Fortysomething...and then some

Demographic check! I am curious as to how many folks on this board are 40 or over. Not that 40 is old at all, in fact, 40 is the new 30, I'm told.

Not asking for specific ages, I just would like to know who else, like me, has their 39th birthday as a (distant?) memory.

Also, how do you feel? Are you still athletic? Are you still virile? Do you still go out or are you a homebody? Does the opposite sex still find you attractive? More attractive than ever before?

For many, it is 40 or later when many things are lining up: earnings, love-life, assets, family, etc.

 

I'm 43. My career, finances and personal life were really on track in my 20s-30s and kind of fell off the rails at 38-39, with separation and subsequent divorce and ongoing child custody battles. Slowly trying to get things back on track.

Law school is part of a career shift for the second stage of my professional life. Dating life is okay, just wish I had the money I was earning 10 years ago, because I do a whole lot more of it with that coin. The one good thing is that as I age, I find myself caring far less about social life than I ever did. Fewer distractions.

 

Just as you think you have them all lined up and marching as a team,... you look back and they are kicking back out of step.......There is no rest for the fearless leader,...... It seems you have to stay on top of everthing.....

 

Glad you're back on the upswing, you're still young in the grand scheme of things.

I agree--there is no auto-pilot for these things

 

I realize I am breaking the mold; I will be 39 this year but felt like responding anyway

I started all over at 36 w the relationship part of my life...newly divorced w 3 kids. So finances...I'm in the same boat as Orejón, getting myself back reestablished. I have an incredible guy I have been dating, but I do enjoy going out w my gfs and also my guy from time to time. Very busy and successful w business, and have fallen off a little in the active dept, but getting better. I believe I have aged very well, also. Men of all ages seem more attracted to me than ever before. Always give myself a little pat on the back when a younger man hits on me . Feels good.

 

Awesome x 2

 

When I passed the fourty line, I've first had problems. Of course,the body changed,suddenly you - or better said I put on some weight I was never used. But when I look at pics of mine ten yrs ago, I see Twiggy (a hungry Girl- not nice at all) today. And it seems that the men around me prefer, how I look today more than my whole life as a "Miss". yes, I see myself as a "Mrs", I feel like a person that has the right to be respected. I see a lot of things much more relaxed, I developed a basically self-confidence.

Family - you change the position from a Kid to a parent and later to one of the older family members, what can be shocking. Slowly you slip into responsibility for other family members, the people you were used to rely on- die

I think that no age is easy, but I feel much better today than when I was in my 20's or 30's

 

If you take reasonable care of yourself, there are men out there who will appreciate a woman in her forties and beyond like one appreciates a fine wine. As with a wine lover though, the palate has to be sophisticated enough to appreciate the special aroma and flavor, and to understand it's significance.

Feeling better, feeling healthy. Nothing to take for granted, right? It feels good to feel good.

 

Sounds like you're getting better and stronger each day, Cherok33. Keep it up! ;-)

 

Having turned 48 on the 12th of this month, my mind is more focused on moving forward the best way I can.

 

thanks for making me feel wet behind the ears yall. 31 here

 

*pinches cheeks*

 

Awww still a youngin

 

Sheesh. I could be your mother. :smt086

 

I will be 42 in November but don't feel a day over 24.

Recently went back to school to study for my bachelor in health science so I can work in the nutrition field. Along with studying full time, I have 2 side businesses to bring in the money and am a single mum. Needless to say, I have far more energy now than I did when I was younger.

Love life is non existent, there was someone recently but that didnt pan out. My focus is on my kids, businesses and study and my trip to LA in November to see FG :smt050

 

Tremendous that you have gone back to school...obviously your mind is fresh and you have plenty of confidence! Your little ones must be bursting with pride over your balance of studies and business. Plus you're hot as hell, but I've known for a while now that Aussie men are wack. It's like a treasure-trove of fine women down there.

 

:freehug:

yep, dont need to take pills yet.

:smt058

 

I'll turn 48 in September. I feel great. About 2.5 years ago, for the first time I got not-so-good results of an annual physical. I knew I was overweight, but I had really started letting myself go. I immediately started exercising regularly, eating better, and lost 32 lbs. I'm 5'9" and I'm at 175lbs, feeling great, energetic, and loving the new me.

Sadly, I'm about to be divorced, but I recently started seeing a very nice WW (my first), and hopefully it'll blossom into something special.

 

Thanks shnozzie, though I think the kids couldn't give a rats about my balancing acts :smt050

And you're spot on about Aussie men, they're hopeless!!

 

Congratulations on getting fit, that physical exam may be the best thing that ever happened to you. I know a lot of divorced people who are my age. Like you they have regrets, but also an exciting news lease on life!