Going White

In due time.............

 

Yeah.... yeah.... just play with my vulnerable heart again like you did when you came to Ohio getting my hopes up for nothing. *hangs head low*

 

Um....Ohio? Really? I believe I made you quite a lovely offer. It was YOU who abandoned me!

 

Like I said there are always exceptions

 

:smt005

 

I missed you so much!

 

Black women who date interracially usually are not as vocal about our negative experiences but we encounter the same "nasty looks" as well other things from WW (and others). As a BW who has dated and had relationships with mostly white and Hispanic men I have had similar experiences with mostly white women(but also Asian and Hispanic, as well). But the most hurtful sometimes comes from the women whom we call friends.

I have had numerous experiences where my non-black female friends/acquaintances/coworkers became jealous, made snide or nasty comments and even attempted to sabotage if a WM compliments, gives me more attention or asks me out. If a BW is dating a WM who is considered a major catch, the claws can and often do come out. I find it extremely sad when this happens but it does happen quite often.

 

That IS extremely sad and I understand how awful it is to be in that situation. I wish people could just live and let live.

 

Since when aren't bw not vocal? Come on really?
And lets be fair and honest here ww don't feel the same type of ownership and entitlement to their men like bw do to theirs. As a group there isn't a fear that all the good wm are going to flock to more the acceptable standard of beauty since ww currently occupy that space. Sometimes your posts sound delusional as if you are some how trying to compete for who has it worst. The truth is, especially amongst this crowd, the idea of bm and ww hating on a bw/wm sounds ridiculous. I've yet to see even the slightest acknowledgment of what you're talking about.
Bm generally could care less about who bw date, we don't take ownership of women in our matriarchal culture and as for ww their biggest competition for wm are Asians, then hispanic women, then maybe bw but bw aren't seen as a threat especially since many try to have white features like long hair and get nose jobs.

 

My comment was not about BW who date mostly BM; it was about the experiences of BW who date mostly WM. My point was that we experience the same nastiness from WW (and others) especially when we are with a WM who is considered a great "catch".

And considering the "hierarchy" that you posted it may be considered an insult to have a BW be desired over them by a WM for some WW (not all but for some). I can only go by my numerous personal experiences but I have had more than my fair share of nastiness when I am 'chosen' over a WW (or Asian or Hispanic) by a WM. I literally have stories of my experiences for days.

 

I definitely agree.

 

Then maybe its a you thing because hating on bw isn't part of the normiculture, I never hear hint of that shit in fact the most popular television show right now stars a bw in a romance with two white men and guess who is carrying the viewership on that one? I won't deny your personal experience but I don't see people lose their minds over any black women with wm on film. People may be disinterested but they don't launch campaigns against it.

 

In my opinion, it is really important to not simply dismiss the experiences of others in which one may not personally be privy. Its like a white person stating that racism doesn't exist simply because they do not observe or experience it in the way in which a black person would, if at all.

Sadly, my experience is definitely not unique.

 

He's not dismising, he's saying his own experiences contradict yours.

You guys are basically arguing over who gets the short end of the stick.

 

See the difference is if a white person were to say there's no racism there's a plethora of EVIDENCE I can point to, the incarceration rate, the unemployment rate, the poverty rate, I give specific instances like Trayvon Martin if we're talking bm/ww instances Emit Till, the recent Cheerios commercial. I have absolutely no reference to point to in terms of a culture that doesn't accept IR between wm and bw. In fact IR marriage was accepted due to a wm and a bm wanting to be together if it were any of the other pairings on this forum there would be a lynching.
Please point me to a study or something that supports this. I'm not saying you personally have't experienced but point me to something that backs up your claim that it happens "a lot"

 

No I'm arguing her claim that it happens a lot is all but pure bullshit. I won't pretend to be compassionate to her "plight" since it really doesn't exist to the degree that she says it does. There's nothing in the narrative to support it, look how many HIT SHOWS FEATURE A BW WITH A WM, PLEASE SHOW ME A BM/WW SHOW SIMILAR TO ANY OF THOSE.

 

Unless he is a BW who has dated WM, he wouldn't ever have experienced what I am discussing. I have never experienced what BM who date WW experience but I would never say that it doesn't happen.

 

So your saying bm/ww have it worse than bw/wm?

 

We must first recognize the difference between entertainment in the form of "hit shows" versus real life relationships.

Again, discounting someone's experiences solely based upon the fact that you do not experience it personally is rather naïve. Again, it is like a white person stating that racism does not exist because they do not experience the same. Let's at least be adult enough to be able to have a discussion.

I have had numerous experiences of nasty comments, disgusting rumors, snide remarks when I am being complimented, making sexual advances to the man in my life, roommates deleting messages, etc., etc., etc.