What is the interracial dating/marriage environment like where you are?

There are A LOT OF INTERRACIAL COUPLES IN PHOENIX, AZ

There are soooo many interracial couples in Phoenix, AZ!!! In fact, I believe it is easier for a black man to date interracial (white, hispanic, and asian), than it is to date an african american woman!

Salt Lake City, Utah is a black man's secret paradise!!!!

 

El Paso, San Antonio, and Austin are great places for IR dating!!!!

 

I am happy to say, where I live, South Florida, interracial couples are a common site. I have many interracial couple friends. That is one of the reasons I like living here. I could not live anywhere where everyone is alike.......

 

so what does Salt Lake City and Phoenix have going on in particular? If you're a (mature) hip-hop fan, a classic-rock fan, where are the places to hang out or meet up?

 

My area is very friendly towards IR relationships, probably because of the sheer number of them... strength in numbers people! It sort of makes me think that in a few years time one will be expected to date inter racially. Well, maybe not, but I'm an optimist.

 

I assume by the Chi, you mean Chicago. That's where I'm from, but I was in IR's there back in the 70's. Good God. It was anything but IR friendly. And getting chased by red necks with tire irons was the fun part. It was the middle class liberals who could say/do things to absolutely gut me.

Where is this area that is so heavily bi-racial now?

 

My main hot spots are Dunning and and Oak Park-River Forest. In the latter of these two, you will routinely see interracial couples and young mothers with mixed children. Also, very few people stare at me when I'm out with my Adewale. We actually get friendly smiles from people. Dunning is heavily Eastern European. There are a lot of beautiful Polish girls (and probably lots of Serbian girls too) but they aren't as likely to date inter-racially. It's a shame because they're really beautiful. Maybe that will change soon.

 

When I was single, I did not "hang out"! There was only one time I had a relationship with a woman I encountered a club.

Whether in Salt Lake City or Phoenix, if you smile and greet a woman in a NICE and FRIENDLY manner, you will eventually meet someone. Trust me on this! It is not rocket science!!!!

 

Doubtful.

 

Control Your Thinking and Environment!!!

As I look back on my social life and relationships with the opposite, I realize I was and I am responsible for the quality and quantity of people and relationships, regardless of environment. In the past, I was a very insecure person who permitted family and society to dictate and define my existence, in terms of race, culture, religion, academia, economic status, and relationships. Once I began to question, inquire, and seek answers with respect to my life, I was able to release all of my negative thinking and erroneous boundaries I was conditioned to exist in my life.

When I resided in the midwest and northern east coast, I had difficulty dating women outside of my race and ethnic background. During that period in my life, I lacked self-respect, confidence, HUMILITY, PATIENCE, personal direction, faith, unconditional love, unconditional forgiveness, etiquette, and style which would not have made me attractive to a city rat! When I did develop relationships with the opposite sex, the relationships were not fulfilling, thereby being a waste for both parties. Motivational speaker Brian Tracy said " The two biggest wastes of time in life are the wrong jobs and the wrong relationships." Additionally, my family and friends provided negative reinforcement, feedback, and support, during this period in my life.

When I moved to Phoenix, AZ, I had no problem dating women of any race; yet, the relationships never amounted to much, because I had not changed internally. By the way, I had two plastic surgeries, before I moved to Phoenix, AZ.

Once I began to develop unconditional love, unconditional forgiveness, self-respect, PATIENCE, HUMILITY, personal direction, etcetera, my relationships began to improve personally and professionally. At times, my wife complains I am too nice (If I can continue to get complaints like this from my wife, I will not change anything)! When I returned to visit the midwest and east coast, I had a lot of woman approach me; however, I was not interested in pursuing a relationship. While visiting the midwest and east coast, I was in environments that created the opportunity to meet and communicate with women. One thing is for sure, I did not socialize at clubs!!!!

Are some areas in the US and the world more challenging, in terms of interracial dating? Absolutely! Is life more challenging in some areas of the US and the world? Absolutely! We cannot change people, and many times we cannot change our environment; however, we can change our self-respect, love, forgiveness, confidence, DILIGENCE, CONSISTENCY, humility, and patience, while controlling what we do and with whom we socialize in positive manner, which will make us attractive in any situation

 

Chicago was very prejudice, during the 70's and 80's. Many black and hispanic people were prejudice, like their caucasian brothers and sisters. With that being stated, people did have interracial relationships. I was taught to consider race, in everything I do; therefore, I was destined to have bad experiences in Chicago. Also, I had some marvelous experiences with caucasians, while living in Chicago. Had I learned to control my thinking, physical conditioning, faith, and environment, my experiences in Chicago would have been more positive.

 

Without attempting to insult your intelligence, have you visited Salt Lake City, UT?

 

Visited Detroit, Michigan this weekend. For a city of 700,000 very segregated. You can just tell right off the bat blacks and whites don't really mingle with each other unless they have to there.

 

I had the same experience when I went there.

 

I hear different but like many places maybe it depends where you go. Ever city seems to have a hipster scene these days and the women in my experience are very open to black men.

 

It is becoming more and more common here in my area. My new neighbour is a mixed couple, white woman and black man and they have a mixed daughter who is simply gorgeous. Every day I see them I just go awwwwwwwwwww.... They are one happy mixed family.

I hope it continues to grow here.

 

so now you know what I'm going through here, lol

Detroit's downtown core and its "midtown" (really, a zone where two colleges and 2 vast hospital campuses exist) have more general diversity among residents/workers/students, however, most folks except a few are off into their own semi-racial zones.. if there's a minority among a group of whites, it's often someone asian. The "gentrification" here is really in an embryonic stage compared to NYC or Chicago. Meanwhile, most of Detroit proper's outlying neighborhoods are overwhelmingly black (95%+) with the exception of about 30% Latino southwest Detroit.. Hamtramck, a nominal suburb that is actually surrounded by Detroit, was predominantly Polish/white for decades http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hamtramck,_Michigan.
A pocket of Detroit's near northeast side has Iraqi/Chaldean residents, but Detroit's Arab diaspora is scattered throughout the metropolitan area (the biggest concentration in the suburb of Dearborn-- ironically, the man who was mayor there for 36 years [he died in 1982] was an avowed segregationist). Since the civil-rights conflicts of the 60s, Detroit's white population largely fled, and for the most part hasn't come back at all.

http://krovfm.com/detroit-named-americas-most-segregated-city/

 

Damn I feel sorry for you because y'all got some bad ass white women there! The white chicks weren't giving me any type of play when there, black folks were very friendly tho.

 

Yesterday on YouTube, I saw a segment of The Sopranos where Tony Soprano vehemently objected to his daughter (Meadow Soprano) dating or seeing an African American male. After I viewed the aforementioned, I realized when a women or man is financial dependent or has a strong emotional bond to her or his family, the more unlikely he or she be in conflict with her or his family. When this situation is true, a 'better financial, more security, and a greater emotional offer must be presented', in order to break the financial dependence and strong emotional bond.

For example, a 'Meadow Soprano' may date an African American male, if she were financially independent and lived alone. If a 'Meadow Soprano' is dependent on her family, an African American male would have to present her with an "offer she can't refuse", in terms of incredible financial stability, emotional stability, confidence, and a means to protect himself and 'Meadow' from her mob father.

This may appear materialistic and "gold digging"; however, many women have been like this for centuries.