Going White

I thought it was about time I actually started a thread and this is something Ive always wondered about.

Everyone knows the saying that once you go black you dont go back and in the case of some white women I think thats definately true. But do some black men have similar feelings about white women.

Ive known a few black guys who say they are not attracted to black women anymore or at the very lease prefer white women over black. But Ive never really been sure if that’s true or if they were just saying it.

Are there an black guys on here who wouldn’t date a black women anymore?

 

I'm curious as to why you even care? Even if a man won't leave you for a black woman there are still plenty of white women he could leave you for.

 

Your right about the fact that its not actually important.

Its something Ive been told in the past and Ive always wondered if its true or if they were just saying it.

Its more about if the guys were being honest with me or not.

 

Well what we tell you won't really confirm or destroy what the other guys have told you but I will say this for more than half my life I've exclusively dated and had sex with ww. I enjoy the contrast and the seemingly light hearted and care free demeanor a lot of them have. Also in my experience ww tend to be appreciate my nerdiness and my nerdy interest. With that said I personally wouldn't reject dating an equally beautiful woman who shares my interests and my values.

 

The only guys who dont black women are men who were never ever attracted to them in the first place and black men who are bitter against black women.




The whole motto of once you go black is false, I've spoken to quite a few women who prefer black men but are still open to other guys.

 

I have smashed plenty of attractive BW in the past, but it has been years since I have been with one. WW are a better match for me as far as my interests/hobbies are concerned. I also like their lighthearted demeanor. Generally speaking, I am more attracted to them and the chemistry is much better with WW. With that said I dont completely rule out the possibility of being with a BW, but I am also not interested in entertaining the idea.

 

What do you mean by bitter?

I would say I do have a strong leaning towards black men but I would never dismiss the idea of dating white guys completely.

I have known some women though who just say they have lost all interest in men who arent black.

 

It depends on the guy naturally, for me when it comes to women I tend to like White and Latina women most. If those guys are dwelling on the subject too much then they are probably spitting game. Just trust your instincts about he particular guy and why he says what he says.

 

There are some black men that have a love/hate with black women based on their experiences with them and they may develop hostility based on past relationships with them. YouTube is full if it.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=S6QQAv2VVKE


In order for me to deal with a black woman she likely has to be from a different cultural background and value system

 

Most people tend to date based upon a combination of their personal attractions, personal experiences and stereotypes.

Also, if a black man that you like is interested in you just focus on and enjoy your relationship. Why should it matter if he would or would not date a black woman?

 

it shouldn't matter either way...if a WW would date someone other than black or if a BM would date someone other than white...the biggest concern is why are you dating white or why are you dating black...if it isn't with good intentions then it becomes suspect

 

My question wasnt so much about race but more about if the guys were being honest with me or just making stuff up.

Thanks for the response guys.

 

depends on the man...some are honest and some are not...some like to tell us what we want to hear just to keep the peace...if he is with you now...nothing else should matter...don't become a detective about who he dated before you and who he dates after you...enjoy now

 

Your welcome. A couple clowns on here have very poor reading comprehension skills.

 

It will definitely depend on the guy. Some guys tell women what they think we want to hear in order to get what they want. And for other guys it may simply be their true feelings.

But I personally have never and would never date a guy who says negative things about the women of his race/ethnicity in order to gain my favor. Its a sign that he is lacking in maturity.

 

yep...huge red flag

 

The guys who have said it to me never said anything negative about black women. Just that they werent particularly attracted to them.

 

That's a pretty interesting thing to say on a date. That wouldn't be the kind of thing I'd volunteer on a date but that's just me.

 

I would consider that as saying something negative.

Exactly this.

 

Perhaps its just me but I have never been one to compare myself to the women who the man in my life dated before me. And I have certainly never pondered who he would date after me should our relationship not move forward.

I like men who know what they like and have the confidence to go for it. And I like men who can simply appreciate the beauty of women regardless of whether or not I share that particular woman's physical attributes.

I am confident enough in my own beauty to not worry about how I measure up against other women. Certain men thrive on the insecurity of some women and will use the "mirror, mirror on the wall" type nonsense to feed the ego of those types. So I find it odd when people discuss someone who is not actually a part of their relationship (in this case black women).

Never in my dating experience have I discussed black men with the non-black men whom I was dating. That's just so very odd. Why?