Random Conversation 2.0

[Bookworm616]

Best of luck to you Bookworm! If anyone can do it, you can. Are you getting ready to put together your short and long-term goals list of steps to take to achieve this?

I have a research paper that's due in less than a week, and then I'll be doing that. And thanks, I hope I can do it.

If you can pull this experiment off like a boss in the next few months, consider yourself the living essence of Peace.

I wish I could pull that off in a few short months, but that's highly unlikely. I'm just going to make a plan and start moving toward it as quickly as possible.

 

[orejon4]

I have a research paper that's due in less than a week, and then I'll be doing that. And thanks, I hope I can do it.

I don't have a doubt in my mind.

 

[wtarshi]

I read an article today on MSN about what to do if you HATE your job - which I absolutely do.

They mention figuring out what it is exactly that makes you hate your job and finding ways to improve those. And at the very end they say, if you still hate your job after trying these different things, then it's time to sit down and figure out what it is about a job that you do want and to not hold back. They gave examples of what to think about:

"Get specific about all of the things that are important to you that you want to have in your next job. Here are a few ideas: the company reputation, your office space, the people in it, the benefits, location, commute, desired salary, the resources you'll have to use, the training program, management styles, growth opportunities, hours and company culture."

I read this list and went, I want none of those things - I want to work from home and be my own boss and be a screenwriter/writer.

That is what I want to do. I don't want to work for anyone else. I don't want to have to rely on a company to give me a raise. Nothing. I want it all on my shoulders.

So that was a fairly simple and fast exercise for me. LOL. Now to get working on accomplishing it....

I just had a pang of sorrow reading this. Not for any specific reason, but I had one of those NPM will say something comforting and witty moments, then realised that he won't.
Life is so fleeting, and those that we love can be taken without warning. I miss him, as I know you do
Change your circumstance to one of joy, Joanie. You deserve to be fulfilled in every aspect of your life xx

 

[lippy]

I read an article today on MSN about what to do if you HATE your job - which I absolutely do.

They mention figuring out what it is exactly that makes you hate your job and finding ways to improve those. And at the very end they say, if you still hate your job after trying these different things, then it's time to sit down and figure out what it is about a job that you do want and to not hold back. They gave examples of what to think about:

"Get specific about all of the things that are important to you that you want to have in your next job. Here are a few ideas: the company reputation, your office space, the people in it, the benefits, location, commute, desired salary, the resources you'll have to use, the training program, management styles, growth opportunities, hours and company culture."

I read this list and went, I want none of those things - I want to work from home and be my own boss and be a screenwriter/writer.

That is what I want to do. I don't want to work for anyone else. I don't want to have to rely on a company to give me a raise. Nothing. I want it all on my shoulders.

So that was a fairly simple and fast exercise for me. LOL. Now to get working on accomplishing it....

I have been thinking about this for a few days...I realize that you have a goal in mind to be a screenwriter...which I think is great...getting from where you are now to where you want to be is the challenge....if you are truly unhappy where you are right now then I would suggest you make an interim change to at least get in a better frame of mind...you have to ask yourself, why am I staying at this job? is it because of the salary? benefits? if so, see if you can find another job with similar salary/benefits to at least give you a fresh start...writing has become a fine art and there are lots of different types of writing jobs...If you have the support of your family then this could be easier than you think especially if making a change gives you a new perspective on life...it may just put you on the right path to making those goals...I know it's scary and change can be paralyzing but being unhappy is like being on a hamster wheel that you can't get off of...2014 just might be your year

 

[satyr]

 

[lippy]

The lakers better hope that foot heals and he doesn't have an issue with his knee again...signing him for two more years was a mistake

 

[buglerroller]

The lakers better hope that foot heels and he doesn't have an issue with his knee again...signing him for two more years was a mistake

no it wasnt, they gonna let him take it easy this year.

lakers gonna bomb this year so they have better pickins in the draft next year.

we need some young bucks now, too many old men on the team.

 

[lippy]

no it wasnt, they gonna let him take it easy this year.

lakers gonna bomb this year so they have better pickins in the draft next year.

we need some young bucks now, too many old men on the team.

Denver isn't much better off...we went from coach of the year with Karl to having Brian Shaw:smt012

 

[buglerroller]

Denver isn't much better off...we went from coach of the year with Karl to having Brian Shaw:smt012

denver has a basketball team

 

[4north1side2]

So I was on another forum this morning and this guy was bitching n moaning about how in order to be successful in life with women and jobs, you have to be an asshole because being nice gets you no where.

Anyway this was my response.

This nice guy vs asshole theory is so fucking tired. Nice guys are well respected and get laid on the regular, I'm proof of that. The so called "nice guys" you speak of have no spine which is why they get trampled over. Do shit out of the kindness of your heart expecting nothing in return and life will treat you grand. See you guys problem is y'all do nice shit hoping to get something out of it.

