Do you prefer your man to be tall or short?

I am sorry but this is where i wanna puke at nauseating hypocrisy with the confidence trumps everything crap. I know women who find shy but handsome and well to do men very endearing and actually go after these men because hell would freeze over before the guy approaches them. There must be some physical attraction cus i KNOW some of you here wont be giving no FUGLY mofo with mad game a snowball's chance in hell. Thats the difference between men and women here, we openly exhibit our shallowness and openly prefer pretty women and would go for pretty women before looking at a smart intelligent plain Jane.

 

Raider look around doll are you every chick? Stop playing dumb. You know I'm not speaking about you specifically. Most if not damn near all women give a flying fuck about what their man makes.

 

What I meant by equal is someone who is exactly where they are. Most if not all women want to look up to their man. When I was on okcupid more women cited respect over dedication as something they wanted in a mate as far as an attribute they needed to have in order to have a long term relationship.
And please don't act like the male female ratio of gold diggers is 50:50 homie

 

You know you bullshitting because this doesn't even make sense. You got get past the pleasantries to even assess his situation.

 

Agree with the both of you there. You can't train anyone to have confidence, both genders have bad experiences which could affect how much confidence they have, and it can be tricky to re-discover that. Kind of like battling depression, or anything similar... you can't tell yourself to stop being depressed and to be in a better mood, you need to make changes. Confidence, I think is the same way. (I sound cynical, comparing depression and confidence, rofl )

Which is when TDK's point with cultivating professions/ interests works. We can't control how we react to being treated as less than we expected and how it influences our confidence, but we can control other things which could help boost it. It doesn't train anyone to improve their confidence per se, but having gains in other parts of life has to help in some way!

(Like, I'd feel better about dating now since I actually have a job. It's not me trying to improve confidence, just the situation that influences it. I've been spoiled by the guys in DC though, the guys here seem like lames.... I'm totally going to become the crazy fish lady )

 

You've been the crazy fish lady.

 

This is my dude right here. Thank you sir. I'd rep you but I'm all out.

 

True, I have Motley, and a new baby... Hue. Motley Hue!

 

That's what I am talkin about.

 

Girls on dating sites get picky because of a rediculus amount of options.

 

Completely OT but...nyc has tons of single females; in fact, i think it is a great city to be a single guy. Anyway, one of my female friends has been complaining for a while about being single (a while being like 8 years); so i tell her about a friend of mine, who is a great guy, a fab chef, great job etc. And she says "i'll pass," :smt071 Apparently, she has criteria that she has never told me before ("well established," "jewish," "tall,"in good shape.."). Mind you, she is nothing more than average, if that.

Sometimes it makes sense to temper expectations based on who we are heh?

 

I wonder how many people think they're a better catch than they really are.

 

Totally!!

 

Heightest lol

 

So its like that in the US as well?
Girls chase after guys with lots of money to burn?
Lol and i thought that only happened in my country.Silly me

 

when i was on unemployment, i had more action than when i had a job... maybe it was because i had more time to focus on fun.

 

Is that the exception or the general rule?

 

EVERY time I read something along those lines, no matter where I read it, you come to mind

 

Good to know I'm making an impact :freehug:

 

id like to say its the general, when you dont have work you have more time to focus on fun.