Kerry Washington Marries Black...

Im not sure which post you are referring to. I thought all the posts were rebuking the fact that someone was trying to make a negative point of her marrying a BM.

did i miss something stupid? anyway it was stupid to put it up anyway because it makes it seems she lowered herself marrying a BM

 

Lol, you would be the only one to take this thread seriously.

 

gotcha

 

is she constantly swapping spittle with the guy in "scandal"?

then no, no "wifeing" her for me.

All women have previous boyfriends, but who wants to have to watch it??

Her loss, of course :mrgreen:

plus, no - i don't trust black women (or any women) who are especially into white guys other than maybe white women

why? all the ones I see seem to be operating out of some nasty complex. I remember one thread on a singles board in which the question was are hispanic women into white guys. The lead chick says yes, and then adds that she's never been into black guys (no mention of other guys, even hispanic guys :mrgreen that's the mindset

Now that could be just online "theater", drama, but as often as I've had any insight into nonwhite women/white male relations, I've observed they used blacks as an out group, black men in particular. It's almost as if they're trying to sell themselves to the guy via anti-black racism.

You see that a lot. Zimmerman's mother is a good example, but they come in asian, black, latin, whatever.

(Strangely enough, the woman in the aforementioned thread who was most anti- whiteguy, based on her experiences of them supposed thinking they're on like "a latin safari", was a women who looked basically like a spaniard from spain. No point to make here, just observing..)

And of course white guys like to flaunt how stupid some chicks will be for phantom reward of "whiteness" and use them in that vain. For example, in one thread I read over at racist site(about paul ryan having dated a black woman) one of the stormfronters confides that he likes to date "light skinned" attractive black women because it pisses black men off. And living around dominicans, if you see a white guy walking with a light-skinned dominican girl, you can bet he's going to give you the "eye" if you know what I mean. I've seen fools pull that stuff with asian girls too, and read accounts by asian guys online writing about white guy antics when they're out with asian girls..

Not extrapolating from just a few experiences, but from the consistency of the experiences, plenty of them enough to see the pattern.

Not only that, but the women are often superhoes. Now don't get me wrong, who doesn't like a ho? But no sir, I don't like "psyche" hos. Like if you're watching a porno, and it's clear there's something seriously wrong with the girl.... Like you wonder what the fuck happened to her to bring her to where she's doing what she's doing. That's a "psyche" ho. You know? Not sure I'm expressing myself clearly but...

All told, it's like they're trying to fuck their way into a new self image... Robin (howard stern's sidekick) seemed to have this problem, sit around laughing with a room full of white guys making nigger jokes. :roll: And is known to for being "into" white guys. Like that.

There were no less than two immigrant (but american raised) hispanic women at my last job who slept with at least 9 of the white guys at the company between them. One was dominican, the other south american. With the guys walking around the job with them after "break ups". white collar professionals. One fool got engaged to one of the chicks, then broke it off and remained at the job for a good while. I'm pretty sure I coulda fucked them both too, but naaahh.

I don't trust chicks who will tell you flat out they're into black guys either. Here online, it's different because it's a discussion group for discussing. But I've had women tell me that flat out to my face a couple times and it was a little bit of a turn off. I mean, if it's so, I'd know soon enough. Or i could presume it. Plus that doesn't mean anything to me. Not quite sure why, but for some reason, its kinda a net negative for her to come out with it like that, like it's some kind of selling point. The best white chick I've ever been involved with said no such thing....

Maybe I'm picky? but anywayI'm more into the female and what she's coming with, than her being into any particular kind of guy

And yes, I've had a black girlfriend whose ex was white. She mentioned it once, and I promptly forgot about it for years, :mrgreen: so please don't tell me I'm "racist" just because I'm aware of how "racism" works on people and cultures

Well, okay, since you stayed with me to this point I'll tell you a little story about the last black woman I dated. It was around the turn of the year. Older than me, but still looked pretty good, and seemed like she might be fun to hang around, plus when we first met she was trying to paint all kinds of nasty sexual pictures in my head. That was her approach. I like that approach. Seemed like a nice girl, with a little dirt under her nails. Nobody's going to say no to that.

She would do stupid little stuff, like trying to get me to buy her things. Asked me to buy her a little candy at the counter of home depot one time, I bought it. Thought it was cute a little, cause she seemed a little like a ho, hard to explain. Maybe I'm just lecherous, but maybe you know what I mean. Okay, to the point -- so she tried to put on the spot like that at a jamaican take out place one time, and of course I played it well. No go. Just light-hearted stuff, she knew she was paying for her stuff we stopped in there for (I had given her a lift), but hey, she gave it a shot...

this particular incident was after dropping hints for a while (probably a week or two of dating) that her previous involvement was a white guy (by emphasizing the neighborhood in which he lived). Anyway, on the way back to the car, she says "you know what the difference between white guys and black guys is? The white guy would've paid for my food." (Now, is that a good thing? :mrgreen heheheheh I laughed and said, "well there are plenty of white guys around."

Now our "relationship" (and trying to get our schedules to match) was approaching 3 weeks, and in the meanwhile she also comes out about her friend, who supposedly is dating a white guy and doesn't like black men. So it's becoming a theme. In the meanwhile, I never call her and she's calling me like 4 times a day. Early morning, then as she's walking from one of her job locations to another each day, as part of what she does, then in the evening, usually a couple times. She's asking: "well how come you never call me?"

