what did you learned from your break ups?

when you break up from your bf/gf what did you learn about yourself from it?

did you grow from it?

 

How did I miss this thread?

One thing I learned from my two previous breakups is a white lie can go a long way and save a relationship. I also learned that I am too honest with women, so I need to do a little lying sometimes or just don't answer certain questions.

 

That is a big fat no! You will be found out and it will go bad fast.


I learned a lot from my various breakups. One important thing I learned was I have to be myself and not try to change for someone. It doesn't work. If I feel or act a certain way but then try to change that it will only postpone the inevitable.

 

Well if I would of lied I could of saved those two previous relationships. Nothing wrong with a little white lie. :smt043

 

May I ask what the lie would have been?

 

it was ...."honey you dont look fat in that dress. look out cameron diaz"

thats what he should have said.

 

guys heres how you deal with the "am i fat...." question and you dont want to lie.....


you say...."honey, i always believe you are beautiful....its how you feel about yourself."

give her a kiss and get out of there like a run away slave.

dont look back...thats the kiss of death

 

I normally say that the sizing may be off (because each designer does have their own specific sizing methods), then I would offer to just go shopping to find clothes that are prettier and fit better. I've never had a problem with this.

 

lol it's a long story

:takes notes: lol

lol i'll just encourage her to workout with me

 

Yes, take notes

 

lol....yall funny

 

In my life, I've had 4 breakups.

1. I was 10 and we didn't know any better. So we had to face the fact that we were too young to fall in love and get married.

2. There was a girl I knew in high school who was very pretty. We didn't do anything but talk on the phone. But, she became uneasy. She told me that she was going to call me but she didn't. The next morning I went to ask her what was up. A friend of hers(and an enemy of mine)stepped in and said, "She's not going out with you. She doesn't even like you." I look at her as if to ask her what in the hell she was talking about. The girl laughed hard at me and said, "Look at him, he's off!"
I was about to respond and the first period bell rang. My "girlfriend" asked me to meet her later. I met her later at lunch time at her locker. I asked her what was going on and she said she didn't know. I then asked her if she wanted to break up. She said yes without any hesitation. I said okay and walked away from her.

3. I sort of dated another woman(we often went to church together). She had deceived me the whole time after all I had done for her. But I was young, proud and arrogant. So much so, I couldn't see the forest for the trees. I closed out my entire bank account for her. I had fallen in love with her. But she did not trust me. She never reciprocated. I was in a suicidal depression for five years. I had forgiven her.

4. I had an online relationship with a woman whom I had a lot in common with. But because of her job and the fact that she was often away, she broke up with me because she was doing me a favor. It would've worked out and she did have feelings for me but her job kept her away from her family, too.
It was nice while it lasted.


I have learned from all of these experiences the following;

1. I cannot make a woman fall in love with me no matter how hard I've tried.

2. I have learned to be patient.

3. I have to find a woman who would appreciate me for me and I will do the same for her.

4. No means no.

 

I could never understand online relationships, so you were in a relationship with a woman you've never met before?

 

LOL whatever

 

sorry to hear that

 

thats tuff man. you trusted someone and they betrayed you

 

We chatted for a while. She seemed perfect to me at the time. But, an online relationship is fleeting unless you live in the same city, town or state. But it was not meant to be. She used to email me every day. She always ended her message with "kisses." She told me that she had been married previously to a black man but it ended in divorce. AOL was the place to be at the time.

 

You were a kid during this time, right?

 

i learned that women are crazy and its not their fault... they think with their hearts and i think with my.....

 

...wallet? lol