Rock Bottom Low Self-Esteem

Exactly! You would never catch me saying "girl you are so beautiful, I would kill to be with you!" If a guy says that he needs to just write "sucker" on his forehead.

 

or you can give him a glass of water......because he's a thirrrrrrrrrrsty mofo

 

Lol or a bottle of Gatorade

 

yeah, true. you will need gatorade from all that sweating they done over the guurrrrrl.

 

I think Saty's point is a little deeper than that.

Self -assured is not the same as cocksure.

Woman really cares about you and knows your quiet self assurance they don't care about any of that shit.

My man said basically that .. And I married him. Not as if this dude didn't have a choice of women. Difference was he meant it when he said it. Without saying a word his presence fills the room, and always humble. That is self esteem.

 

Afraid she might float away with all that gas in her pretty head?

My experience is men who need to talk game aren't doing it right, kind of like an armchair football coach.

 

we are talking bout the first date or 2.
i told a story about my wife and i on a double date.

the guy i set up on the date to the girl who was a friend .

he told her how beautiful she was at leasr a minimum 5 to 7 times.

if you go back and read you will see the women agree with q and me

 

Did your husband say this to you when he first met you? My statement was for guys that say these types of things when they first met a woman.

Sounds like you misinterpreted. When a guy first meets a woman, he shouldn't give women too many compliments. I'm not saying he shouldn't give compliments at all, what I am saying is the compliments shouldn't be excessive. It will come off as desperate or he's trying to con her out of something.

Exactly

 

I'm sorry you have had that experience ... I always give real advice and hope for the best for my male friends and I would hope that the advice they give me is true and not jaded.

 

u r rite to a pt. u can get good advice from women but its best to get it once u r in a relationship.

u laugh at the macking notes but shieeeet. if you are giving and getting advice then what are you doing.....trading notes

 

Wish I could rep you for these points!!

 

Me too! Especially the part about needing to be told no every once in a while. I don't want a doormat...someone I could completely walk all over is not attractive to me. He needs to be comfortable enough in his own skin to disagree with me from time to time! I'm stubborn as hell sometimes so there's something incredibly sexy about a man who's strong enough to keep me in line

 

That shit is so ridiculous and childish so we just say no to say no?
What if I have no reason to say no? Is it too far fetched to believe that someone loves you enough to not put you in a position to have to say no?
Sounds like you want to be put in check.

 

I do want to be put in check when necessary. If a man really loves me, he'll be able to tell me no when I'm being unreasonable, he'll be comfortable enough in the strength of our relationship that he doesn't question disagreeing with me. I'm human, I don't expect to be right every time and if my man can't respectfully call me on my bullshit then how much does he really love me?? Communication is critical so if he and I don't have that, then we don't have much imo. I'm not saying for anyone to say no just for the hell of it...who in their right mind looks for a fight lol?? There's a difference between being argumentative and respectfully debating your point. In any good relationship, the partners partake in option 2. Been with my guy for 6 months now and one thing he constantly comments on is how much he appreciates the way we communicate. Respectful, honest and open. No bullshit, no siding with each other just to avoid a potential disagreement, no hiding our true feelings about something out of fear that the other may feel differently. That's fake...how do you build something real if you can't be 100% yourself? I don't want a guy who just kisses my ass 24/7, I want (and found) someone who adds dimension to my life and helps me to see things from a different perspective. Part of maturing is learning how to effectively handle disagreements instead of just trying to avoid them

 

dude thats common...
my ex gf (my she rest in peace)...i dated her for about 6-7 yrs. in the first 6 mos...she came at me sideways once. i snapped on her ass. it was a 10 sec speech. she apologized.
a month later before we watched a movie rental....she told me she was testing me to see how far she can go.

i can count on my 1 hand how times we argued...take away 2 of my fingers...lol

theres another reason too. im sure the women know what the second is......

 

I would never, EVER test a man's limits. Why even go there? It's hard enough predicting a man's behavior to begin with - you never know what can set a man off so fuck with the test games.

 

This.

Honestly, games are for children. Why push anyone's buttons just for the sake of a reaction?

 

lol.....it wasnt that deep. lol

it was more of fuck with you type thang....fun-ning.
and i didnt catch it........however...she confessed one thing she said "you show never show emotion...it was kind of hot".

you know the rest.....

 

The same goes for a woman.

 

That would be a huge red flag for most men...hell, that'd be a red flag for me! Obviously it worked for you guys, but I can't get down like that. Games would have me walking...I don't have the patience lol