Just this morning at a hotel a woman was leaving she was pushing a baby in stroller in one hand while towing along this huge luggage suit case in the other. She walks up to a bellman who's at the bellstand but he's in street clothing. She asks do you work here? This asshole replied "I'm off the clock..... but you can stop at the front desk for help" pointing to an empty from desk. He walks off a lil bit and finally asks regrettably "what you need help with" Even tho I had things to do myself I just cut in "I can help you" eagerly. She says "I just need help with my bag and an escort to the garage" I tell her it ain't no problem and grab her bag. She immediately thumbs through an wad of cash and hands me a $20 bill in front of the bellmen to spite him lol. I tried to decline the money but she wasn't taking no for an answer.

 

[RestlessRita]

So I was on another forum this morning and this guy was bitching n moaning about how in order to be successful in life with women and jobs, you have to be an asshole because being nice gets you no where.

Anyway this was my response.

This nice guy vs asshole theory is so fucking tired. Nice guys are well respected and get laid on the regular, I'm proof of that. The so called "nice guys" you speak of have no spine which is why they get trampled over. Do shit out of the kindness of your heart expecting nothing in return and life will treat you grand. See you guys problem is y'all do nice shit hoping to get something out of it.

Just this morning at a hotel a woman was leaving she was pushing a baby in stroller in one hand while towing along this huge luggage suit case in the other. She walks up to a bellman who's at the bellstand but he's in street clothing. She asks do you work here? This asshole replied "I'm off the clock..... but you can stop at the front desk for help" pointing to an empty from desk. He walks off a lil bit and finally asks regrettably "what you need help with" Even tho I had things to do myself I just cut in "I can help you" eagerly. She says "I just need help with my bag and an escort to the garage" I tell her it ain't no problem and grab her bag. She immediately thumbs through an wad of cash and hands me a $20 bill in front of the bellmen to spite him lol. I tried to decline the money but she wasn't taking no for an answer.

You're so right, North. People who treat others with kindness should feel really good about themselves. That, in itself, is a reward. Good people usually will receive goodness back in their lives. I hope you're proud of yourself. I'd kiss you if I could. :freehug:

 

[Nikkers]

So I was on another forum this morning and this guy was bitching n moaning about how in order to be successful in life with women and jobs, you have to be an asshole because being nice gets you no where.

Anyway this was my response.

This nice guy vs asshole theory is so fucking tired. Nice guys are well respected and get laid on the regular, I'm proof of that. The so called "nice guys" you speak of have no spine which is why they get trampled over. Do shit out of the kindness of your heart expecting nothing in return and life will treat you grand. See you guys problem is y'all do nice shit hoping to get something out of it.

Just this morning at a hotel a woman was leaving she was pushing a baby in stroller in one hand while towing along this huge luggage suit case in the other. She walks up to a bellman who's at the bellstand but he's in street clothing. She asks do you work here? This asshole replied "I'm off the clock..... but you can stop at the front desk for help" pointing to an empty from desk. He walks off a lil bit and finally asks regrettably "what you need help with" Even tho I had things to do myself I just cut in "I can help you" eagerly. She says "I just need help with my bag and an escort to the garage" I tell her it ain't no problem and grab her bag. She immediately thumbs through an wad of cash and hands me a $20 bill in front of the bellmen to spite him lol. I tried to decline the money but she wasn't taking no for an answer.

I appreciate the good guys, but it's a conditioning thing... I'm used to jerks, so when a good guy comes along, I just don't feel him like that.

I'm used to guys that put a woman second, because of their goals... or just because they do. So when a guy tries to put me first, I kinda feel like asking them if they have anything better to do lol. Even if they're just as ambitious and driven as the ones that put women second.

Because then him being free to text/ hang out makes it seem like he doesn't have different things to do. His flexibility would make me feel that I come first... when I'm not used to guys like that. Then, to me it feels clingy. Even if he's not being clingy and is just putting me first.

And because of the "I don't care, what do YOU want?" attitude. I'm used to guys that put their interests first, or at least have suggestions, instead of it being completely up to me. So then I feel like I'm trampling upon him, that he'd accept anything I want to do, even if it's not what he wants.

It's a mindset I'm trying to change, because I know GOOD guys exist and want one for myself... but it's my fault for going for the guys I do.

 

[RestlessRita]

I appreciate the good guys, but it's a conditioning thing... I'm used to jerks, so when a good guy comes along, I just don't feel him like that.

I'm used to guys that put a woman second, because of their goals... or just because they do. So when a guy tries to put me first, I kinda feel like asking them if they have anything better to do lol. Even if they're just as ambitious and driven as the ones that put women second.

Because then him being free to text/ hang out makes it seem like he doesn't have different things to do. His flexibility would make me feel that I come first... when I'm not used to guys like that. Then, to me it feels clingy. Even if he's not being clingy and is just putting me first.

