Online Dating????

what was his reason?

 

Sorry that happened to you Huntress. He is one chicken livered dude to stood you up after you have prepared yourself for your date. Hope he gives a excuse but, he will mostly give you more lies.

 

:-(. Fuck em.

 

Someone stood you up? He is probably gay or married…his loss.





chesbaygrl7
Its ok to be bitter. people suck in general. I can’t say that there is someone out there for you like others on here, because I don’t even believe that for myself. All I can say is you seem to have a healthy attitude about it, not making it affect your worth/self esteem. Perhaps use this single down time to do things in life you always wanted to do? Travel, learn new languages, write books….lol…maybe give the casual thing a try….its good experience…you will be an expert on bullshit and who is worth getting to know on a deeper level…just a thought

 

I think there is a lot of truth in this sentence, I like casual dating and after some time maybe it is more or not, but both is fine for me

 

Not true. I really wish people would get out of the habit of saying that. You are people to my friend.

 

Tell him my best wishes, but he is an ignorant idiot:smt018

 

The man is an obvious tosspot

 

Do you not agree that people suck?

 

Not at all. Most people are lost and scared just trying to figure out this mean and unforgiving world. Most of us have forgotten or have yet to realize all we have is each other. No one makes it alone.

 

I agree....but those lost and scarred souls need to NOT date until they either heal from prayer, counseling, or some other shit OR until they figure themselves out. The pain that they cause only comes around full circle….jerk turns nice woman in to jezebel..jezebel turns nice guy in to dick fuck/fuck face…dick fuck/fuck face turns little ms innocent into a raging bitch….and so on…..

Trust me I know.lol….I used to be a nice guy

 

I'm going to be incredible honest. When you are looking through sites like okcupid, It is like looking for a needle in a haystack to put it nicely. If you expand your look then you will have to deal with a long distance relationship. just a tough one in my opinion. You should go out and explore. Worst case you see new things.

 

No one can turn anyone into anything, they are bringing something out of you that was already there, real talk.

 

Why go the "online" route? Why not meet people in social areas? (Libraries, stores, malls, bars, churches, schools, ect). It would eliminate the picture menipulation problems. My 3 cents.

 

And I bet you're still a nice guy. Maybe your expectations are a little more tempered but still a nice guy. And our expectations of others should be tempered since we have no right to place our hopes on their shoulders. I take things one day at a time and don't do anything I know I can't deal with later if things go south. So that means no paying for dates over 30 bucks until a clear commitment is established. No agreeing to things I know I don't want to do in hopes of getting laid. No introducing people to or being introduced to loved ones until a clear connection has been established. It cuts out a lot of the resentment of dating and feelings of unfulfilled potential. Just take it all day by day and a step at a time. I've been with my chick for a year and half and this is longest I have ever been consistently happy with anyone and I notice the key to our happiness together is no big plans, no big expectations. Just enjoying each other each day and always knowing that anytime we can walk away but choose not to.

 

Then explore other sites or try a new approach. If you're hunting for food and you can't catch your prey you either go to new hunting grounds or try different tactics right?

 

Agree and disagree…..we are all influenced by our environment. I do agree that no one can MAKE you become something that was not already in you……but they can make you lose faith and become less optimistic about intangible things esp. for example…no woman made me a bad boy type…that’s just not in me…But my experience has left me feeling like I will likely be single/childless forever… (Which is fine by me)….people can’t change who you are, but they can change perception

 

motherfucka why is your opinion worth 3 cents and mine only 2? lol
I get why people do online dating. It's easier and more convenient than going out but I agree if you're not getting what you want trying a certain thing then try new things.

 

here is the thing about online dating...esp for men since we don’t have to worry about safety as much as women…..

It doesn’t matter….we can go online, or to church, or library, or the gym, or the bar/club, or wherever…..online is just a different way of meeting someone…the initial meeting is usually not the person but a representative of that person…best cloths, best smile, best traits, etc. I have used all avenues of meeting someone….some are success some are failures…and some of the shit is just plain hilarious but at the end of the day its all the same. Online just has this bad stigma because it means your actually “looking”