we were together, so it's not surprise that I dropped 50 lbs not long after we were through. I seriously wonder sometimes if he was doing something to -make- me gain weight, because I certainly wasn't eating enough to get fat. It's kinda strange when you think of it.

*points up* No idea if he treats her like he did me, though, but frankly I don't care. The girl practically stalked me at work for months before I left, acting like she wanted to whoop my ass for whatever reason. The only reason I never confronted her is because I knew it'd get me fired if she started a fight. Honestly, my impression of her is that she's a stupid, lazy cow who lives from welfare check to welfare check, and I'm not even sure if any of her children (she had two when he got with her) even have the same father. I just feel sorry for the kids, cause none of them deserve the kinda crap they're likely dealing with. I saw a picture of them that he took, and they were filthy. and not the kind of filthy a kid gets from playing or eating ice cream, the kinda filthy I'd always see at the welfare office with my mom when she had to take us in for appointments, like the kids who were obviously being neglected and probably only bathed every few days when their parents would get off their fat asses long enough to attempt to take care of their children.

 

*BUMP*

I don't feel the need to go out of my way. If something is pretty much in my face, I'm going to check it out. But if I wanted to check out a current interest and we had talked about being exclusive, I would do it if I wanted to without hesitation, the girl is mine. I never check out ex's, I just don't care.

 

*yuck* old satyricon threads.

 

Why do you say that? Do you think there's a big difference in your outlook?

 

He's now a beautiful butterfly

 

Speaking from a general standpoint I would hope so, otherwise I've wasted four years! On this topic, I'm fine with my original position but am no longer in contact with any past girlfriends.

Aww.

 

Um yea, a beautiful monarch...

I was just curious. I'm in no position to judge that, nor would I, but I think the amount you do or don't change is subjective. Who's to say except for you.


What's your answer now?