Opinions from ladies welcome!

Tariq Nasheed is a dating expert, filmmaker and best-selling author. One of his hit books was called The Art of Mackin'.

A few years ago he had an interracial dating week and did a radio show each day giving advice on how to interact with ladies of a different race. He did a show called "Mackin' To White Women" and I'm curious what the ladies here have to say about his opinions. I played this for my wife years ago and she said he pretty much had everything down pat except for the music choices he played during the show. lol.

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(Don't let GL up in here. He'll never leave. This book is his bible. I think he can quote it verbatim.)

 

That guy's funny I couldn't listen to the whole thing, but I skimmed it and he has some valid, some not so valid, points. He talked a lot about how stepping to ww is different than stepping to other races. I call bullshit on that. He was making it far more difficult than it has to be. My opinion, white/black/brown/blue...just step to her and say Hi, it's really that simple.

The stuff he said is "typical" of ww, I found interesting because it's what guys always comment about me lol. No stress, friendly, health conscious, keeping control of my weight, easy going, chill vibe, jogging in the suburbs (LOL...my ex used to always call me a typical white girl for running in our neighborhood).

Towards the end he talked about how guys don't need to change their way of speaking just to "impress" a ww. Lol'd when he said not to get your Bryant Gumble on

Honestly I appreciated that he kept stressing not to date a ww just because she's white. He said date a ww because you enjoy her, she gives off a good vibe, she talks a good game and she's attractive. Don't date her just because she's white. That I can agree with 100%.

 

Word. Thanks for the feedback RaiderLL.

 

would have liked to add my cheese, but sorry cant watch it. many videos on you tube have been blocked. this is one of them

 

This is truly the dumbest shit I have ever heard on this topic. There's no special formula. Get your money up, get in/stay in shape, be presentable, and sport that confidence. That's all it takes and you'll be hanging out with any woman you prefer period the end.

 

Isn't this the guy who hates black women who date/marry interracially and calls us "negro bed wenches"? I don't get the hypocrisy.

 

He doesn't hate black women, though he is hard on them. I interviewed him for the TN Tribune twice.

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I have watched some of his videos and he has a great deal of hatred for black women who date/marry interracially. I find his positions to be rather odd.

 

I remember seeing him on youtube. much like sotoyomor or however you spell his name, terrible material.

That first vid was like a commercial. lol :smt043
nothing wrong with marketing if it gets the bill paid.

 

That's true. Of course if you're financially secure then you can forget about everything else. Its insane how many women come to you when you have an expensive car and pretty wealthy.

 

hey!!!!!! lol ;-)

anyway
turn to mack scripture chapter.10 Verse 11
Say amen when u get there

 

i hear what u saying. he does comes across as though he hate bwwm dating. i listened closer and i believe hes saying its ok dating IR just dont throw bm under the bus for ur relationship w/ a wm

 

yeah look out for those bm who display at hatred for bw...as a matter of fact hatred of anyone.
no one can love u properly with that kind of negative vibe.

 

I have heard this before and while I do not speak for all non-bm/bw couples I will say that the topic of BM rarely ever comes up in discussion. I don't date or have IR relationships as a response to something that BM do or do not do but I date the guys who are compatible and express interest in me. I have far too much respect for the BM in my life to ever throw them under the bus and would never be with a man who bashed BM, ever.

What I find interesting about guys like Tariq Nasheed is that they do not understand that the manner (crude and degrading language et al) in which they are attempting to deliver their message is so offensive that it will never reach its intended audience. His use of the phrase "negro bed wench" is appalling and it downplays the true horror of the lives of black women during slavery and after in the Jim Crow South as well as denigrates the current relationships between non-bm/bw as nothing more than prostitution. It is highly offensive.

And yes, there are a lot of issues that need to be addressed honestly amongst Black American men and women that can not be tackled in a 30 minute YouTube rant. When I mentored Black and Latina pre-teen girls a few years ago I dawned on me that the middle and upper class Blacks (and Latinos) had abandoned that segment of our community in our quest for greener pastures.

These girls were thirsty for knowledge and for someone to give them even just the basic tools that the higher rungs of society require for admittance such as proper etiquette, having table manners, the importance of body language, having good posture and how to dress appropriately. Addressing these issues will take a gentle yet steady hand and not a slap across the face. People like Tariq Nasheed do not really "get it".

 

i agree he goes over the top with that. its not what you say but how you say it

 

Agree 100%. Any bm I'm dating that talks shit to me about bw is no bueno in my book. I have no interest in a man who wants me just because my skin is pale. My character, my intelligence, my heart...all more important than my skin color. It's unfortunate that some people don't get that. Some think talking crap about bw is somehow going to endear me to them. Couldn't be farther from the truth.

 

have to spread reps around

 

That's T.J. Sotomayor you're thinking of

 

yeah. i heard of him. listened and was annoyed. i will give another shot but he and others come across as attention whores