the good lie?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by goodlove, May 13, 2014.

  1. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    a good lie? is there such a thing?

    should you lie to your mate ?

    i asked because i saw an article about 7 lies women tell men.
    example of one of the lies was "honey, your dick is the biggest i ever experienced"
    a good lie?

    guys what is the good lie you tell your woman?

    women what good lie you tell your man?
     
  2. Gemini74

    Gemini74 Well-Known Member

    i think lies are bringing problems, so i dont believe in lies. sometimes i prefer to say nothing in order not to hurt someone.
    i want honesty in my relationship because it s the base for all trust, and IMO a relationship dont functions without trust.
    so no, there is no good lies for me.
     
  3. Be-you-tiful86

    Be-you-tiful86 Well-Known Member

    I agree with Gemini.
    Lies generally -regardless how big or small they may be - are not a good thing, including the one listed as an example of what women lie to about to their man.
    Most times lies come out,and then the person has to deal with what you really think and with the fact that you lied to them,which can destroy a relationship.
    Nobody is perfect. Personally compliment when it is deserved in my opinion.
    Otherwise may carefully express constructive criticism along with suggestions for improvement or encouraging words.
    When I make a mistake,will own up to it as well.
     
  4. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    No lie is a good lie.

    A lie, no matter how insignificant or small it seems, is still a lie.

    If you will lie about something seemingly small, then who's to say what else you will lie about?
     
  5. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    oh come on...yall are killing me...lol. lol lol

    ok you guys seriously dont think there is no such thing as a good lie?
     
  6. Dalia

    Dalia New Member

    A lie is a lie,no matter how ''good'' the liar's intention might be.I don't see why I wouldn't discuss a problem I might have or something that bothers me with him and prefer to lie instead;that wouldn't solve anything anyway
     
  7. 1449225

    1449225 Well-Known Member

    and there you have it.
     
  8. Beasty

    Beasty Well-Known Member

    Lying is a good thing if you went to law school. No you should not lie to your mate.
     
  9. Since1980

    Since1980 Well-Known Member

    Hey...some of the folks on here resemble that remark.
     
  10. Beasty

    Beasty Well-Known Member

    No offense, just saying that lying could be an asset to your career, or maybe even expected of you. What is your take?
     
  11. Gorath

    Gorath Well-Known Member

    As it was said in the film Gladiator by Lucilla to Emperor Marcus Aurellius, "This is a pleasant fiction."

    There is no such thing as a "good" lie. It suggests a motive. The objective of which may not be ethical.
     
  12. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    Lying is only good if you are doing it too spare someone's feelings...some of my friends would rather hear what they want to hear rather than the truth
     
  13. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    so you ladies are saying you will always tell your man the truth?

    also would you want your man to always tell you the truth?
     
  14. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    yes & yes

    Too grown for drama and lies.
     
  15. QuietSoul

    QuietSoul New Member

    I am pretty honest and in return I appreciate honesty. If he was tiny, I wouldn't gush and say the opposite. And if I ask if I look fat, I want im to be honest.
     
  16. TallBlondFun

    TallBlondFun New Member

    You should never lie to your partner, friends or family.
     
  17. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    so if your man and u finished sexing and asked "if the sex was good...(you didnt enjoyed it)?"
    would you lie if you didnt enjoy it?
     
  18. TallBlondFun

    TallBlondFun New Member

    I think I would say that I enjoyed it because I'm sure that some of it was enjoyable and suggest that we did some things to spice it up next time. Or tell him if there was something I disliked.
     
  19. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    still not going to lie.

    Communication is key. If there was something he did that I didn't like, I would tell him. Something I loved or wanted him to do differently, have to find a way to talk about it.
     
  20. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    and if he said you look fat in a dress...would you get mad?
     

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