Eventually, it just peters out because I'm not investing anything in this chick. I was waiting to crawl up in that ass, but on the other hand she wasn't getting much play out of me. I mean, when she would call, I would sweet talk her, just to see how long she's going to continue to call, and if I had the chance, like I said I'd crawl up in her tail, but I wasn't investing anything into getting with her

For one, you can't think you gain any leverage with me by comparing me to a former boyfriend, or especially by using the "race" thing.:mrgreen: Women operate in weird ways. She seemed to think that such a thing would give her some sort of leverage (as best as I can read that), when in reality thinking that way lost her all leverage with me. I actually wonder if that's a black girl thing now, what with stuff like "scandal" and the sentiments you see expressed online.

I also wonder how she would've reacted if it were vice-versa? Gotta wonder about that, because she honestly seemed to think that the "specter" of the white man would gain her some leverage or other (?), but if it were vice-versa (me comparing her to white girls) I would think that such a thing wouldn't gain me much leverage... (?)

I doubt you can manipulate black men with the "specter" of white men. That's not the way it works. I mean, there's a reason anti-black male-ism is a quick way to sell yourself to so many white guys...

For me it was just a red flag, so no I wasn't investing any energy in that chick. Didn't crawl up that ass either, but it's prolly for the better. It's like when I found myself being treated rudely by the cashier at kfc - it dawned on me, kfc is nasty. (haven't eaten it since) So maybe it's better I didn't get with her.

So anyway, that's your reward for reading this shit. No you cannot have your five minutes back. :mrgreen:

 

First and foremost, I love medullaslashin story time (although that was a lot to read in your fake southern accent)! Your stories are a little escape from the reality of my hectic life, so thank you :smt003

The ho comment...hilarious. No matter what guys say...we all know they're a sucker for a pretty ho at times!

About not trusting chicks who flat out say they're into black guys...I can understand your point, but I frequently get the reverse...black men flat out asking me if I "usually date black guys". I get this question more than one would think and it makes me curious as to why they care? Regardless, I answer them. My preference is not something I bring up to random bm that I meet though

There's this guy I've been talking to for a little bit, and that was actually one of the first things he asked me..."are you usually into black dudes". He's never dated a ww, so I guess he was trying to gauge my interest, maybe? Either way, in a perfect world race wouldn't be an issue when discussing attraction. As much as I see it get brought up though irl, clearly we're not living in that perfect world!

 

Thank you cutie. My dirty lil secret is I love when ppl compliment my writing , so we fit together like a glove on hand. :mrgreen:

(Now I'll prolly never get any more compliments though):-|

a serenade for you :smt058 :

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I don't understand that, bcs if they're not the right guy their being black certainly isn't going to get them over. They gotta know that

 

Awww I dig the serenade love lol! You're a cutie pie! :smt060

You keep writing like you do, and the compliments will keep coming

Exactly

 

Wow! A Medulla novella! Don't have time to read now, but will definitely come back! :smt023 You always have good stuff to say!

 

Ugh. Pop goes my happy bubble....:smt011

 

This happens sooo often. At the end of the day, some people (not speaking of medulla, just speaking to my experience) just want to know they could still have her if they wanted to. It's more about padding their ego and much less about actually getting the girl. :smt120 And unfortunately some women are naive enough to fall for it. Some people are so eager for love they'll believe almost anything just because it makes them feel special at that moment.

 

And the problem with this is, when you meet a decent guy, you've had so many of the BS'ers and game players (that do the kind of stuff as above), that you're already jaded and cynical. I don't have time for silly games, and frankly, guys my age should be past that nonsense. I don't see the point of playing mind games or messing with someone's heart.

 

Exactly. Luckily though there are men out there who love us enough to break down those barriers. It comes down to self preservation, so I think it's completely normal to become jaded and cynical. At the same time I think we owe it to ourselves and our future partners to give a clean slate when looking for love. I'm not saying be naive and love blindly, but be open to the idea that he might just be different than the rest!

 

Jaded and cynical? Thats not fun.

 

You know what? I worked very hard to wipe the slate clean after my divorce. I did nothing vengeful, I worked through the pain, forgave and remained optimistic for many years, that there are still great guys out there (and ones who understand fidelity). But since I put myself online and started dating again, it's a battle to maintain that attitude. And I've seen two of my best friends go through the same thing. Now, one of them can play some silly games herself - I don't mean being deceptive. She's just extremely picky. Won't be spontaneous and flow sometimes, where I will if it feels right.

Jaded and cynical is NOT fun, I agree. But I didn't get there by myself....

 

Totally understand what you are saying, but when you are short on free time the idea of spending it with someone thats cynical seems quite rough. I just hope things start looking better for you. Mabe it would help to just enjoy the company of someone new, one day at a time. idk

 

I agree. And I'm probably making it sound worse than it/I am. I'm not a snarling bitch, lol. I love to laugh, talk, flirt and have fun. But sometimes, you never know if what you're getting back is real or just another game.

 

Just enjoy it for what it is anyway. Its true that you never know thats why you enjoy their company without taking them seriously. Thats what I always told my sister, of course it was in one ear and out of the other. lol

 

Thanks Tam