Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by Athena, May 17, 2014.

  1. Athena

    Athena New Member

    I will not make my own kids, but do love them, so if a man has them it's cool.

    Would you date a woman who refuses to have children?
     
  2. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    I'd prefer it at this point. I have other interests and kids don't fit in the equation.
     
  3. Athena

    Athena New Member

    That's how I feel too.
     
  4. 1449225

    1449225 Well-Known Member

    Hell yes. I dont want kids,so that would work out good for me.
     
  5. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    no problem....rite now she or I may change my mind.
     
  6. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    I can work with or without children. Besides, we have an overpopulation problem, so why bring more urchins in this desolate life?

    And add to that...I refuse to own a pet. I like to keep my house clean.
     
  7. satyr

    satyr New Member

  8. samson1701

    samson1701 Well-Known Member

    Date? Yes. Get serious with? No.

    I don't have kids. But, I do want one or two in the near future. May even adopt.
    Don't think you should care one way or another, though. There are plenty of good black men who fall on either side of the whole kids or no kids line.
     
  9. Athena

    Athena New Member

    That's cool, thank you for your responses :D
     
  10. satyr

    satyr New Member

    Doubtful.


    A recent Associated Press-WE tv poll found more than 8 in 10 men said they have always wanted to be fathers or think they'd like to be one someday.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/15/men-want-to-be-dads_n_3447985.html

    Only twenty percent of the men polled said that they didn't want children. The sample group was not confined to black men exclusively, but seriously doubt that if it were the probability against having children would be higher. A woman is killing her odds if she wants to get married or have a partner but no children. Serial dating would be a good option but a long term commitment is less likely unless he already has children and doesn't want anymore.
     
  11. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    I realize you are asking the men...but I do want to tell you that I have several girlfriends that chose not to have children and a few of them are married...have been married for many many years...

    it is not as unusual as some would like to think...especially now...you are going to meet someone that is on the same page as you athena...work hard and play harder...travel and discover the world together...
     
  12. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    I don't think so. More and more people are opting out on having kids the expense is crazy and the time commitment is insane. Like MS said there is an over population problem we need to start addressing before its far too late.
     
  13. satyr

    satyr New Member

    Source?

    Nevermind, I know how much you love pulling words out of your ass with nothing to substantiate them.

    As of 2010, 6% of married women between the ages of 40-44 had never produced biological children nor adopted. In 1988 that percentage was 4.5%. Your "more or more people" is equal to a 1.5% difference over twenty+ years.

    Interestingly, however, the number of women between the ages of 40-44 with advanced degrees that had not produced any biological children in 1994 was 31%. In 2008 that percentage dropped to 24%.
     
    Last edited: May 18, 2014
  14. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Just generally picking up on social trends. Damn fam relax a little lol
     
  15. Gorath

    Gorath Well-Known Member

    Yes because I do not want to be a father.
     
  16. EatYourBooks

    EatYourBooks New Member

    Intelligent, educated people SHOULD have children. The problem is idiots are having child after child. Not to give the whole "You're Killing America" speech...

    I know this was a question for men regarding women, but I'm really not interested in dating someone who either wants a fleet of children or who wishes to remain child-free.
     
  17. GQ Brotha

    GQ Brotha New Member

    ROFL, I was in a Golden Krust yesterday and nothing but a bunch of rude brats running around the restaurant, screaming and play fighting, bumping into customers and not saying sorry. Two of the kids were about 10 or 11 and grossly overweight and didn't need to be eating anymore jerk chicken or ox-tail. One of the kids, a young toddler started screaming at the top of his lungs when he didn't get his way and the mom had zero control over him.

    I'm an only child and I'm indifferent about having kids.
     
    Last edited: May 18, 2014
  18. GFunk

    GFunk Well-Known Member

    Hell yeah mufugga!
     
  19. samson1701

    samson1701 Well-Known Member

    You are forgetting one very important point in her original post: she has no problem with dating men who already have kids.

    Here, let's do the proverbial math:

    Say you're a man with kids. You're good at this point. You don't want or need anymore. So, meeting a woman who likes kids, but does not want to birth any of her own is perfect for you. Plus, she doesn't bring any baby's daddy drama that you have to deal with.

    There are tons of men in the situation I described. Got kids. Don't want anymore. And don't want any extra drama that another man's kids may bring. Just would like to find a good girl who'll love him and his lil' bad assed off spring. So, if she's kind to his children, if she looks nice, has a great personality and is fun to be around, she's golden.

    Now, if she just did not like kids and didn't want them or a man who had kids already, then you would be right. But, going by her original post, that isn't the case here. So, I'll stand by my original premise. I don't think she'll have any problems dating.
     
  20. jaisee

    jaisee Well-Known Member

    Having not been a part of anything that so much as remotely resembles a 'family' at any point in my life, I would like to start my own some day.
     

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