Going White

Thank God I live in the south, sweet tea, grits, guns and ww without daddy issues.

 

Thank you so much for saying this!

Only when we move beyond the stereotypes and generalizations will IRRs be seen simply as genuine, mutual attraction and expressions of love instead of overused clichés.

 

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True dat. To me its so varied that I don't think one can say why anyone likes anyone else with certainty. Attraction isn't something that can be measured accurately and certainly not what attracts folks to each other mentally.

I might like a white girl because she has a flat ass, the next guy might like another white girl because she has a fat ass, ditto short hair, long hair and these are just the physical things for starters.

 

miss pretty eyes for the win!

 

I have a strong preference for brunettes and their black haired sisters, I don't know why but I do. I would date a black woman very happily but they aren't many in Cardiff. Cardiff is very cool in terms of IR but its also a very white city. Not that i'm complaining :smt080

 

Thank for this, I really appreciate your comment.

 

Obviously I won't argue with your personal experiences, but rest assured there are many of us (dare I say most of us) who love you just because. I don't need to have daddy issues to know how amazing bm are.

Agreed :smt023

So sweet to me :smt008

Anytime. Just speaking the truth! :freehug:

 

Here I thought all along it was because we were Big, Black, Negro Bucks with Mandingo Dicks swinging down to our knees.

 

Again you're in the 10-15% percentile. Please don't act like daddy (or asshole ex) issues don't drive some WW's choices

Don't get me wrong, it works for me

My comment was half-facetious, please climb down from the PC soapbox

 

...that, and we have daddy issues, or we want to be a rebel, or can't get hot white guys because we're too old/fat/ugly...

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I never heard so many stupid reasons for why WW date BM until I joined this forum.

 

Let the church say "Amen" :smt038

 

No more than BM have to hear he "can't handle a strong black woman" or he "hates his mama, sisters, and aunts" or "white women are doormats and pushovers"

You had to join a forum to hear what BM hear IRL all the time

 

It's not WW telling you those things. On here, it's BM trying to tell some of us why we date you.

 

"Some" doesn't equate to 90%. Didn't intend to make it seem like a PC soapbox, just calling bullshit when I see it.

 

You didn't date black men until you were sixty lol

 

Uh huh. And I'm not yet 60.

 

And BW have to hear the following about IR....all of the time

Who do you think you are?
BM aren't good enough for you?
You think that you are too good for BM.
You just want light skinned babies with light eyes and 'good' hair.
You must hate people with dark skin/kinky hair.
You must hate yourself.
You must hate being black.
You must hate black people.
WM only want sex from BW.
WM will never marry a BW.
WM only want to live out their slave master fantasy with BW.
How can you even think of being with your oppressor?
WM are pedophiles/weird/corny/not enough 'swagger'.
He won't understand you/us/black people.
WM will make you perform weird sex acts.

 

I was kidding obviously, I was more so pointing out you didn't get to the ir game till much later in life so a lot of that family shit would be irrelevant at that point.

 

All the time? Get the fuck out of here. I don't know what you've had to go through personally so I won't comment on your experience but as a black person living in America my whole life I gotta call bs. BW/WM couples are far more accepted and mainstream. The first IR pairings in media were usually that combination but no one lost their damn minds like they did/do with bm/ww.
Also that wanting light skin kids with "good" hair is absolutely true, not in all cases but to deny the colorism issue amongst our people especially with women would be a clear farce. Lighter skin is access and a sign of beauty especially amongst our women so its definitely not outside the realm of possibility that a lot of black women want kids with lighter skin in order to bypass the colorism issue.
And quite honestly I do think A LOT of black women think they're too good for bm because the requirements they have for bm to be suitable mates never seem to be equal to what they accept of wm.
Certain cultural things are very really kid.