Fortysomething...and then some

Nice to hear, and you look great! What percent of sexual enjoyment would you say you have now compared to in your 20s/30s? Also, if you see men your age, what would you say their percentage of enjoyment in their 60s is?

 

this is not a bad idea at all...South Dakota would also be an option...I would buy a camper or an RV to live in though because there is no housing right now...these options should be viewed as if you were moving to Alaska to work on a fishing boat to make quite a bit of money and then go home...there are also no women...

mcdonalds is paying $20.00 an hour and they can't find anyone to work...they can only keep the drive through open because serving inside would require more workers

 

......Life is an experience that is relative.....I read your stories and have to acknowledge that I have friends and relatives down in my neck of woods, all of whom are dealing with circumstances and hardships miniscule in scope to your challenges,.......... Yet still they are finding reasons to bitch profusely and cry blood murder at what appear to be comparatively small obstacles.....
I once heard a mature reformed prisoner in a penitentiary tell public viewers in an interview that "People should make the very best of what is before them and be grateful for what they have in life"......I always thought that advice was simple but sobering enough to resonate my humility..........

 

Totally agree. If I go to grad school it will be for the primary purpose of expanding my personal knowledge.

 

The percent is much higher now than it was in my 20s/30s, based on experience, expectations, effective communication, and my nature.
Re your second question, that would make for interesting research, no doubt. However, personally I have found that [more than] some men my age (based on observation), are older than I am*. I am guessing the percentage numbers of the majority would be considerably lower than that of the exceptions in that age group. What do you think?


*figuratively

 

I like your quote. I grew up with very strong women, and something my Grand Nana reminded us all of often is, "Women do not seek sympathy, We seek solutions". I have always believed that could be applied by everyone, for the success of a desired result.

 

Love this :smt038

 

Thanks for answering those questions, gives me something to look forward to. You do seem much younger than your age, and atypical. As for men, I can only speak for myself and I think the percentage of enjoyment is higher due to knowledge, patience and true appreciation of life's pleasures.

 

ha ha, my eldest son claims that I will forever be 25. On the more realistic side of that, I absolutely believe that (to borrow from Mike Dooley of "TuT" fame), "what we think about and thank about..." shows on us. Therefore, I aver that I am too young to be old. I effort in a casual way, not to cover up, but to allow my natural to shine.

I appreciate your final statement there. Well stated. Knowledge and patience are attainable, but appreciation of life's pleasures requires attention while the knowledge and patience is developing, and of course understanding that pleasure(s) is subjective.

 

I feel like I've been lied to. Lied to about "upward mobility". Lied to that hard work, in and of itself, brings a succession of successes in the end. I haven't been expecting a job to fall into my lap. I've been searching. I've been applying (on average, at least 1 application per day, at least 5 days out of the week-- at this point I've stopped counting the total). I've never been fired from a previous job. I have no felony nor misdemeanor arrests nor convictions. I have not been lying on my applications. For better or worse, I've chosen to live or die by honesty.

I remember reading a news article within the last year that various companies have been refusing applicants based on the fact that the individual was unemployed, and that was seen as a "risk" now. Incredible. I'm working, but I thought that applying for work meant that you could be taken at face value that you want to be a productive citizen. Who knows, maybe some other weird rationale is at play, here: "This guy is currently employed, and he's still looking for a job? A place with 'room for growth'? what kind of maniac are we dealing with here?!"

I don't know if the address on my resume is somehow taken as code for "black" and my app is just getting chucked away (it sure doesn't help with my car insurance rates). Maybe I'll have to see if a friend in the distant suburbs is willing to "lend" me their address. While I don't explicitly list my age on my resume, my 12 year stint at a previous employer (my longest ever) implies that I'm probably not 22.

This past week I've received the most (long-delayed) responses, and they were all REJECTIONS. ****! :smt067

Maybe I'm just not that clever.

 

I have a degree from a well-regarded university and had to contend with the tidal wave of the last five years. I'm in a very good place now and much of that has to do with peers lending a hand along the way. Unfortunately having the right connection easily trumps a higher education, articulate tongue and solid work ethic.

I won't reveal too much about how I weathered the Great Recession, but will leave you with a truism: capitalism does not reward honesty.

 

This is very true. Nor does it really reward hard work. It's such a game.

Hypestyle, maybe you should look for a free resume class (I'm sure your local library has one) and learn how to revamp your resume. Maybe also find someone to help you out with interviews (this is my weakest spot).

You have to start being proactive. It's not just about sending your resume out now - it's about calling and following up constantly. It's about that initial interview (usually done over the phone). There is so much competition, that you need to figure out how to stand out among the applicants.

Sign up at a career center and have someone help you with your resume and cover letters and interview skills. It can't hurt to try that.

 

Unfortunately this is so true.
I'm a hard working, well educated, loyal and honest employee.
I saw so many less skilled asskissers get promoted at my recent job.
It's one of the reasons I feel like a failure these days.
I know I have the skills and experience to be a leader, but I just never learned to be a lying asskisser to get to the top

 

But, that's what you have to do. There is this woman at work who has it made. I don't know how much money she's making (more than me), but she's friendly with the right people (management) and she basically can get away with murder.

She's constantly walking around the office and talking to people and complaining about how much work she has to do. She takes an unbelievable amount of time off.

Everyone notices it, but no one does a thing about it.

You have to play the game if you want to get anywhere in the business world. It's a sad reality.

 

I couldn't do it. I still have to face myself at the end of the day.

 

Yep, that's exactly my problem. I gotta be true to myself.

 

Me too. Which is why I'm currently stuck in a dead end job, without a pay increase, barely scraping by. :smt085

I'm not cut out for the business world. :smt012

 

I'm right there with you.... I was happiest when my "job" was my home and family. That's when I felt the most true to myself.

 

I will never be an asskisser. No matter what. I stayed home when I had my kids and didn't get back into the work world until my younger one began school. Best decision I ever made. Wouldn't trade those times for the best career.
Now I work, but I am fortunate to be able to work from home when I want to. I am home today, but seems like I am spending all my time right HERE!! Better get some work done.

 

I am going to recommend that you create a profile on LinkedIn...this is a business networking site...once you create your profile...then you need to start working the system by first seeking out people you know and then connecting with their contact list...many jobs never get posted and many people that get hired have the inside path...it is all about who you know...there is a section for jobs...you can research companies and follow them on your profile...be the first to see a new listing...seek out people in your own industry...every time you meet someone in your field then go online and add them to your connections

whatever you do...go all in...spend as much time working your linkedin every day as you can...put it on your to do list every day...