women: if you make more money than him........

if im correct...24% of the households ,women make more money than the hubby. do you think you would still respect him as a man if u made more money?
would you respect him if he was a stay at home hubby to take care of the kids?
guys could u handle those situations?

 

Yes sure i d still respect him, i respect a man for who he is and not for the amount of money he makes.

there is nothing wrong with a man taking care of his children, it s a great thing. if he is fine with that, if it is a together made decision and if it makes sense, why not?

 

Not every woman, despite popular opinion on this board, is completely focused on money.

 

Income has zero impact on respect in my opinion.
I would have no problem with the scenarios you posted GL.

 

I would have the utmost respect for my husband if he were a good stay at home dad who take care of our kids. I would not respect a man if he was lazy and just didn't feel like working while I did, but if he was employed doing something he enjoyed, I would be totally ok with me earning more money. Couldn't care less.

 

not even close to a top priority...that's why it's not mine or his but ours...that is why the IRS looks at combined income for couples

 

the reason i asked is that i saw the topic on foxnews and i thought it would be a good topic...
do you think man will be able to handle a woman making more money?

 

i dont think most wouldnt mind out making the man.....i kind of believe if you have kids there would be problems...nothing major. example....even with both parents working they would love to see the milestones of a child...ie first steps. if one stays home then the other would still feel hurt not seeing them like the other is seeing them. i would rather at least want one parent to see than neither

 

And that demographic is going to continue to change- there are a lot more women graduating from college than men. A direct corollary might also be the objectification of men (as it has been with women).

Yes, I can definitely handle those situations; i don't consider money or "who does what" to be parameters of consideration for a healthy relationship (note that fiscal responsibilty and sharing ARE prime considerations for me).

 

I was only speaking for myself love

 

oh ...my bad. i was just adding more layers to the topic to discuss. i didnt mean to have it come across like it was directed to you only.

sorry. i meant for it to be asked to everyone in general

 

On a per hour basis, he makes nearly 3x as much as I do. But he doesn't put in a full 35-40 hour work week like me...

Does that mean I make more, or does he?

 

whoever has the biggest paycheck at the end of a period

 

I used to earn more than my exhusband and didn't have an issue with it.

 

lmao this board is definitely not reflective of real life since most of the women here live outside the fray by preferring to date bm. So convention isn't really part of their lexicon but your average would lie and say they don't care when in actuality they would. The great part about living in NY is the volume of different people you meet and whether the woman is conservative or liberal Jewish or Hispanic for the most part they want a bread winner, they want a "man" if for nothing else the luxury of being a stay at home mom if they choose to or just because a man with a bigger paycheck is just plain sexier. The same way a man being taller, in better shape, or more educated usually is.
It shouldn't matter since the idea of love is suppose to be "come to me as you are and I'll except you as is" but that rarely happens as far as I've seen. The city is full social climbers and people trying to improve their situation.

 

Well said. I feel the exact same way.

 

I was lucky enough to switch gear and be that stay at home mum. The thought of being separated from my children was gut wrenching (and my second wouldn't take a bottle and breast fed for 2 years). That on top of child care costs, it was a no brainer.

 

So a situation like that requires a man not only to be a bread winner but also make enough money for two people which is no small deal in this economy. So money does matter in the end.

 

In that case, I make more than him... and I could care less.

He's been around when I couldn't afford to pay to use the washer/dryer and had to wash everything by hand. He's been around when I couldn't afford bus fare and had to walk everywhere. I've stuck around when he decided he wanted to live rent-free, and when he decided he'd try to stretch money to spend only $5 a day on food. Our "whatever-ship" has been through a lot lol.

It's not that he's broke, just a typical "struggling" musician. He works enough for him to pay bills and scrape by, but also have time for what he really wants to do.

A good example of the work to live, not live to work if you will...


If his schedule was this flexible and kids were involved, he should be expected to be able to watch them, to be able to pick them up from school if they were sick, etc. He's traditional in that aspect though, believes in a woman being able to stay at home with the kid(s)... so if that time ever comes for him, maybe then he'd work full time