And because of the "I don't care, what do YOU want?" attitude. I'm used to guys that put their interests first, or at least have suggestions, instead of it being completely up to me. So then I feel like I'm trampling upon him, that he'd accept anything I want to do, even if it's not what he wants.

It's a mindset I'm trying to change, because I know GOOD guys exist and want one for myself... but it's my fault for going for the guys I do.

I truly hope you do change your mindset. Its all about self respect. I am fortunate to have some really great men in my life. I hope you can EXPECT a man to treat you great and respect him for that at the same time.

 

[lippy]

denver has a basketball team

yep and a hockey team...soccer team...bet you didn't know we have a football team...ever heard of the broncos?

 

[Nikkers]

I truly hope you do change your mindset. Its all about self respect. I am fortunate to have some really great men in my life. I hope you can EXPECT a man to treat you great and respect him for that at the same time.

I do expect it from a man but when I get it it's all "nooooo, this don't feel right" lol.

Then I find other faults about him and think, "well, if it doesn't feel right, it isn't right". That I respect myself enough to not get involved with something like that. When it's the "something" I should be after.

That's just me, wanting everything and nothing at the same time

 

[lippy]

I appreciate the good guys, but it's a conditioning thing... I'm used to jerks, so when a good guy comes along, I just don't feel him like that.

I'm used to guys that put a woman second, because of their goals... or just because they do. So when a guy tries to put me first, I kinda feel like asking them if they have anything better to do lol. Even if they're just as ambitious and driven as the ones that put women second.

Because then him being free to text/ hang out makes it seem like he doesn't have different things to do. His flexibility would make me feel that I come first... when I'm not used to guys like that. Then, to me it feels clingy. Even if he's not being clingy and is just putting me first.

And because of the "I don't care, what do YOU want?" attitude. I'm used to guys that put their interests first, or at least have suggestions, instead of it being completely up to me. So then I feel like I'm trampling upon him, that he'd accept anything I want to do, even if it's not what he wants.

It's a mindset I'm trying to change, because I know GOOD guys exist and want one for myself... but it's my fault for going for the guys I do.

I don't like to categorize/evaluate "nice guy" versus "bad boy"...sometimes it's hard to tell and entirely how they are with you...if a guy is too quick to try and convince me he is a nice guy or toots his own horn then that can be quite telling that he isn't what he says he is...I've heard many times that all it takes is the right nice girl to tame a bad boy...

don't beat yourself up nikkers...just remember that talk is cheap...actions are KEY

 

[Nikkers]

I don't like to categorize/evaluate "nice guy" versus "bad boy"...sometimes it's hard to tell and entirely how they are with you...if a guy is too quick to try and convince me he is a nice guy or toots his own horn then that can be quite telling that he isn't what he says he is...I've heard many times that all it takes is the right nice girl to tame a bad boy...

don't beat yourself up nikkers...just remember that talk is cheap...actions are KEY

That's what has kept me in trouble for the past year, wasn't sure which to listen to... till I decided to stop listening to both. If someone can't match their words and actions, something's off

I agree with someone tooting their own horn. If they have to say so, why can't they just show it?
...and if that's a dig at North, he's a complete sweetheart ^.^

 

[Beasty]

That's just me, wanting everything and nothing at the same time

Lol!

 

[4north1side2]

You're so right, North. People who treat others with kindness should feel really good about themselves. That, in itself, is a reward. Good people usually will receive goodness back in their lives. I hope you're proud of yourself. I'd kiss you if I could. :freehug:

Thanks dear. :freehug: :smt058 What kills me tho about being kind is when people don't have the common courteousy to say a simple ass thank you. Shit been bothering me so much that I been letting loose on folks. Funny as hell seeing folks expressions like when I hold a door open and they don't say thank you I yell "YOUR WELCOME YOU INCONSIDERATE FUCK!!!!" *keeps it moving* lol

I've heard many times that all it takes is the right nice girl to tame a bad boy...

Those women always end up losing in the dating game.

I agree with someone tooting their own horn. If they have to say so, why can't they just show it?
...and if that's a dig at North, he's a complete sweetheart ^.^

BEEP FUCKING BEEEEEEEEEEP!!!!!!! I'm not laying off this horn no time soon.

:freehug::freehug::freehug:

You aight. You ain't got nothing but time on your side youngin.

 

[Nikkers]

Thanks dear. :freehug: :smt058 What kills me tho about being kind is when people don't have the common courteousy to say a simple ass thank you. Shit been bothering me so much that I been letting loose on folks. Funny as hell seeing folks expressions like when I hold a door open and they don't say thank you I yell "YOUR WELCOME YOU INCONSIDERATE FUCK!!!!" *keeps it moving* lol



Those women always end up losing in the dating game.



BEEP FUCKING BEEEEEEEEEEP!!!!!!! I'm not laying off this horn no time soon.

:freehug::freehug::freehug:

You aight. You ain't got nothing but time on your side youngin.

....*turns off hearing aids* problem solved. For me at least

:freehug::freehug: