FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

I guess "meaningful" means something different to each of us. Having sex with someone I barely know or don't know at all (like a celebrity) wouldn't be meaningful to me. If it's someone I do know, am attracted to and like, I've already developed some feelings towards him. Becoming intimate with him would likely deepen those feelings, but I would be left hanging, emotionally, because there's no relationship potential. It would create a desire that, ultimately, would go unfulfilled.

 

This is the point I think might be hard for some to understand. I too have never had meaningless sex. I've also never had a one night stand...to me, that's completely different than fwb. Fwb sex is meaningful because at the end of the day, I care about that person...they're my friend first, fuck buddy second. The only difference is that I don't attach romantic feelings to a fwb situation. I can separate romantic feelings from sex, and I think anyone who's enjoyed a successful fwb relationship can do the same. It's all in how we manage our emotions.

 

got it! :smt085

 

Until you meet that special someone either you going to be having sex with women that become emotionally attached, having sex with a fwb, or spanking your monkey. An fwb is the better option. Too bad that you are more likely to get a fwb that really would like to become your boo.

REPPED!!!

 

For me it is more like fantasy. Having a F*ck buddy is sticky and like most of the members of this thread does not work. It feels like a drug in kin of Oxy or any variation since it makes a person want more. One of the persons of the relationship demands further more affection etc. It takes the self control of both and unless you are from a Latin culture of say Spain,Italy,France,or South America no woman wants to share a man.

 

Has anyone seen the flick "No Strings"? It has a theme of this 'Friends with Benefits'.

 

I could actually be monogamous with a fwb. I have done it before, the one that comes to mind first failed because she wanted me to desire a relationship with her. Even though when we first met she complained that most guys could not handle being a fwb without becoming emotional. Turns out that I gave her what she asked for instead of what she really wanted. Go Figure. To get back at me she showed her immaturity and became less than a friend. She broke Raider's rule of friends first. (even though she was older than me) So yeah you have a point.

 

all the men are putting san diego on their world tour meet and greet to have very meaningful fwb sex with you:smt023

 

Thank you love! :freehug:

Absolutely agree. These are friends we're talking about. People that we care for, and people that we're loyal to. Both parties should be clear and completely honest about the monogamy of their situation. I wouldn't lie to a boyfriend about the exclusivity of our relationship, nor would I lie to a fwb about it. The friendship comes first...sex is just a bonus :smt112

Lol anyone with that mindset clearly doesn't understand what a friends with benefits relationship is

 

Raider! Buddy...pal...friend...how the hell are ya?

 

ah hahahaha!

 

Lol please, you'd get a pass and you know it. You my friend are on the top of my list :smt077

 

please form a line:

1. since1980

 

Exactly. A lot of people don't understand and might never.

 

You've never slept with my ex husband.

 

let lippy be the first to say I hope bugle has not slept with your ex husband

 

:smt043:smt043:smt043

 

:smt110

he is an ex for a reason and sleeping with your ex is nothing my brain can comprehend.

no, i don't get down like that.

 

All the perks and benefits of a relationship without actually being in a relationship
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