Cold Approaching women

Lol that's just how we just roll out here Raider!

It's the water and sunshine lol

True! Sometimes you just gotta hit people hard lol

 

lol

 

He doesn't understand that you're gonna strikeout a lot but eventually you're gonna hit homeruns. Gotta love the game before you step up to the plate lol

 

exactly

 

hell yeah, i told him the hank aaron analogy...hank had more strike outs than homerun but people only know about the HR's....so keep swinging.

his come back was....wait for it....hank is an elite athlete .

im like damn

 

Florida's got both, but I don't have the finances to travel in that circle. Besides, I'm more dangerous in the coffeehouse than the nightclub.

But I get what TDK is saying. All things remaining equal, looks are going to win. Or money. But there are exceptions.

 

the thing is.... you have to work with what you got and get better at it.

ok you are a fat dude. well dont were red looking like pitcher of koolaid.

dress fly and dont walk around with a negative attitude....people hate being around negative people

 

hell yeah. hit haaaaarrrrrd

 

You went over his head lol

Lol fuck the nightclubs, it's overrated and annoying

 

Damn! LOL. I know what you mean. You get me in a grad student or work-related setting or a panel discussion, I can "shoot the gift" with the best of them (damn that's dated! LOL)

 

Gamer all day right here. Big ups.

 

yeah nite clubs are fucked...but im gonna start going to sharpen my skills. the thing about going to the club is you need two or three dudes and a couple women to go with to be wingmen.

at the minimum 1 or 2 guys

 

Can't have too many or you won't get in, lol.

 

now thats my weak spot....i have a hard time deciphering "choosing" versus "being nice"

 

yeah, wingmen come handy when there a table full of women...you will always have that one dude that will choose the buzzard.

 

Buzzard? LMAO! You need one buddy who just likes to talk and crack jokes, I suppose, to occupy the woman who will blow up the entire evening if she has no one to talk to.

 

we are talking bout the same woman...she is ugly as hell and no one wants to fuck her except that one dude....he will fuck ANYTHING.

a man with standards will talk to her so you can talk to the dime....(being a lineman and giving block so you can score). hes doing it because hes a friend.

 

Ok, first of all confidence doesn't even factor into this conversation because rarely will a man with low confidence even cold approach a woman. It's the fellas with confidence that are more likely to try this approach in the first place.

Second, we ALL are shallow to an extent. The same women sitting here giving this dude praise for this 'confidence' stance are the same ones licking their screens when someone posts a pic of a shirtless soccer player. I get it, nobody wants to admit to their shallowness, but before you get to the nut you have to go through the shell. You see me before you hear me, and if you do not have a physical attraction, you are not going to spend a whole lot of time hearing what I have to say.

Why do people work out? Why do people dress nice? Why do people wear cologne? Keep their breath fresh? Why do people go into massive amounts of debt to drive a car that they can't afford? It's because the FIRST impression is set well before a confident word leaves your confident mouth. What do you think girls sit at their table talking about? How confident you look or how fine you look? "Oh my god girl, that man looks like he has confidence for days!" How often do you think that phrase has been uttered?

As far as this strike out before you hit home run garbage... that's not confidence either. That's playing percentages. Chances are if I flirt with every woman in this club, someone's going to blow me tonight. How is that confidence?

Why is it so hard for people to be real around here? Are we that afraid of other internet strangers knowing that we are human?

 

here is what we said. read this and im gonna give another post that was stated...then we are moving on because we are getting into the game.

no time to re-hash the same old bullshit.

 

I've been watching this thread and a couple of others that basically address the same issue; how important are looks when a man approaches a woman? Here is my experience. Take from it what you will.

I'm 6'1" but it really doesn't count because I use a wheelchair. Been in one since I was about 30. So, I'm like 5'3" unless a chick and I are stretched out together. Also, I'm skinny a hell with a little pot belly. I've always been that way even before I "sat down." It's part of my disability. Body like one of those starving poster kids (ok, so I my stomach isn't that bad, but if I take my shirt off, it ain't pretty).

Back when I was standing up and walking around, I had no shortage of hot women to date. My click and I were "those" guys. Not trying to brag, just trying illustrate how it was when I was walking.

Then, I lost the ability to walk ...

And not much changed. Why? Because I decided I was going to be the same confident guy I had been before. I decided if a woman had an issue with my crippled ass then it was just that; her problem. And away I went. I'd still hit the clubs with my squad and w still ran shit. More importantly, I still ran shit. I arrive and park right on the edge of the dance floor so everybody could see me in all of my wheeled glory. Why shy away from it? Fuck it, hi lite it. I'd just sit there and pose like I was on some photo shoot or something. Women ate it up. They loved the confidence. LA 9's coming up trying to sit on my lap and give me lap dances and what not. Chicks asking me, without even knowing my name, if I'm able to have sex. It was crazy. I made my disability work for me by just confidently putting it out there. BTW, I never, ever bought drinks. If you didn't come with me, I did not spend money on you. And, I wasn't taking chicks on dates to the club. Fuck I look like bringing sand to the beach? For that matter, I'm not spending much money on dates period. You ain't my woman.

Now, to be honest, I've been told I'm very handsome. Maybe that played into it? But, I doubt it. I figure because of me being so scrawny and unable to walk, it evens out. And I know from experience that when you think you're less than, women are turned off. When I first became disabled the first month or so was ruff self esteem wise and women weren't checking for me. So, it would seem to me that handsome wasn't as important as being confident in your demeanor when you approach. Save the vulnerable thing for girls who have proven themselves to be worthy of seeing that side of you.

As long as you're not creepy or "Captain Please, Please, Love Me" cold approaching is good for you. You learn what works for you and what doesn't. It's like cracking an inner code. Once you do that, you can approach any chic no matter how bad she is. I could damn near say anything and get away with it as long as I felt good about myself. Now, I'm sure there were women who couldn't get past my disability. So, what? Her loss. Next. Because what she won't do, her friend will. And, if I make her friends' toes girl she'll find her way back to me without me doing anything. Women talk.

It's just dating. Have fun with it.