How to make my erotic interest clear(er)?

Here is my take on the situation.

Honestly asking someone for coffee/movie is pretty direct. Honestly she is just socially awkward if she did not understand. But hey keep her as a friend she might have a pretty friend who is single that she can introduce you to.

Though you should also stop focusing on what you are doing, and focus on the women, and her body language. Is she showing that she is interested in you by her body language, and actions?

Or if you want to be really direct....

Just start touching them, and see how they react to it. (Assuming you have already have had a conversation/met them already.) Lets just say you will definitely send the message you are interested.

 

Hi, there, BFW, in my opinion, you need to be honest from the start. Eye contact is essential. If a woman responds to your conversing with her, then after a couple of minutes of general conversation, simply say you are glad to have met her and you are wondering if she were single. Let her know you would be interested in getting to know each other better. I believe you will get your answer soon enough.

 

Dear Mixed:

Thank you for your earnest and sympathetic advice.

I did not know what to think or how to respond when she said that, as intelligent as she seemed, she couldn't tell when a man was interested; that was a new and strange one for me.

 

Hello Restless:

Thank you for your earnest affirmation. (I have some destructive self-talk that I need to kill, still...) I need to "get out there" more often, practice this, and improve my habits and success rate!

 

It works. I had a guy do that to me tonight and ... well, it definitely works lets put it that way. :smt112

 

Hard to believe, but there are a lot of women so shy, and socially awkward that they are kept single. There are also naive girls that are sheltered, and think "Oh everyones just friendly to me for no reason, but to be nice."

I also consider it socially awkward to have unrealistic, and unreasonable standards, and expectations.

 

Yes it works! Worked for a guy I met Fri morning on my way to work

If a guy talks to me, makes me laugh, and there's a mutual attraction...that line will always work (doesn't hurt that he showed me his Raider tattoo ).

 

Too true! Confidence doesn't hurt either. Coming up to a woman with confidence (not arrogance) instantly catches her attention.

 

I agree with that entirely. I've never met a woman who didn't know when a guy was hitting on her, especially when was as direct as BFW. Speaking for myself, I'm not a player and I never have been but if I approach a woman it's because I'm approaching her with more than friendship in mind.