If someone made moves on your partner, would you step in?

Curious if you would tell them to back off? (or have done so before)...or say nothing, hoping that your partner would?

Would you go as far as this fed-up wife did?

A long time ago, I used to say nothing, but since then, and in my time, I have let some women know to "chill!"

 

yes and no.

in the beginning yur partner should do the checking. if the other person insist on pursuing then you step in and put the brakes on it.

the wife in the article did the rite thang.

 

Oh I like this!

 

this is how bliss gets down

 

Let the spouse handle it. I would only step in if they on some disrespectful shit.

 

LMAO! Hardly. No need, not with this mouth.

I think the wife should have just blasted this on FB! lol....

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LOL. Im the real deal ma'am

 

Interesting. Clearly it's not disrespectful if the pursuer doesn't know their target's status, but I would think if they knew and still went after your significant other/spouse, then the disrespect is flouting.
So I think it's more powerful coming from the other spouse to tell them to back off.

But IDK, maybe that's just a woman's thinking...we tend to be able to 'speak it out' more. A man stepping in, it might physically escalate between both men.

 

That shit happened on date one and I made out with her in front of dude. That put the breaks on everything lol.

 

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As for the original question...this happened with my ex husband and he was the one to tell her to back off. I think if I had been the one to approach her, she would've seen it as a competition...something that would've made her want to be persistent. Instead, it came from him and she backed down (she knew he was married).

When the roles were reversed, my ex husband never let me handle it. He was real quick to make it known that I was married (even when guys were iust being friendly-flirty). Almost embarrassing at times, but that was just him. We were together forever and when I'd get upset (because he made a scene with some dude) he'd always tell me "it's not that I don't trust you, it's that I don't trust him". Uh huh.

 

In the beginning, I let him handle the situation the same way I would handle it if the rolls were reversed. If the situation isn't resolved, I will take matters into my own hands and let my man know I will gladly handle things if he can't step up to check ol' girl... he probably won't like it though.

 

No.

I'd wait to see how she'd react.

 

im not overly impressed what they do in my face....its whats going on behind my back is what is important

 

so true!

I mean ultimately, it boils down to whether or not you trust the person. I'm really not trying to waste my time and energy chasing after my dude. If he wants to be with someone else, I can't do anything about it. But if it happens in front of me, oh I am definitely checking someone.

 

Agreed. In the end it comes down to trust. I shouldn't have to "check" anyone as I expect and trust that my man is doing that. I shouldn't have to step in and do it for him.

 

exactly...you cant control no one but yourself

 

exactly

 

If i were married, i would step in real quick. If it is a bf/gf thang i would leave that to her.

 

words of a smart man!

 

Ay man we need to go out an d get some drinks and meet some new people together. No homosexual.

Disrespect is not tolerated.

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