How do you want to be remembered?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by Cherok33, Apr 30, 2014.

  1. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    None of us have much control over how we will be remembered. Every life is an an unfolding, unique journey. It is impossible to know what moments, what charms will come to define us once we're gone. All we can do is live our lives fully, be authentically ourselves and trust that the right things about us, the best and most fitting things, will echo in the memories of us that endure.

    So tell us, how do you hope to be remembered?
     
  2. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    I'll be dead. Why the hell would I care what people think of me once I'm gone?
     
  3. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    This, with one caveat: I would like to be remembered with love and appreciation by my son. That's it.
     
  4. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    :cool:

     
  5. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    This

    And that.
     
  6. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    This song here perfectly reflects my mood regarding whether I should be remembered.

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  7. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    Other than my son, I feel the same way. And I suppose my wish for my son is more about wanting to make sure he feels secure and loved by me, more than it is about my memory per se.
     
  8. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    It makes perfect sense since you're clearly very close to your son and you want to make sure you have a large impact in his life. You want him to lean on you, even in death.

     
  9. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    You're right. Not so much lean on me, but the confidence that a child has knowing that it is loved and valued by those in their life. That is the eternal gift I want to give my son.
     
  10. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    That is true...especially when the emotions between you two are so close.

     
  11. orejon4

    orejon4 Well-Known Member

    Yep. If you had told me before he was born that I would feel that way about anyone, I would have laughed at you. Hell, I didn't even want a child at all. But overnight that little infant changed me singlehandedly. Now he's the only person I think about.
     
  12. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    I want my children to remember me fondly... Not the arguments we had over the years, as they all blossomed into these independent and indifferent versions of me, not the struggle they shared after I left their father or the broken home they learned how to live with. I want them to realize that I did the best I could with what I had and the hand life has dealt me. I gave them everything they needed, not necessarily all they wanted. I tried to spare their feelings while showing them the hard lessons life has taught me, hoping that they would learn from my own mistakes and hiccups in life so that they don't have to learn first hand. I want them to know I worked very hard to provide for them, and that eventually, no matter the material things I acquired along the way, nothing was simply given to me. I want them to understand the value of family, and I want to find comfort and peace in knowing I can leave this world knowing they have each other if no one else.

    I just want to be remembered for all of the good things I did for others, the impact I had on their lives, and I want them to remember all of the good memories we made together. I want those that I have loved in my lifetime to remember me fondly, instead of lingering in thoughts of sadness from my death.
     
  13. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    I want to be remembered lovingly by my children and them realise that everything I ever did since they were born was always directed at what was best for them.
    But that I never sacrificed anything I wanted for them, they were my prize and they were enough for me.

    By my extended family and friends I want to be remembered honestly, not turned into some latter day saint, so that I wouldn't recognise myself when being spoken about.
    Basically Piss-taker... Droll-joke maker....extraordinaire (never ever cruel)
     
  14. newblackman88

    newblackman88 Member

    On a positive note,I would like to be remembered as a funny,sarcastic but a nice guy.
     
  15. jaisee

    jaisee Well-Known Member

    Prefer not to be remembered.
     
  16. GFunk

    GFunk Well-Known Member

    Not a scumbag I guess.
     
  17. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    remember as the man with the golden dick
     
  18. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    Hey Goodlove, glad to see you back on board!!:D
     
  19. EatYourBooks

    EatYourBooks New Member

    Funnier than Dorothy Parker and George Carlin put together, smarter than Sartre and and Spivak, but far, far less bitter. Which, I could still be very bitter and manage.
     
  20. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    Not as the bitch I can be at times. Ha!

    Unless you withdraw from the world entirely, you do, deep inside want to be remembered in one way or another. I think mine is that I had integrity to keep it to the extreme simplicity. Not always true, but I try. Very hard.
     

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