The men who realize and appreciate this end up with a huge advantage with women You may need better female friends then. My male friends deserve only the best so you better believe I'll be 100% honest with them and only steer them in the right direction. If it's some shady chick who has unrequited feelings for you then yea...grain of salt. Hopefully that's not the bulk of your female friends though.
I'm sure you mean well when you give your guy friends advice but a man will always get the best advice from another man that is experienced with women. Let me ask you this though, what type of advice do you give your male friends?
Well, it was a woman I wasn't dating who asked me one time back in the day why I wear nearly busted, scuffed up kicks??? I was like WTF??? She told me if a guy has beat up shoes on his feet, it's a big TURN OFF. Problem corrected(unless it's some old boots I have some love for.lol). It was a female GF of one of my dudes who told me that a woman needs to hear the word NO from her man sometimes, just to keep things in check. It was another woman who told me that women can cry on command, and do so oftentimes to run shit in a relationship.lol So don't break down everytime a woman starts with the tears. And it was a female cousin who told me if you wanna get women it helps to be seen with a woman, dating or casual, doesn't matter cause the other women won't know anyway. And I've been fortunate to follow the never-fails advice from a female, "Hey, why don't you TALK to my GF and call her??" I've gotten most of this advice from ages 14-20 and it was always on point. Other dudes may give you a more detailed blueprint, but a woman can show you the breadcrumbs to get from point A to point B without all the trial and error.:smt001
Blah, I didn't create this thread to be another conversation about scoring with the opposite sex. Women are not important. Another thread derailed but whatever.
Thirty years ago, a girl had told me that I am a nice, kind and wholesome guy and that the world would be a better place if there were more of me around. I was flattered, but I was not successful in my attempt to ask her out. Another said that I was a sweetheart, but then said that girls are funny because they don't want the adoration from a guy. A guy told me that girls want to be treated like shit and would submit to a guy if he called her a bitch from time to time. I accepted the first two explanations. I didn't quite like the third, but it seemed to be true in most cases. But then, I couldn't read the signals and didn't understand what a girl s motive was. But I did learn of the types of men that they were attracted to and looking for. Back then, in the 80's a guy has to have two things; a job and a car. Emphasis on car. In the area of a job, he could be a dishwasher or a cashier at a fast food restaurant. But if he has a car, he is in like Flynn. Now, a guy has to work hard at keeping a woman interested. I had seen a YouTube clip from a young woman who explains that a woman cheats on a guy out of an emotional need(if she is not appreciated). I fear that I would be cheated on if a woman is suddenly bored with me. Like Blanche Du Bois said in A Streetcar Named Desire, "...after all, a woman's charm is fifty percent illusion." That part is often a defense mechanism, I think. I am who I am. I am not a dog and pony show to amuse women. Take me or leave me. I'll be all right with you or without you.
It is normal for your self-esteem to take a few knocks during particularly tough times in your life. I think the key is just figuring out how to bounce back from them. I try to have a realistic sense of myself (whether or not I am successful remains to be seen, lol) and view myself as neither great nor the worst, but just simply as a guy.
the best advice i ever got from a woman was "we like for a man to be a leader......." of course she a little more to it but thats the essence of it. most of everything else came from dudes and experience. ....failures and success. no failures no success.
I got a lot of advice from women, aunts and friend girls. It's all been dead on for me. Who better to know a woman than a woman (wise words from one aunt). I learned a couple of do's and don'ts from my dudes. Mostly don'ts.
A good point. GL. Especially if they don't really know you like that. It come off as highly disingenuous. And particularly if he is compliments every woman the same. It comes off as real thirst. And embarrassing.
you are reading my mind on why. i always had the theory "on the first date. one compliment only .do it when you first see her. just say you look great. then stop" i was rite when i was on a double date with my wife who set up a date with her gf and a friend of mine. he complimented her a 100x . when he went to the bathroom...they dogged him for it.
True. It's like you are ass kissing women when you are over complimenting them. It comes off as desperate.
